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Jun 09, 2009, 11:21 PM
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In my latest session with T, she told me for "homework" to think of some coping technique that I could replace with cutting. I've read through the ones on the site, and none of them really work for me. They are all excellent ideas, but in the moment, they just don't suffice. I'm ready to give up cutting for good, but I'm not sure there's really anything to replace it.
 Can someone talk me through this?
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Jun 10, 2009, 12:30 AM
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 You've tried them "in the moment" then??How about this... WHY are you ready to give up cutting right now? What are your reasons?
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Jun 10, 2009, 12:34 AM
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I really want to give it up because I know it hurts my friends and family to see me do this to myself, and I don't want to hurt them anymore. Also, I'm sick of seeing my scars, and constantly being reminded of what I'm doing to myself. It's also not as bad as it could be, and I really want to stop it before it has the chance to get any worse. |
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Jun 10, 2009, 01:07 AM
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How about looking at your scars than and reminding yourself why you want to stop.
Keep pictures of your familly and friends that you want to stop hurting and look at themn when you want to SI - Exercise, walk up and down saying calm and relaxed, put lavender under your pillow - hug a cuddly, stroke a pet or take a walk - I have found that none of these are as quick and effective as SI - but here's the thing - the ones listed dont hurt anyone and they dont leave scars - I hope you can find something that works for you  For me it has been promisingmy T i would not hurt myself - it has not been easy - boy has it not been easy. but i think its 3 weeks no SI now.take care P7
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Jun 10, 2009, 01:14 AM
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Thank you! I think your approach seems the most helpful to me, because I HATE breaking promises to people I care about. Moreover, I hate disappointing people, and I know breaking a promise to my T would definitely disappoint her. I'm definitely going to bring that up in our next session.
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Jun 10, 2009, 01:20 AM
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the thiing to be aware of though is that if you break your word to make you feel really really bad - not trying to put you off - just putting both sides of the argument - as I said it worked for me but it was and still is hard
I had cut down the number of marks I made eahc day less - but the promise stopped me in my tracks I really respect my T and would not want ot let him down.oh and by the way - give that poor bunny a hug for me will you and a tissue
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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#7
Jun 10, 2009, 09:22 AM
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Do you understand why you cut? Have you worked on these reasons?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jun 10, 2009, 10:10 PM
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Phoenix: Thank you for bringing up the otehr side to that, because honestly, I hadn't really thoguht about it tahat way. And I'll be sure go give the bunny a hug
 sannah: We've discussed it, but neither one of us has come to a concrete conclusion. She said last session that she wanted to take some times to really think about the information that I've given her, and try to come to a conclusion. |
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