Prayers Needed - email from my daughter to Jerry

If I haven't already told you, Virginia, my mother in law has breast cancer. On Friday, she will be getting a double masectomy. Here is an email from her regarding her surgery.
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I will go in for surgery Friday, Aug. 15. Scheduled at 9:30 am, have to be there at 7:30am. I will be at Feather River Hospital in Paradise and will come home Saturday. Besides praying for me, please pray for the surgeon, Dr. Ludington, a wonderful Christian. and Ted, who is having a hard time with this. I know God has me in His hands. Mike, a wonderful Christian brother gave me the picture of his kids, age 2 and 4, jumping in the pool knowing he would catch them and how I need that child-like faith to jump into my Father's arms, trusting him and knowing I am safe in his arms, no matter what! That is where I am.

Love, Gini

Please pray for my daughter and her family, too.
EDIT: Ted is Virginia's husband. Just talked to youngest who talked to his sister last night. It appears that my daughter will be the one doing all the caregiving. She was elected to care for Virginia after the last surgery.

Maybe God will answer more than one prayer here. My daughter told my youngest son that the in-law family is so different than "ours". We close ranks when a family member is in need. They don't. Maybe my daughter will start to realize that I'm not the wicked witch she makes me out to be.

you got it Tomi!! I'll be keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers!!

everyone deserves prayers...
sending mine to her
may she make it threw the surgery
and heal as fast as she can

Father God, We release our will in favor of yours, knowing that your will for us is the better thing...for to live is Christ and to die is gain, either way you are exalted. even so, hear our plea, that Virginia would be healed completely and that her family would be drawn to you in this time of trial, that it might be according to your purpose and your will, we praise you God and ask these things in the holy name of Jesus,

Amen

Thanks, you guys. I hardly know the woman, but if it's important to my daughter, it's important to me.

prayers being said

Thanks, Kathy!

my prayers to you your daughter and her mother in law. hon it sounds like if she sent your husband an email the doors are beginning to open. I pray for that too.

Prays and good thoughts going out!

((((((((((((((( tomi & family )))))))))))))))


sabby

((((((tomi and family))))

Thoughts and prayers going up for you and for the doctors. May all go well and may you keep your eyes on Him.



darkpurplesecrets

Be, she's always kept in touch with Jerry. It's not new, but the remark that she made about our family is new. She has rejected everything she learned while growing up except her religion and her faith in God.

My hopes always go up at times like these. You never know what will be the catalist for a new beginnin. Right now, Virigina is the focus of this family's prayers. She's got to be terrified! She has a slow growing cance on one breast and a very aggresive one on the other breast.

The few times I met Virginia's husband, he seemed kinda wimpy. I feel for him, too, not to mention my son-in-law. He and I always liked and respected each other.

It's all in God's hands. This is one time I know there is absolutely nothing I can do, but God can!

Thanks for your prayers, Hon.

{{{{{{{{{{Sabby}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Thanks, Hon. I'll be scheduling a mammogram myself, now.

All of you women who haven't had one in the last year, PLEASE get one!

you know hon a friend of mine a couple of years younger than me just found out she has breast cancer. not sure when they are doing her surgery just yet but it should be soon. it is so scarey!

Good for you (((((((((( Tomi ))))))))))) I have to do the same for myself this year. Since I don't have health insurance, we have a statewide group that gives them to those who qualify for free. I have the number right here in my notebook....guess I'll make the phone call tomorrow! Thanks for the reminder


sabby

i am praying...lyn

Muffy, did I miss something? You're statement "everyone deserves prayers" has me confused. Did I miss a judgemental statement somewhere that you are correcting or is it because Virginia is a MIL that automatically makes her wicked? LOL

To me, it's not a matter of Deserving but of Needing. I'm sorry. I'm confused by your meaning.

DPS, thank you so much for your prayers. I'll have my husband pass along your caring comment.

Thanks, Lyn.

Dear September Morn:

Sending you many prayers and much love.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Holmes}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

From Karla, my daughter:
Anyway, she is doing ok. Surgery was on Friday and she went home on Saturday evening. She's not sleeping well because she isn't a back sleeper and right now that's the only way she can sleep. Just saw her tonight. She was emotional. She tried to change her bandages earlier today and after she started peeling the bandage back she said she just lost it. She isn't much of a cryer - kinda stoic, but this got to her. How couldn't it! a few days before she went in for the surgery, I took her to get a PET and a CT to see if there was cancer anywhere else in her body before they did the surgery. There wasn't any, so she felt good about that. Her surgeon told her about a woman who opted for a prosthetic - well actually two sets. A small set to swim in (they velcro to your chest) and her big girl pair for going out in. Virginia thought she might get three sizes depending on her mood! How many men can say that!!! (oops! my bad!! ) So, she is cancer free, in about 6 weeks she will start chemo, and about 6 weeks after that she'll do radiation. She doesn't have to do radiation, but the radiologist told her it would increase her chances by 20% of not getting the cancer again. She says she likes the odds, so for now, she will go ahead with the plan.

From Virginia:
Hi

Wow! What an ordeal! Keep praying. Please pray for pain under arms from first surgery (lymph node dissection). Can't sleep, have a chest of a nine-year-old! Cried my eyes out a few times, but other than that I'm alive and trying to move forward. God has definitely given perfect peace that certainly passes my understanding. Had no fear or anxiety before or after surgery. Ted is hanging in there, taking good care of me. Friends and family have been awesome. The pastor and people of the church where Doug pastored and Steve & Karla atttend have brought us meals and gave us a VERY generous love offering yesterday! I was shocked and blessed. Karla really stepped up to the plate and arranged meals, etc. I am blessed with a wonderful family and great friends. Thank you for all your cards, phone calls, and emails. They really keep me going and they are kisses from heaven - God working through His people to bless me. Love you all.

Gini

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I can sure relate to how Virginia is feeling! Many years ago, I found a lump and the doctor didn't even bother with a biopsy. It was straight to surgery for me. He warned me that I may wake up without a breast.

When the anesthesia started to wear off, I woke myself pinching to see if my breast was still there. It was and the whole world was beautiful and everything was well.

Just wondering why an appendage like that is so important to women? I still used mine for their original intent after my surgery, yet I'd be going through the same thing that Virginia is going through. I'd be mourning the loss of my "womanhood". Strange... My heart goes out to her.

LMBO No matter how strongly she's rejected me, my daughter is still her mother's daughter! Those of you that know me will recognise me in her letter.

She sounds so much like you, it would be hard to tell you apart! I wonder if part of the problem behind her rejection of you has to do with how much alike you two are? Anyway, I'm glad that it seems to be going as well as could be expected. Love the positive attitudes!

LOL I think most daughters want to be as little as possible like their mothers but I know one thing that she resented was when I warned her or "foretold" how something would turn out, I was always right. Did she ever resent that!!

There were many times, especially as she got older, that we'd finish each other's sentences or we'd look at each other and know what the other was thinking. There were also the times that we'd say the same thing in exactly the same way at the same time. It was like hearing something being said in stereo. LOL I used to miss that a whole lot. With time, I've gotten used to not having the other half of me. I'm sure she breaths sighs of relief, though.

Her biggest problem though, is her Borderline Personality Disorder, the distrust and the paranoia that comes with it. There's nothing I can do about that except pray for her. I've learned to accept that. I've also learned to accept the loss of two of my grandsons, her boys. They're out there, I love them and I pray for them daily. What happens after that is in God's hands.

If she is so much like you, can you see any of the traits that you see as her problem areas in yourself? I'm not saying that you are Borderline, but just trying to gently point out that when we have conflicts with someone who is a lot like ourselves, the same thing that bugs us about them is often the same thing that bugs them about us.

And we can't fix it in them, although it is natural to try, any more than they can fix it in us. Everybody has to look at themselves objectively and do their own growth.

I hope this isn't too far off-topic. I'm only bringing this up because I can see a possibility for the door opening to give you and your daughter another chance. I hope I am seeing that correctly. And if so, you may need to be ready to make the most of that chance.

And I think that what I am pointing out here is a very common phenomenon that happens to everyone. Also, remember that the things you like about your daughter are probably some of your own best qualities too. Like that ability to find the humor in something that overall isn't really funny, and to use that humor to keep your attitude positive.