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Can't really say very well how I'm feeling. Just really, really missing my best friend. I am in love with him, and he married someone else. Doesn't even know I still love him. And I'm just missing him so much tonight.

Thanks for reading,
Angela

Oh, Angela...

Big safe ((((Hugs)))) to you tonight.

I'm so sorry for the pain you're going through

Take Care.
Kimberly

{{{{{{{Angela}}}}}}}}

I'm sorry you had such a rough night. I know it doesn't feel this way right now, but I see how caring and helpful and supportive you are here, and I just know that your loneliness will not last long. You deserve someone who loves you and is in love with you...and that man is out there, I'm sure of it.

*hugs*
Jo

I hope you will find comfort in these thoughts: (1) you ache because you have known what love is. Some people never open their hearts enough to experience this. The nature of love is to be vulnerable; it is ONLY those we care about most who can hurt us the most. (2) There is an old saying about love meaning that you care enough to set free the one you love (and if it is truly yours, it will come back to you.) You have had the courage to set your love free. It doesn't feel good now, but hopefully someday you will recognize that this is a mature, selfless kind of love and be proud of yourself.

It's okay if you go through your whole life loving this man -- so long as you don't DO manipulative things to interfere with his marriage and his love for another. The whole "tragic romance" kind of nobility.

When I was a young woman, I and a women who has been my friend for 30 years, worked for a female newspaper editor. My friend was hopelessly in love with a handsome Greek shipping heir, a playboy who loved her and left her. She was marrying another, and confessed to our boss that she still had feelings for the shipping heir. Our editor -- who was in her 60s -- had raised a bunch of kids, had grandkids, had buried her hub after decades together -- said there was such a man in her life, too. The Hopeless Love. The One You Never Forget. My mom -- whose in her 80s -- recently felt called upon to make such a confessional to me about a man she'd really loved in her youth, who wasn't my dad. Why I'll never know. Go figure. And of course, there's the Julia Roberts' film, My Best Friend. Perhaps time for a trip to Blockbuster and some chocolate.

Eventually, I came to have my Grand Love. And love him still after 30 years, though he's told me in no uncertain terms not to contact him in any way. Like I was a stalker or something.

Point being, again -- It's OKAY to love this man madly forever. AND, when you are ready, it's okay to move on and have a good life with someone else.

This can't relieve your pain, Angela, but lots of other women have been there through the ages.

<font color="purple">((((((((Angela)))))))))</font>

Angela,
Knowing your not alone can help, w'ere here for you.
Someday you may look back and find this was for the best, I 've been married for 28 yrs. to a man that has become my best friend, my first true love went off with someone who he said was better suited for him. My second love beat me and hurt me because (as he said) I needed to learn a love/hate relationship. I 'am better off now.
(((((((hugs)))))))
Angie

Thanks everybody. I've just been to hell and back this month and I'm missing him so much. He is the person I would be calling now, if he hadn't gotten married.



Angela

Anglea........I'm sorry that you're hurting. I, too, went through something similiar when I was in my 20s. I met the love of my life BUT we were both married to someone else. We talked it over and he left the state with his family. He died 8 years later and I still think about him and how he would deal with things now. I guess he's like a guardian angel on my shoulder.....you can think of your friend like that also. I agree that it is okay to continue loving someone, even if they are with someone else. We had contact occasionally throughout the years and his partners called me when he died and tried to get me to go to the funeral.(They found a letter in his wallet that I had written to him in 1967.) But I didn't want to hurt his family by showing up. I don't think they knew about me, but I knew it would cause questions.......one day soon, I'm going to visit his grave, in Kansas, and tell him about my life, up to now. He died in 1975 of a brain tumor. I still can laugh and cry about things he said to me and do truly know that he was the love of my life. xoxoxoxoxoxo to you, Pat

I'm so sorry that you hurt and that you miss him. Like the others have told you, it is okay to have your feelings. This is a loss, and you have to grieve it just like any other, unfortunately. Having so much grief all piled on top one thing on another like you have recently just is no fun at all. But I know that you can make it through this. I'm here if there is anything I can do to help.

Love,
Wendy

((((((((Angela)))))))))

It is so hard to get some someone you love but I am sure you will get through this. Sadly I have found at times it is hard to have friendship with a man cos one or the toehr can end up fancying the other and then it all goes wrong. You just need time and the support that is offered here.