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Aug 06, 2008, 07:03 PM
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Hate is such a strong and ugly word. But it is now in my every day life. I no longer have a sibling. He can go to f'in hell.
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Aug 06, 2008, 07:46 PM
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(((((chalm)))))))))))))))
want to talk? I am here for you what happened hon? |
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Aug 06, 2008, 07:48 PM
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Hugs and healing prayers for you Chalmette-Angel
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Aug 06, 2008, 07:54 PM
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((((((((((((( chalmette )))))))))))))))
 
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Aug 07, 2008, 09:59 AM
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Hi Chalmette -- I understand. This is an ancient story -- think Cain and Abel.
My relationship with my brother has gone through many phases. My mother is in her 80s, and it breaks her heart when we don't talk to each other. So we do the best we can with that. We keep our distance, but I think we care about each other. We push each other's buttons without meaning to so. What's going on right now? Would you like to share more.
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Aug 07, 2008, 10:38 AM
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What i did in my brothers life or even my parents never met anyones expectations. This has drawn the line with me as far as my brother.
A month ago when we were there visiting, i was using their computer. My nephew was over my shoulder watching me. I went up to history and hit clear since i did not want to leave my business on their computer. My nephew asked what i was doing, so i told him. I get a phone call from my brother yesterday, who has all of them on speaker phone. He makes my nephew get on the phone. He is crying and tells me that he's in trouble cause he's been going into history and clearing where he goes. He said they are making him write 5,000 times 'to not listen to a %#@&#! word that i tell him or watch a %#@&#! thing i show him'. Then my brother gets on the phone and starts cursing me out telling me his usual, that i corrupted his sons life and ruined any future for him. The thing is, i raised his son from the time he was born, because my brother and my nephews mother were to busy caring more about their drugs than their own son. And that life of his continued till this past Christmas. But since i've ruined my nephews life, my brother said i am not welcome there and my nephew is not allowed to see me until he turns 18 and it is his choice. He said any card, phone call, anyway i try to contact him will not be allowed and will not get to him. And then he says he will make sure that he never wants to see me again. Thats what happened. I'm sick of my brothers , i'm so macho, and bulliness. He's written out of my life for good.
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Aug 07, 2008, 11:24 AM
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Chal you did nothing wrong. Hopefully, he will cool off and allow you too see a boy who I know is very dear to you. Im so sorry this has happened. *big hugs*
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Aug 07, 2008, 01:29 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((Chal))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Thinking of you hon. You didn't deserve that, I am so sorry he is treating you so badly. I'm sure he will calm down and remember everything you have done for him .... tc, love, Kerry xoxoxoxoxooxoxo |
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Aug 07, 2008, 02:10 PM
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I really dont think this will change. Last month when i went there my brother and his fiance' made sure that each day they made me feel like %#@&#!. They didnt allow my nephew to go off with us unless one of them was with us. They've become control freaks and do not allow my nephew to have any contact in any of his interests. Since he was young he's wanted nothing more than to be a robotic scientist. Well they have made sure that will not happen. I hope when he does turn 18 and leaves the hell he is in, he gets to follow his dream.
As far as him remembering what i went through trying to find him after Katrina. And the trip that was taken to get him in Oklahoma to bring him back to us. He's said he couldnt care less.
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Aug 07, 2008, 02:32 PM
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(((((((((((( chalm )))))))))))))
I'm sorry things have digressed to this point. I can only imagine how painful it is for you and your nephew. One thing I do know is this....children remember not only the difficulties but the kindness and love they were shown throughout their lives. Deep inside his mind and heart he knows who was there for him and the good you taught him. I pray he is able to hold onto that through the coming years and it will help define him as a man. sabby |
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Aug 07, 2008, 10:01 PM
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Thank you Sabby, i really appreciate that. All i ever wanted for him is to grow up and become the best man that he can be. And do what he enjoys.
You said it.
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Aug 07, 2008, 11:31 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((( Chal ))))))))))))))))))))))))
How absolutely horrible. I got so angry reading that, and I'm so sorry for you and your nephew. There's absolutely nothing right about what they've done and are doing to you and that poor boy. You two will be in my meditations and prayers. I'm just so sorry... KD
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Aug 08, 2008, 06:58 AM
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Kimmy and the rest of ya'll thank you. Your support does help me alot.
chalmette
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So often we dwell on the things that seem impossible rather than on the things that are possible. So often we are depressed by what remains to be done and forget to be thankful for all that has been done.--Marian Wright Edelman |
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Aug 08, 2008, 11:43 AM
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I am so sorry that is happening to you. Obviously, you didn't tell your nephew to do any such thing. It's a shame, Chalmette, and it must be so painful.
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