Your views on fetishes and the BDSM lifestyle

Doesn't the word 'fetish' mean 'whimsical dream?'

Sex is multifaceted in the same way people are - our sexual needs are an important part of life and deserve the same attention and respect we give to the rest of ourselves. I think problems can arise when we don't find others to share our dreams with - and i don't necessarily mean physically but also conversationally. We can end up feeling weird, stupid, 'wrong.'

And isn't that sad? I adore sex in it's many forms and i believe the variety is what makes it so special. We can only eat in so many ways, sleep in so many ways etc but sex is infinite. I'm thankful for that.

Great thread

That was well expressed. Thank you

(should mention- i just took a name change because my previous one was far too close to what I use in RL and in other places. I hadn't expected to share so much here on these forums and though a name change doesn't make a HUGE diff, it makes enough of one for me)

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Thank you. I think I'll be okay. I just realized I had used that name elsewhere and I have accidentally come upon my own posts before. And I think part of me just needed a change, from being what i have always been

I'm extremely fascinated by the idea of BDSM but not s/m because it's too triggering for me. Tie me up, call me names, discipline me, degrade me, but do not strike me unless you want to deal with me getting suddenly EXTREMELY upset

How exactly would you long to be disciplined?

If it were me personally doing it, I'd expect a 1000 word essay to discourage a lot of people from filling your inbox with annoying stuff that they've probably sent to multiple people.

Depending on the amount of responses, either take the time to read them all, as they'd most slightly drip in rather than be a monsoon. If on the rare chance there's a lot of responses, then filter on physical, age and location parameters and then read them. If you can't be bothered to read a few 1000 word essays to find love then... It's not like you need to read the full thousand to discount somebody who sets off the wrong flags.

There's loads of kinks I can understand the theory behind but will never "get" because it's not me. If you're looking to experiment more and maybe to discover more things that you may enjoy then start with what you know you like, try to work out what it is about it you like, I.e. About the flame, and don't be afraid to explore similar things.

Erm not really. I googled the etymology and it started talking about it being to do with objects essentially. Fetish comes from latin and portugese origins. Sorry for not posting the full etymology and definition - it's fiddley on a phone

The rest of your post was cool Spockette

It might actually be the meaning of a particular fetish but annoyingly enough i can't figure out which one - i remember reading it ages ago in a book by Dita Von Teese i think, can anyone enlighten me?

ooh Dita! <3

Sorry, couldn't mention her without a photo!

oooh, THAT totally made my day *grins*

Hotttt....!!! Hotttttttt!!!!! Ha-ha-ha-ha-hoooooooottttttt!!!!

*faints*

Is that definitely not you in your uniform?

By being dominant and seeing if they respond to your attitude.

Perhaps, Miss Emma is blonde. It may be her twin.

Update on Miss Emma: She is soon to be in her first photoshoot. I found a local fetish photographer who can get entrance into a WWII bunker in my city and other places, and I found a guy who would be my sub/slave in the photos...and he is pretty hot, so one thing may lead to another and I may find myself taken. I'm so excited!

Wow, that's pretty exciting. Stay safe though.

We're deciding to meet for a coffee date next Tuesday. That should give me enough time to get ideas on what I'd like to shoot, but I'm so nervous of trying to decide what I'd like to shoot. I know for sure that I'm not doing anything nude or with a strap on. I'm limited to toys such as a paddle and riding crop, but I don't know if I want to use my paddle on a stranger. I don't mind the riding crop because it is mostly just a prop, but the paddle is meant to be used intimately, it's kinda gross to use it on someone else, even if it's just for a prop. So I don't know about that. I also have to decide what my partner is going to wear, since he doesn't own a uniform. I was thinking of draping him in the flag. If I decide to make him lick my boots, then I don't know if it would count as a sexual experience or not? Luckily I'm seeing my counselor tomorrow and be able to talk about it.

I am pro-anything between consenting adults. Growly has a kink or two but too shy to share.

Congrats honey - don't be too mean to him

Well there are many people here such as myself who are very open-minded when it comes to sexuality.

Like Frankie said



"Come up to the lab and see what's on the slab. I see you shiver with antici.....pation!"

Oh, never mean. Just. I'll be just.
xD

Justifiably psychotic?

Oh yes, just wait till I get in touch with Dr. Mengele, then we'll really have a party!