whats it like to live with a man?

My husband and I have a lot in common. We have had our ups and downs.
I love not being a lone and having someone to share my love with. We have a son together and Praise God he is fine and healthy and normal that is a blessing. It is good to share your life with someone it gives you purpose and a channel for God's love to get you and love you through that person and for you to love back and give something back to the world.

Pick the right person and you will have a better more fullfilled life I think.
Smell the sunshine. Love someone today. and Pray for God to bless you and
encourage and love the Lord today!

I could never go with a boy my age cos in the last couple of years i got forced to undress and was touched privately by a boy my age that i trusted and was my friend for years! and then another thing happened this year by a teen at a pool party under the water, so i never want to be close with teen boys its too unpredictable and scary :s

We talked for more than an hour last night after he came home, and he could have asked me to go home but instead talked for more than hour and he asked me questions over and over and over about everything like tennis and fashion and school. He likes the things i like

sorry olive but it doesn't just happen with teen boys. Older men can be even more aggressive and have stronger body builds to restrain when they want something. it sounds like you really need to deal with those incidents from the past and get a good grasp on how that affected you before you go into any more relationships and find yourself in the same boat yet again. You do have the right to say no! and stick to your guns. So know your own standards so you are not going out there blindly trusting men, thinking an older man will respect you better. Dreaming and fantasizing, while fun and healthy in its own way, does not get you into a healthy relationship.

Perhaps he is being a gentleman and knows that you are too young, and trying to show you he respects you. That not every relationship has to be sexual just because there's an attraction. If he's asking you question over and over about your activities it seems he may be steering the relationship away from being intimate. After all he is your boss. Not ethical to be dating your co-workers and does not want to take advantage of his employee. He's maybe just not said that much verbally. But if you keep pursuing he may just do that.

Olive, I've had men in their 70's and 80's make passes at me. Age doesn't stop them from doing that. The boy who abused you didn't do it simply because he was a teenage boy instead of an older man. In fact, he'll keep on doing that when he gets older, if he's allowed to get away with it.

I will just run away if it happens again. i was really surprised cos it was a close friend but i know now to be aware. i am dumbbbbb because before his year i was cuddling male friends on their laps [not for romance but just because they are a lot taller than me so its easy] and now i know they have feelings for me in a gf/bf type way even though they are my friends

If i'm too stupid to be my bosses new wife maybe i can be his girlfriend [when i'm 18 of course]. i have to make love to someone and i trust him more than anyone

whats it like as in sharing beds and watching tv together and things? its all i think about now
Can you kiss and cuddle whenever you like?

Oh, this really concerns me. I don't mean to harp on you or nag you, but there are a few things problematic here.

1. Not being your boss's new wife wouldn't necessarily have anything to do with being stupid. He's old enough to be your father and his worldview is entirely different. His having conversation with you is probably not meant to be leading you on, and if it is, you need to find another job quick. It would be very inappropriate of him to give you the green light.

2. Does he give you any indication that he's waiting for you to turn 18 so you'll be available to him?

3. WHY do you "have to" make love to someone?

it totally depends on the man, some are fantastic, some are great for a while then are not so good and some are axxholes from the minute they step through the door, but one will be exactly right for you, whether you find this one i can not say, some people do, some people don't, some find eachother young and some find each other when they are in the latter days of life.
Kissing and cuddling has to be a mutual thing, if either one does not want a kiss at the exact time as the other it can be awkward and even cause friction between the pair at times.
being in bed with a man can also vary considerably, some snore, talk in their sleep, even hit out in their sleep ( or even pee the bed), some are extremely gentle and loving, so there is no single answer to your question.
men are as different as the clouds are.

You said your so-called "friend" told you you wanted it because you were wet. This person is a potential rapist. He molested you, at the least. I don't care if were or weren't wet, or horny, or whatever. He didn't have the right to put his hands on you. He doesn't get to tell you what you want. You decide and you say yes or no. And no means no.

I'm going to tell you the truth, even though you won't like it. You're way too young to pursue a relationship with an older man, and still will be at 18. You're very naive and have a lot to learn about life, love and self-worth. You need to learn self-worth because you call yourself dumb and say negative things about yourself. You're not ready for life yet. I'm not saying love is all a fantasy and romance isn't real. But you're fantasizing it way beyond reality. You need to grow up, but you have plenty of time for that. Don't be in such a rush. Movies and books are fun, but they don't always depict life the way it really happens.

I am from Melbourne, Australia too.

I will just run away if it happens again. i was really surprised cos it was a close friend but i know now to be aware. i am dumbbbbb because before his year i was cuddling male friends on their laps [not for romance but just because they are a lot taller than me so its easy] and now i know they have feelings for me in a gf/bf type way even though they are my friends

If i'm too stupid to be my bosses new wife maybe i can be his girlfriend [when i'm 18 of course]. i have to make love to someone and i trust him more than anyone

"I will just run away if it happens again"......This is naivity/ignorance speaking. You don't always have the chance to run away. But you know what? you are very young and your hormones are screaming out of control. So I hope for your sake as I hoped for my own kids, that you won't get into too much trouble by the time you're mature enough to process all this.

You would be wise to break away from this man - give yourself 2 years and see how much you've matured by then, given that you haven't found another guy to obsess about. You might look back and actually think, what on earth was I thinking?!?!?!?!

You don't have to make love to anyone. Believe me. Its not always everything its cracked up to be. Making love isn't so much about the body as it is about using your brain.

How do you know you WILL be his gf when you're 18? Remember you're only fantasizing and dreaming. After you make love hopefully you'll be in a healthy relationship with someone who'll love your erogenius zones but will also want to have an intellectual relationship with you.

Like I said earlier, fantasizing and dreaming can be healthy but it seems you don't think about much else. You are 15? There's been a lot of posts here that indicate concern for the way you view this relationship that you're so hung up on. You avoid responding to the posts that show common sense in a way that might consider/discuss those thoughts but good thing this is only your fantasy. Hopefully you'll come to realize that too.

I'll answer you with a little marriage story:
The past couple weeks my husband has really been getting after me for leaving cabinet doors and drawers open- it bothers him, just close it for crying out loud, he says. I recognized my problem years ago when I lived by myself. I’d walk up the stairs and see the linen closet door wide open and think, “Who left that open? Well, it must have been me.”
The first step is admitting you have a problem, right? So I’ve worked on it over the years, and I’m 100% better. Of course, slip-ups are inevitable, if I’m extra tired, or in the middle of a project or if I’m in a hurry. I don’t know why I have this problem; is it genetic or (environ)mental?
So after my husband let me know how my deficiency was bothering him (once I left a dresser drawer open almost two inches!), I really tried to improve, because I love him. Every time before leaving a room I’d take a look around to make sure everything was in its proper place. I was genuinely trying to be perfect.
My husband's been so great lately, with all the yard work he’s had to do. So when he picked me up from work last week and we came home and the back door was open, I didn’t say a thing.
Then the other night I saw the bread drawer open after we cleaned up dinner. But I was doing the dishes-I didn’t put the bread away.
I called to him, “Could you come here, there’s something I want to show you.”
He blamed it on being exhausted and sleep deprived because I’d kept him up sighing, moaning and exclaiming,“Yowsa” in my sleep.
Last night he was in the extra bedroom moving furniture and painting. As I walked by, I noticed the dresser drawer open an inch. When I pointed this out to him, he blamed it on concentrating on moving heavy furniture and getting the painting done.
When we woke up this morning, I said, “Whew, I hope you didn’t leave any drawers open last night!”
“DICK!” he replied.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you survive marriage.

I was married to a man who was my friend, but who had no idea of romance. I knew this from the start, and I, naively, thought it would "evolve" into a romantic love relationship. It didn't ! Sex was mechanical, but expected, and became quite a chore for me. Since we had a daughter early on in the marriage, I stayed for that reason...since ...when trying to discuss divorce, he would threaten to "take her away from me and kick me out into the street!" Oddly...because I was so submissive, we rarely argued, and never "fought." I just hung in there till she went away to college, at which time I announced I was moving out. The latter years of the marriage were me sleeping in the guest room, preferring to be away from his snoring...and him! Now single for 15 years, having dated to find "mr. right," LOL, I feel fortunate to still have my own space, my solitary bed, and my pets. Not dissing the idea of true love; I know it is out there. I just never found it!

I said "I won't be his gf until i'm 18" as in its legal for me to be his gf when i'm 18. Its up to him if he wants me lol.

All i think about is fantasize and dream? I think about my school, my job, tennis and my crush.....so not sure what you mean..

All i do is respond to posts in this thread, including your posts. I thought you said i avoid responding to the posts that show common sense. All i do is respond.....

And all i wanted to know was "whats it like to live with a man?" as the thread title say.

I see no harm in dreaming about the current boss, fantasizing about being with him, and even planning on being with him in three years, as long as you remain flexible: if a new person crosses your path so to speak and seems interesting, you should be flexible enough to consider him.