[ChipmunkGal]

I'm a little embarrassed about writing this post but I have to ask and get feedback! I'm in my early 30's so you would think I would know the answer to this by now but are breasts really THAT important?

I've recently lost over 70 lbs in the past year and trying to get readjusted to my new body (I lost weight intentionally). I'm feeling absolutely self conscious and I don't even want to have sex with my fiance because I'm ashamed of my breasts. They went from AMAZING and FULL to almost non-existent. I feel like along with the weight loss went my breasts and my womanhood. I don't even feel like a woman anymore. Does having small breasts make a woman less womanly? Less attractive? I'm afraid my fiance will eventually stray to find a woman who is more curvy and more like a woman that I am.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom, honest thoughts or advice?

[Typo]

(((((((((((((Chipmunk)))))))))))))))

We are all beautiful and special in our own way, you should be proud of who you are. Having small breasts doesn't make you less of a woman at all! Everyone comes in all shapes in sizes, just because a woman has smaller are larger breasts or more or less curves doesn't make one women less or more.

Everyone is beautiful, including you hun

Please take pride in the fact you are special and unique, nobody else is like you and that is a wonderful thing! Let your beauty shine

[crystalrose]

breast size isn't that important but doesn't stop us women from worrying about it. I am happy with my size but it took me a while because i thought that my breasts were too big. I'm a c size. One breast is bigger than the other that bothers me at times. My friend has quite small breasts probably the smallest size she can still buy teenager bras that have frills and bows. I think its nice but she has concerns about it also. Imo every woman has worries about the body that other women find attractive or don't notice the things that we say are our flaws. Hope this helps.

[salukigirl]

I understand why you would feel that way. But I'm guessing you were with your fiance before you lost all that weight? If he loved you when you were overweight, he is going to love you with smaller breasts. I know how you feel because when I lost 35 lbs last year my bra size went down almost 2 cup sizes. I like having a smaller waist but not smaller boobs

You are still the person you were before you lost that weight. Which I meant to say CONGRATULATIONS! That is amazing. 70 lbs! Even if you're breasts are smaller you are healthier for having lost that weight - both physically and mentally.

And plus, all those women you see on tv and in magazines - that's not even what they look like. All of that is fake and you should be proud to be real - no matter how you look. At least it's you!

Well, I've always had small breasts...and you know what is great about that? I haven't even owned a bra since I was 20 and realized they were redundant for someone like me. (That was about 29 years ago!) Freedom!!

[Timgt5]

Congradulations on the weight loss! I struggle with weight myself and that is quite an accomplishment. Breast size almost always goes down for a woman who loses weight. Some of the fullness can be replaced by developing your pectral muscles. There are a number of exercises that can do this that are relatively easy to do and require nothing more than a bench and a set of small dumbells. Presses and chest flys will develop the muscles underneath your breasts and push them up and and outwards, giving you back some of the fullness you lost when you dropped the weight. They will not actually get larger, but they will appear that way over time. The best news is that developing your pectral area will pay off when you get older, with less back problems.

Be proud of your accomplishments and keep up the good work.

[Rhapsody]

Sadly when a woman looses weight she also looses breast size and this is due to the fact that breast tissue is made up of mostly of fat... but please do not let the loss of breast size determine your worth "You are more than a set of Breast" - and heck you've heard the old say haven't you "All a guy needs is a Hand Full"

BE HAPPY IN WHO YOU ARE -

[Jess Petty]

my girlfriend has small boobs, but she's extremely petite, so it actually works out fine. i myself, do not have boobs. so that's about all i can really add to this conversation. can someone go ahead and do me the pleasure of "excusing" me? lol

[Elysium]

I think that if a person loves you, then they love all of you. Your mind, body, and soul. And all of these things change with time and different factors.

Okay...so the tata's deflated a bit....but I would like to see you try and embrace that deflation because you worked very hard for it.

The good news is that you can perk the tatas up!! If you get some barbells, or even save some plastic jugs from milk or detergent, you can do some exercises and stretches that can tone them up.

Often people don't remember that when they lose weight, gravity will also tend to take over showing the muscles underneath.

You can work on them...maybe even get your man involved in helping you and you could watch them tone up together!!

I'm proud of you for your weight loss and I hope you can become proud of yourself, your body, and your tatas!!

[Elysium]

LOL, Jess Petty!!

Are you a guy? Because if you are then you do have boobs...you just have Man-Boobs!!

[Jess Petty]

lol, yea im a guy. i wish my parents would have given me a less "gender neutral" name D:

[BeautifullyMistaken]

LoL @ Jess & Elysium!

But to the OP--As mentioned, everyone is different. I can somewhat relate to how you are feeling. I dropped from about 145 to 110 a few years ago due to depression. So needless to say, they shrunk and so did my butt! I don't think that they are that important...not everyone is the same. With that said---I don't think that your fiance would be bothered by it in the least. *hugs*

[jennie]

Originally Posted by ChipmunkGal

I'm a little embarrassed about writing this post but I have to ask and get feedback! I'm in my early 30's so you would think I would know the answer to this by now but are breasts really THAT important?

I've recently lost over 70 lbs in the past year and trying to get readjusted to my new body (I lost weight intentionally). I'm feeling absolutely self conscious and I don't even want to have sex with my fiance because I'm ashamed of my breasts. They went from AMAZING and FULL to almost non-existent. I feel like along with the weight loss went my breasts and my womanhood. I don't even feel like a woman anymore. Does having small breasts make a woman less womanly? Less attractive? I'm afraid my fiance will eventually stray to find a woman who is more curvy and more like a woman that I am.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom, honest thoughts or advice?

Breast size does not determine womanhood. If someone loves breasts, he/she will love any size.

But still your feelings are very real. Hopefully you will get more familiar with your new body. Ask your fiance what he thinks about you, if he doesn't pour out the love then that should answer your questions.

jess, you and your man boobs are excused.

chipmunkgal, i'm sure your fiance loves you for you and not just for your breasts. i can sort of understand your distress though as i've been skinny my whole life until getting sick a few years ago. now i'm kind of heavy and it has really done a number on my self-image. i have to remind myself i'm still the same person. but, i can't wait to lose all this stupid weight and get back to my skinny body and small breasts. i wouldn't mind keeping the larger breasts but i'd rather be skinny & smaller any day. being petite is also quite womanly and feminine just as having larger breasts is. they are both good.

[Mindmender55]

Size is not as important as you being OK with yourself. A man will be able to tell if you are OK with the way you look. Men what a woman who is confident with in them selves. And they want a woman who likes to be touched. If you respond different to your man now that you have lost weight, he will know and more than likely he will think it is him not you that there is something wrong with. Just be yourself, like you have always been or show more enthusiasm then before the weight loss. Because you have something to be very proud of, your weight loss and your new body. Sexy comes from within...

[iamtwilight]

heya chipmunkgal ug, sounds like a very familiar question for me. i have not read any previous posts but i hope i don't repeat much of the stuff.

are breasts that important? to men in general? to your fiance? to yourself?

i have come to find that some men think that breasts are important. but this is only an illusion, breasts come second when you deal with a person who you have been looking for and understands you. i also believe that breasts (even when they could be considered "abnormal" by medical standards) turn very beautiful on a person like this.

what comes to your fiance, you have to ask him.

the most important thing here is you - what do you think of your breasts? you said that you felt embarrassed to have sex with your fiance because you feel you have lost your womanhood. there are many more things that make you a woman. and i would like to think that your fiance finds those things in you, and doesnt get turned on by the sole fact that you are a woman.

perhaps this website would help you. it is a gallery of normal breasts of all kinds. http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

i'll tell you something i went through. i always thought my breasts were weird and too small and god knows what. i also found out that i was right - i have underdeveloped, hypoplastic breasts. if you google it you will find out it is a bona fide medical condition. although i cannot be diagnosed with hypoplastic breasts until i get pregnant and start producing milk and find out that they really wont grow from there. i don't really believe there is much hope, though

what it came down to was that i started thinking of cosmetic surgery. but i also have had weight problems a lot, i have dieted as long as i remember, developed an eating disorder and only recently have started eating healthy. i realized that having the surgery wouldn't change a thing - i would still feel insecure and bad about me and that im malformed or something. there would be something else that i would grow to be unsatisfied with.

what i needed to realize that i am me, not the lady on the beauty magazine. i am loved for who i am, not resembling that lady. i am unique and loved for that. i don't need to fit to any beauty standards that the media tries to force upon us.

people are beautiful, each and every one.

these are some thoughts i hope you will think about, chipmunkgal, and perhaps relate to yourself. it is a huge lesson to learn to love your body, especially after something as stressing as losing 70 lbs! but when you get the hang of that "love yourself as you are" thing, it is so rewarding.

[velma24]

Having less breasts doesn't make you any less of a sensual, sexual being. Don't worry about what your fiance has to say. Be concerned about what YOU think, and how YOU feel about your body. Love it and yourself. Lastly: CONGRATULATIONS on that weight loss.

[Trojanwarhero]

Congrats on loosing all that weight chipmunkgal!

Honestly it really depends on the guy as far as importance of breasts. I read an article about men who weren't breast fed being significantly more attracted to breasts than men who were breast fed. Personally I think the majority of men vary between *** men and face men. Women should be aware that men are very physical creatures, however, don't be pre-occupied with it. The most attractive qualities are to be as healthy as you can and confident in who you are.

[Mike_J]

My wife went from being bairly a B cup to a D after haing our daughter, we would both prefer had she gone back down to a smaller size.

Even though my wife's body has changed, it was never her breasts that I loved, it was was the amazing heart that was/is inside of her.

[Yoda]

Yoda's perspective on breasts:

They are nice to have when you have a baby crying in the middle of the night so you can let him suckle in bed and you don't have to stand in the kitchen waiting for the formula to warm.

Beyond that breasts are an accessory.

My experience as a woman with large breasts - gravity is not kind to us. I wish my breasts were smaller now that they are no longer perky.

Originally Posted by ChipmunkGal

I'm a little embarrassed about writing this post but I have to ask and get feedback! I'm in my early 30's so you would think I would know the answer to this by now but are breasts really THAT important?

I've recently lost over 70 lbs in the past year and trying to get readjusted to my new body (I lost weight intentionally). I'm feeling absolutely self conscious and I don't even want to have sex with my fiance because I'm ashamed of my breasts. They went from AMAZING and FULL to almost non-existent. I feel like along with the weight loss went my breasts and my womanhood. I don't even feel like a woman anymore. Does having small breasts make a woman less womanly? Less attractive? I'm afraid my fiance will eventually stray to find a woman who is more curvy and more like a woman that I am.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom, honest thoughts or advice?

Hello, I'm sorry you have woe over this. I view it in several different ways.
For one I have always had since very young. That did not make for a good thing. (being looked at sexually when I was only a child).
I cried cuz they weren't little.
I got teased for having them too. I didn't want them.
Later - people 'stared' at them, which made me feel dirty.
Yet, I didn't do anything wrong.
As for dating - seems they attract ..., But, honestly -
NEVER has attention been made to them in that way.
I always thought "Why do I have these then".
It's so strange. Have them, don't....
Like straight or curely hair... we always want different ???
Now everybody is wearing FAKE -
My opionion is "That's crazy. Why look like everyone else"
Personally, I can't even wear fake finger nails as it seems foreign to my body.
Now at age 49.
The breasts have changed. It's going to happen with age, weight, exercise....
I sluched my entire teens - 20's to hide them.

Okay - I want to say this....

If you are loved by another - NO MATTER, NO MATTER ----
It's Your heart, soul, ... that make you
FROM the INSIDE OUT - other than that it's just a empty shell that we can decorate - But why
Why - ONLY if it pleases 'us', no one else.

Because, people will Always find something WRONG.

As for someone leaving due to physical -

That is TOTALLY on THEM. That is their issue, not yours.
Though I know just to think it might happen is makes the heart tear.

People - From the Inside Out......... The Out always fades.....

My .02....

YES, breasts are VERY important.

HOWEVER - The size itself is not.

Breasts serve two purposes. Their main purpose is to nourish, feed, and comfort children through their infancy(and sometimes through toddler-hood, depending on the moms choice!). They also are an erogenous zone, and men find them sexy(or women, depending on the situation.)

Beleive me when I say although its nice to look at so-called perfect breasts, it gets old after a while. If every woman had what society called perfect boobs, it would get pretty boring! I am of the mind that having unique breasts is JUST as wonderful as the same old same old. I actually find what society would consider flaws to be beautiful in some cases.

[BrittneyNicole]

When it comes down to it, breast's are not important.
There just jugs of water base liquid!
No matter what, all WOMEN have boobs, If they want them or not,And you do need them,but you still have them even if they are not big.
Well, they are a tease,but really,regardless if you had them or not, If your fiance loves you, he won't care =]

[englishteacher]

First - congrats on the weight loss! That's amazing and I bet you feel much better.

Second - I had huge boobs from middle school on. Got called Dolly Pardon and teased a lot. Had a lot of trouble fitting in clothes - if it fit the top, it fell off the bottom. If it fit the bottom, it didn't even come close to buttoning at the top.

I had reduction surgery in my late 20s because I was having back problems. 10 years later, I wish I had exercised more and worked on strengthening my back muscles - not because my boobs are too small - I'm still a D cup, even after surgery. Because I have horrid scars and when I gain weight, I'm not proportional any more. It really sucks when your belly sticks out more than your boobs and people think you are pregnant all the time. Still, my husband loves me no matter how big or small I get.

Smaller proportional boobs will look better on you than over-inflated huge boobs. Look at the women who have had boob jobs - so many of them look like strange and out of proportion. And besides, more than a handful or mouthful is a waste....according to some men. Hope you feel better about it. I'm sure you look gorgeous, just the way you are!

[Perna]

I would discuss it with your fiance, how he feels about you and your breasts. I think he'll tell you he loves YOU, not any of your features alone. You are wonderful you, and happen to be female, the size of your breasts don't determine that.