[emptyandhostile-]

would it be once a day?
does preferring masturbation to porn rather than sex ? make you an addict, or does that just mean you know how to get the job done right?
i have seen many people debate on whether porn is healthy or not in a relationship. Some people even say they consider it cheating.
Some people think masturbation is abnormal in a relationship where the two people are living together. I have heard theories that porn is related to rapists. they get bored of "vanilla sex" and watching hardcore porn (that objectives women..ex: hair pulling insulting, gagging, having her crawl on her knees etc) and eventually act out on those fantasies. I have also read up on horror stories within the porn industry that women/and even men aren't properly being taken care sexually. (std's, some are even forced to do scenes they don't want to )I want to hear people's thoughts on pornography.

[growlithing]

If you like porn, porn is great. If you enjoy using it in a relationship, then it is totally healthy. If you don't like it or find yourself obsessing over it to a point where it bothers you, then it isn't good for you. If it is bothering your relationship, it isn't good for you. I don't think there is anything about human sexuality that can be blatantly labeled as "good" or "bad" so long as all parties consent to it. It's a personal thing like I hate pickles but that doesn't mean it is bad for everyone. I can't stop myself from eating an entire bag of Doritos but that isn't the Doritos fault. It's a personal thing.

Why do you like porn better than sex? Do you feel like your partner doesn't know how to please you? Is there something in the porn that you aren't/can't recreate in real life? Again, I can't make a blanket statement.

[EDIT] Oh and when about 90% of the male population watches porn, saying that porn and rape is connected is not at all statistically significant.

I also enjoy porn personally.

[emptyandhostile-]

I guess it's more so fantasies. I don't get to act out in real life. my partner is open sexuality but only when it comes to me. he wouldn't want to share me with anyone else. I'm still trying to figure out if I would even want to act out those fantasies of mine

[Little Miss Death]

i don't like porn.

[emptyandhostile-]

Originally Posted by Little Miss Death

i don't like porn.

well that's pretty vague....

[Little Miss Death]

i just don't enjoy it; i don't find it an enjoyable experience. i don't mind if others watch it though.

[ADDithers]

I disagree with the definitions of porn or at least wish it was categorized or rated in some way other than just "soft" or "hard" porn. It's all under the same label regardless of how kinky it is. Some content considered porn is very arousing to me - other porn to me is totally gross & turns me off completely. To each their own - but if I had an ideal partner that satisfied me I don't think watching any porn would be needed or desired. As it is in the real world, I use as needed.

[HalfNaijaGirl]

I think that in life the best thing is to have things in moderation. For an adult who is comfortable with his or her sexuality and the fact that we are sexual beings who can derive pleasure and stimulation from visuals, then it is perfectly fine. If someone really really likes porn maybe more than the average person (whatever average means) maybe the person should try to incorporate the porn in with real sex, just for a nice and healthy BALANCE. I am no expert, so I'm just speculating.

[Nihil]

I'm fine with it, even the violent kind, but as long as it's consensual. I can personally attest to becoming bored of "vanilla" porn, though. Don't think I'd ever actually act out my fantasies.

[NoelLove]

Porn isn't necessarily a bad thing. It is exaggerated though. If I had a boyfriend and he chose to watch porn when he...well has me lol I would be very pissed off and offended.

[MoxieDoxie]

If you have a healthy relationship with your needs being filled you do not need porn. If you need that much hardcore stimulation to get aroused or orgasm then there there is something not right with you. Someone having to watch porn to "get off" would be a deal breaker.

[Nihil]

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

If you have a healthy relationship with your needs being filled you do not need porn. If you need that much hardcore stimulation to get aroused or orgasm then there there is something not right with you. Someone having to watch porn to "get off" would be a deal breaker.

I wouldn't say I require it, but it helps. I can definitely get stimulated without porn.

Some pornography is disgusting and exploitative. I try to steer away from it.

[gayleggg]

Whether porn is good or bad depends on the person. I have seen marriages destroyed by porn addiction. I have seen some marriage flourish with it. It all depends on the person. When it gets out of control and you can't live without it or it takes the place of your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend it is a problem. When you start watching it at work it is a problem. When you are hiding it from you significant other it's a problem. As an ex porn addict I know what damage it can do to a relationship. I still have to watch carefully when I get angry or hurt for it is easy to fall back on porn as a crutch.

[arachnophobia.kid]

I don't really watch porn very much but I do struggle with it from time to time. Generally I don't think it's healthy at all. I am single so it would not ruin any relationships I have with women but I just think that lust is dangerous. It may not be dangerous at all times but it can cause a lot of problems so I think it best to stay away for it.

For me personally, when I do give into the temptation of porn, it will feel great during that time but once it's over I'll hate myself for a couple days because I believe it to be immoral. I find it very degrading, self destructive, and overall it's not worth it to me. I also consider myself a romantic and you can think whatever of that, I even think it's kind of stupid, but I don't want to meet the love of my life one day only to lose her because I can't give up my addiction to porn.

Some other posters have a good point though, that if it doesn't cause you any ill effects or if it's consensual with your partner than maybe that's okay, but I still feel that in those cases you are playing with fire and it can potentially cause destruction.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by emptyandhostile-

would it be once a day?
does preferring masturbation to porn rather than sex ? make you an addict, or does that just mean you know how to get the job done right?
i have seen many people debate on whether porn is healthy or not in a relationship. Some people even say they consider it cheating.
Some people think masturbation is abnormal in a relationship where the two people are living together. I have heard theories that porn is related to rapists. they get bored of "vanilla sex" and watching hardcore porn (that objectives women..ex: hair pulling insulting, gagging, having her crawl on her knees etc) and eventually act out on those fantasies. I have also read up on horror stories within the porn industry that women/and even men aren't properly being taken care sexually. (std's, some are even forced to do scenes they don't want to )I want to hear people's thoughts on pornography.

I've never really liked porn. It's never been a real turn-on and I would not be pleased if my partner watched it. I don't mind making little videos of he and I together to watch though. That's a major turn-on actually.

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[LiteraryLark]

I don't understand people who think porn is cheating with your spouse. I think it's very selfish and a self-centered thing to say. You're basically saying, "Don't have fantasies. Don't find sexual release without my permission. Don't look at other women because I am the only thing that matters in your universe. I do not trust you enough to masturbate on your own because I don't I don't believe you are faithful if you need anyone other than my body to suit your needs. Your personal business is my personal business. Your sexuality is my sexuality and you must agree to be devoted only to me."

I think porn is both a good thing and a bad thing. It's good because I've always been curious about sex (being a virgin) and I get to discover what turns me on and what doesn't turn me on. However, I believe porn is one of the reasons why I am into BDSM and hardcore fantasies because when I first started watching porn at 16 all I wanted to know is what missionary and blow jobs look like. Now I look at deepthroating, strap ons, and femdom and those are things I want to pursue in real life. I am not ashamed of it, in fact, I'm quite proud of my fantasies. I've always been very intimate with my sexuality and I enjoy these fantasies. The hardest thing is finding someone else to share my fantasies with. And I believe porn may have desensitized masturbating for me because I have very little interest in it and it's more of a boredom activity.

Porn can actually be pretty tasteful depending on where you look - it's not all fake and cheap. It's also very much a choice, no one is making you watch it...it's just another part of people's private lives that we shouldn't be concerning ourselves with imho.

[arachnophobia.kid]

Originally Posted by DrSkipper

I don't understand people who think porn is cheating with your spouse. I think it's very selfish and a self-centered thing to say. You're basically saying, "Don't have fantasies. Don't find sexual release without my permission. Don't look at other women because I am the only thing that matters in your universe. I do not trust you enough to masturbate on your own because I don't I don't believe you are faithful if you need anyone other than my body to suit your needs. Your personal business is my personal business. Your sexuality is my sexuality and you must agree to be devoted only to me."

I think porn is both a good thing and a bad thing. It's good because I've always been curious about sex (being a virgin) and I get to discover what turns me on and what doesn't turn me on. However, I believe porn is one of the reasons why I am into BDSM and hardcore fantasies because when I first started watching porn at 16 all I wanted to know is what missionary and blow jobs look like. Now I look at deepthroating, strap ons, and femdom and those are things I want to pursue in real life. I am not ashamed of it, in fact, I'm quite proud of my fantasies. I've always been very intimate with my sexuality and I enjoy these fantasies. The hardest thing is finding someone else to share my fantasies with. And I believe porn may have desensitized masturbating for me because I have very little interest in it and it's more of a boredom activity.

I think the reason people get upset by it or consider it cheating is because it hurts them, simple as that. I'm not saying that's necessarily right or wrong, I'm just saying that's the reason, in my experience. And I don't think it's selfish because those people probably can't control their hurt feelings anymore than a person can control their sexual fantasies. So I think that's where the dilemma comes from.

And I don't mean to judge you in any way, I just want to put in my two cents, I think the argument against porn in general comes from the fact that those fantasies are not real and cannot be made into reality. And even if they are attempted they will never live up to the fantasy, leaving you longing still for more. I think most people would agree that sex should be an experience where you lose yourself in someone else, whereas someone who indulges in sexual fantasies will often not be as interested in satisfying their partner. Instead their priority becomes satisfying their own appetite. And overall this results in an unhealthy sexual ideal, an unhealthy sexual relationship with your partner, or an inability to find a satisfactory partner, as you have mentioned.

[Big Mama]

I watch porn alone, and with my H. My T had even inquired if we had watched pron in an attempt to help things in the bed room. We both shook our heads yes and she took that as a YES and we don't want to talk about it.

It has been used by us both together. It was helpful to be able to explain to my H what I would like to try or what I do need that I am not getting. He is not offended that I have been known to watch it alone, and I am not bothered if he watches it alone. We both agree that if it comes down to either of us not wanting to do it with each other and choosing to watch porn rather then have sex with one another then someone needs to stop watching it.

My T has stated that it is ok (not recommended ) but it is understandable that I would choose to see soft core porn. I don't have a very good relationship with sexuality have been abused sexually ,to say the least, in the past. And this is a good way to see what is acceptable, and to see what males and females should do. And what the out come should be. It has helped me considerably to become more emotionally safe with sex.

I choose not to watch anything hard core or rough. I prefer female friendly soft core. I know it is only acting, but it helps to see consensual heterosexual sex.

[poemsandpromises]

Porn isn't something horrible unless you let it interfere with your daily life and/or a relationship with a partner.

Originally Posted by NoelLove

Porn isn't necessarily a bad thing. It is exaggerated though. If I had a boyfriend and he chose to watch porn when he...well has me lol .

He doesn't really have you though. It's not like he can just use you for gratification indefinitely.

Well, I can't speak from the perspective of being in a relationship, but from my single point of view, my view of porn has changed drastically in recent months. I used to watch it ever so often, but I've become so bored with it…I don't know if medication has anything to do with it, but there's pretty much nothing I can get off to anymore. I don't necessarily think it's "wrong" per se (to each their own), but it does nothing for me anymore. I'll have to have sex with a real person (highly unlikely) or never have an orgasm again. Masturbation itself has become more and more boring as the years have gone on. It's the same thing (even if I did it differently) every time. There's nothing special about it and it's all work with no reward…

Maybe if I found interesting porn again things would change? But I doubt it.

[danvb]

My views on pornography...

Well, it pays well. It's not nearly as much fun to make as it is to watch... And it's much harder (no pun intended) for guys to do than it looks. I mean, guys, do YOU think you could perform with a whole film crew standing there watching you with several cameras stuffed into places you didn't think possible and THEN having them expect you perform on demand??? And what about having to do all the re-takes!? OMG! Come on! Think about it! "How ya doing there little guy? Don't let me "down" now!!! Let's keep "up" the good work!! It's definitely hard work... but then, the harder the better!

Um... You WERE asking me what I thought about making pornography weren't you???

[Big Mama]

Sorry Dan..... I think the original thread owner was wanting to know what do you think about porn in terms of... is it repulsive, pleasant, degrading, marriage breaking, cheating, necessary to reach the desired result, fun or what ever.

But your take on making professional porn is an interesting one to.