Bisexual anyone?

So, do you consider yourself happily married? This is what scares me sometimes. She swears to me that she is committed to our monogamous relationship but I fear her same "cravings" will get the best of her and won't be satisfied by fantasy anymore. I fear that her impulsiveness will cause her to lose perspective of what is at the core of her current happy life.

I never really worried in the past until this "ex" came back into the picture big-time via social media.

Curious. Were the cravings so overwhelming that you needed to cheat or was there a problem in your marriage and the encounter was the result?

I'm bi, but as already mentioned by others, I'm in a commited relationship with a woman and to me thats all that matters. I'm comfortable enough with who I am that I don't feel the need to stray, or act on my desires. I'm very satisfied with my girlfriend and she has been 100% accepting of my bisexuality. In fact, I've been a bit of an idiot in the past and she's been amazing with me. I'm very lucky to be in such a good position.

So, my question to those of you who are bi but in a committed relationship...

Do you have close friendships with former lovers of yours of the opposite sex of your current partner? If the answer is "yes", how does your current partner deal with it? I've never been the jealous type and my wife has never cheated, that I know of. But some recent behavior and new secretiveness has gotten my very paranoid.

Thoughts?

I've never quite understood the whole "bi-sexual" issue, however, I can imagine the emotional warfare it produces. I hope you find peace as you grapple with this issue.

I still don't understand why this is such a huge issue for some people...

If you're dating a man, you're with him and that's all that matters. If you're dating a woman, you're with her and that's all that matters. People make it so complicated but it really isn't.
Bi = the person you date might be female, or the person you date might be male. That's all it means...

I am Bisexual and have been married for 24 years. Sure, I fantasize about women, but to me, it's not what's between the legs that count, it's what's between their ears.

My husband allows me to join dating sites in order to fulfill my women attraction.

Do you actually meet women through the site or just "window shop"?

I am a bi-sexual......But I have to say that when I am in a relationship ( regardless if man or with woman ) .... I am very monogamous....Although I may fantasize about the other sex.....

Nemo, I'm glad that it's such a black-n-white issue for you. But it isn't for everyone. It's human nature to be insecure about the things/people we love most. We have fears of losing them.

Try to see it from someone else eyes. You're in a rough patch (and every couple has them). Your significant other has a VERY close relationship with someone who he/she once loved. Now throw into the picture the extra fact that he/she has not had a romantic relationship with someone of that sex for many years but has always had raging fantasies about that. These fantasies have even been encouraged and shared by you...

The rough times, the close friendship, the history and the perceived opportunity to make real those sexual fantasies that have only been pretend for so long are ganging up on your insecurities. Then add the fact that your significant other has clinical depression and no appetite for sex with you...

Please, tell me again that it shouldn't be such a big issue because I reaaaaaallllllyyyy need to hear it right now.

I have joined online dating sites, yes, but I have not found anyone compatible to me yet. I have just joined 2 more sites. The problems always is that they are just too far away from me, and I am looking for real life situations, not cyber.

So, you guys have an open marriage?

No, we absolutely do not have an open marriage. He is just not threatened with me going with a woman sexually because I love him and would never leave him, and he knows this.

I can offer a totally different perspective on this. I'm 42, my wife is 39, and we have been together for 18 years...married 13 years. We have 3 children. My wife is bi-sexual. I knew this before we got married. My wife has always had a girlfriend, and they have always been long term relationships. Her current girlfriend of 8 years is also married. This has never been a problem in our marriage. I know she will never leave me. I have no insecurities about this. My wife feels a need to be with both sexes and I have no problem giving her this indulgence.

It is a very private part of her life and very few people know. I do not brag about it to my friends. Those who do know have asked all the questions. I do not like the term "open marraige" because our marraige is not open for anyone to come and go as they please. There is no free for all sex thing happening. I've been asked what will we tell the kids? To me this is a stupid question....We would not discuss our ordinary sex life with our kids....why is the world would we ever feel the need to discuss this with them. It's not like their mom is making out with another woman on the couch in front of them. My wife shows no more affection towards her girlfriend outside the bedroom than she does to any other close friend and vice versa....it is private.

I must say that I do enjoy watching two women together...it's hot....the fact that one is my wife and I can join in if i choose is even hotter. I only have sex with my wife because I have no desire to be with another woman. Been there, done that. My wife is hot and I am sexually attracted to her and her only. My wife's girlfriend and her husband also have the same arrangement. I never worry if my wife is going to be with him because she has no desire to be with another man.

This is our arrangement and it works for us. I have seen others try and it fall apart. We have been together for a long time...so for us....we must be doing something right.

Sorry I was so long winded...it just kinda bothers me when people think that monogamous is the only way to be. I see monogamous relationships break up every day. Everyone has to find and do what works and is right for them. Just offering a different perspective.

im bi. my bf is not. we enjoy discussing the hotness of people on tv and whatnot. as far as our relationship goes, he is all for me doing another chick, especially if i get it on tape. he is also for me bringing back said chick to our place for a 3some. we had a discussion over 10 years ago about an open relationship, but we were both high. i dont know if he remembers, but i operate under the presumption he does. ive had a one night stand that was a guy and he didnt seem to care at all. i dont care what he does with women but id prefer if he brought them back to share. all in all its kind of a **** whoever you want situation.

I'm pansexual which is just like bisexual but includes transexuals and transgenders. It doesn't matter to me what gender or sex or what genetalia you have. I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend and I wouldn't ever do anything sexual with another person because we are in a closed relationship. I would love my boyfriend no matter what gender he was. I can tell him, I think this or that woman is hot, or cute, and will watch porn but nothing beyond that.

I'm bi. But in a committed relationship with my bf. I do fantasize about other woman though, and often do wonder if I'd be happier with another woman.

I am bisexual and my thing is I am very open with any partner I have. I have a rule when I am with a guy I am fine with us having a threesome with another girl but I have to pick the girl and there is certain things I look for in a girl. If my guy tries to bring someone to have sex with us than it is probally going to be a no unless she meets every standard I have and yes I am very picky about the girls I let in my bed with me and my man. I have never met a man who has a problem with me having sex with another girl. Most guys have said as long as I can watch or join than they are ok with it. I am ok with it. I guess you just have to open with your partner and see how they respond most girls are surprised to find out how their man reacts. Most guys are good with it though. I guess to them its like having their cake and eating it too.

I don't understand why it's ok to cheat on your partner.

I agree.

BUT,
cheating implies that it was a monogamous relationship. It's not really considered cheating if its an open relationship in some way, like what seems to be the case with a lot of the posters here...so if everyone involved is ok with it, then go for it.

Anyway, I don't understand why a thread about bisexuality has become "Let's share stories about how we are with both genders even while in a relationship. Hooray stereotypes!"

When i first replied to this post i was trying to suggest ways in which people who are bisexual could deal with their urges - just because you're in a relationship with a man or a woman it doesn't mean you don't fantasize about doing things with other men or women (well i know i do) - straight people do this too. It doesn't mean you wish to be unfaithful. I think theres been a lot of misunderstanding in this thread. Im sorry if i contributed to this.

I'm bi but no one knows

i love women i do not use the word bi anymore and i do have a bf. i miss being with women my first gf ruined my love/experience with women and i think i have healed now we were both at fault in some things but she is at fault more than me.

my bf and i talked about an open relationship for me to have a gf. i had a gf first one 3 yrs ago and i was mad about her too but it lasted for 2 months. i would do it again but someone who needs to be more...mature

Ladytiger - your story sounds a lot like mine, except I can still get very turned on by girl-on-girl porn or even some girls IRL