[TaintedGoth1]

My T was wanting me to give my dad a letter that I had written...but tonight we were in the truck coming home from town and talking about this thing or that thing...then onto the subject of how he's always putting women down, etc. Well he said how I do it to men (yeah I'm guilty) and I told him "no, I won't be nice when talking about men who have r@ped me, strangled me, and abused me" and then he said women haven't been nice to him (they've either cheated on him or used him to buy their beer but beyond that nothing serious) and then I pulled the trump card...the thing that is the kicker with him. I said "well at least I don't give them excuses for doing it!" Wow...he shut up real quick and has been giving me the silent treatment ever since.

So it's all out...everything about how he's always made excuses for my abusers...and he knows he can't say anything about it. One thing about my dad--he hates when people are honest and direct with him about things. And when they make him responsible for his own behavior he can't stand it. He can't stand someone revealing his hurtful behavior. But it had to be done.

Funny but I feel a lot better now that it's all out. I feel like I've made a step in the right direction, regardless of his reaction.

[sabby]

((((((((((((((( Tainted ))))))))))))))))

Congrats on speaking your mind.....for telling it like it is. I'm so glad you feel better for getting it off your chest. Maybe your dad's silence is a good thing for the moment.....maybe he will take it in and think about what you said.....taking it to heart. I truly hope that is what he is doing.


sabby

[TaintedGoth1]

Well he'll want to sweep it all under the rug, so to speak. So he'll never say a word about it really.

[KathyM]

Maybe not, but your timing was right and it sounds like he took it to heart. What he does with it is his call, but that was very courageous of you. I'm glad you were able to get that off your chest.