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Old Nov 10, 2009, 03:42 PM
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I've been fighting frequent tempting ideas in the last couple of weeks. Suicidal and self-mutilation ideas. Like I want to beat the ___ out of myself, or more tempting ideas hit hard & fast. Wanting to enter oncoming traffic at full speed, or drive off a cliff.

How can I control ideas like this, especially when they're kind of exciting? I seriously enjoy the images and am quite tempted!

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Old Nov 10, 2009, 08:34 PM
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I wish I knew. I have the same feelings frequently. Maybe someone else can fill us in.
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Old Nov 10, 2009, 10:44 PM
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I found this link (((((hugs)))) as tempting as it is...perhaps this will be more of an answer for you both

http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/s...isorder?page=2
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Old Nov 10, 2009, 10:45 PM
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There are 'stickies' at the top of this forum that help, too

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=100113
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Old Nov 13, 2009, 03:23 PM
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Are you in therapy Shezbut?
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Think of the people you would hurt if you carried out those thoughts. And I think if you are feeling tempted by suicidal feelings you should seek a professional to teach you how to control the urges. I often have looked out windows or at a tall building and wondered what it would be like to fall. Although I'm too terrified of heights to ever carry that out ^_^"
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Old Nov 14, 2009, 03:03 PM
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Hi Sannah,

Yes, I am in therapy. Both DBT and an individual psychologist.

I have talked about my suicidal idealization automatic thoughts. The T's recommend that I follow distress tolerance skills to get me through the moment. Stay busy. I have found techniques to get me through an hour here and there, but how do I stop these automatic thoughts & temptations in the other hours of the days??

Next week's therapies won't be happening, due to the holiday, and I'm struggling.

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Old Nov 14, 2009, 03:08 PM
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Yes, stupidsminkle, I have thought about how my behavior might affect a couple of people that I care for. The thought of possibly hurting others simply increases my self-hate which then fuels the fire farther along. It's a vicious cycle .

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How is your time spent..how do all these hours creep up on you? Can you go to a day treatment program? Hugs to you
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Old Nov 16, 2009, 03:15 PM
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how do I stop these automatic thoughts & temptations in the other hours of the days??
Work on the issues that are causing them? (I know this is a long term plan and you need a short term plan too).

I know that ignoring something doesn't make it go away. How about acknowledging it and telling yourself that they are only thoughts and that you don't have to act on thoughts. Acceptance comes to my mind too, acceptance of the thoughts (that they are there, not that you have to act on them!) instead of fighting them. ?????????
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Old Nov 16, 2009, 03:53 PM
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I have bad images in my head a lot. Sometimes they make me flinch because they come with such force into my head. Sometimes i SH because it stops those thoughts invading my head so forcefully. Is there anyway for damage control techniques?? I don't want to break any rules by saying this so i understand if this is edited. All i know is that it isn't the best way, but it helps me.

ps - exciting? i'm confused what do you mean...as in fun?
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Old Nov 20, 2009, 12:53 PM
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How is your time spent..how do all these hours creep up on you? Can you go to a day treatment program? Hugs to you
It depends upon the day. Tuesdays & Thursdays go to appointments, the others are set aside to take care of my daughters. My ex and I are separated, I watch the girls around his varying schedule.
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Work on the issues that are causing them? How about acknowledging it and telling yourself that they are only thoughts and that you don't have to act on thoughts. Acceptance comes to my mind too, acceptance of the thoughts (that they are there, not that you have to act on them!) instead of fighting them. ?????????
I act out my self-hate one way or another. If I'm not beating myself physically, it's verbally, emotionally, sexually. How to stop the very strong cycle is one I cannot fathom. That's my problem.
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Old Nov 20, 2009, 01:12 PM
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ps - exciting? i'm confused what do you mean...as in fun?
I get sexually aroused, thrilled, (in a self-hate kind of way) by the thoughts.
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Old Nov 23, 2009, 02:18 PM
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I act out my self-hate one way or another. If I'm not beating myself physically, it's verbally, emotionally, sexually. How to stop the very strong cycle is one I cannot fathom. That's my problem.
How about working on the self hate??? Like where it comes from to begin with???
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