No Masterbating.. Help!

Okay... So my lady and I haven't had sex for 13 days. Right now she has a kidney infection, so it wouldn't be a good idea anyway. I've made it known that if I'm not in the mood, I would still "help" her in other ways that would satiate her. Anyway, she told me if she isn't getting anything, I'm not either. That's fine by me, however, she does NOT allow me to masterbate. She has a No Masterbation rule over me, but at the same, she won't "give me a hand"... To be honest I don't have a big sex drive, but this is frustrating to me, and somehow doesn't seem fair.... What do I do?

Thanks for reading.

For health reasons, the poison must be purged. Seriously.

A healthy purge 5 times a week lowers your prostate cancer risk by up to 34%.
http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/pr...er/printer.php

So I agree that having sex when she has a kidney infection isn't fair to her (ouch), but her rule of No Masturbation could actually be detrimental to your long term health. That's not to say you should be beating it like it owes you money, but when you two aren't able to be sexually active you do need to get it out of your system.

Dude, I had no idea about that! Thank you for your response! Gotta go.

Too much masturbation is bad for you. And I don't mean because of religious or moral reason. I wouldn't do it any more then once a week but it's up to you. I wouldn't let anyone dictate to you what you can or cannot do.

True, too much can lower your sensitivity and make it difficult to achieve orgasm with a woman. Again, don't beat it like it owes you money. You need to find what works best for you.

"Beat it like it owes you money." Rofl Epic!

On a serious note...I am curious as to why this rule should exist in the first place. With all due repsect, it seems utterly ridiculous. As long as your alone time (so to speak) doesn't cut into your sex life (and provided you don't leave her without lotion or ruin the good towels or some such)...why on earth would she care?

Go ahead and do what you've gotta do, I say. Wouldn't say a more than once weekly routine (or daily really) is detrimental, but...lol just remember not to beat the poor guy into submission and you should be fine.

Hoping your wife gets better soon.

Hugs,
Harley

God, I hear ya. I havent been able to have sex for almost 2 weeks now. I am finding it very difficult! I have been trying to help out my partner as I enjoy that, but he isnt all that interested because he doesnt want to get too wound up and not be able to have sex. So frustrating!!

Sucks that you cant even relieve yourself, thats a bit harsh. Some women can go way longer than guys without some kind of release (I am certainly not one of them) and I do not think it is fair to ask a man to stop masturbation just because she cant. Sounds really immature.

Why cause issues in a relationship? This just seems to be asking for drama and frustration on both sides.

You have gotten many answers that are as wise as they are hilarious, so let me just suggest that you ask her the following questions:

1) if per this new rule everything should be equally distributed between you guys, when is she going to give you 1/2 of her bras and, if she wears heels, her stilettos?

2) do you also have to take antibiotics for her kidney infection, to be fair to her? Who will prescribe them for you?

the fact she is authoritaian with you and dont give you hand that handicap for you . i think u should go sexologist if there is next your home.

When you have a high fever and excruciating pain (both symptoms of kidney infection), you are not well placed to give hand jobs.

That she is authoritarian is true, though.

Not true Masturbation is very healthy and it has been proven to prevent things such as prostate cancer.

Yes is is true. Too much masturbation is bad for you. It drains you of energy and motivation, can cause depression, procrastination and desensitize the penis. I'm not suggesting never masturbate again, but two or three times a day is too much.

Abstain from masturbating for one week, and then try lifting some weights or running. You will notice the difference with and without masturbation.

So that is why athletes are supposed to abstain while training for a game? Interesting. That makes sense.

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Male athletes. There's been studies that show that female athletes performance improves after having unprotected sex. Might be something to do with the testosterone in the sperm.

I don't know where you heard that from but I couldn't disagree more.

Your problem is nothing that a few years under the belt, so to speak, will not take care of. Be patient.

You don't have to agree. I know the difference because I can feel it in myself. Many men have reported the same thing.

That doesn't seen fair at all!

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The kidney infection must have resolved by now, no?

If you want to talk to her about this, choosing a time when she is not feverish and in pain would be a good idea.

She can't tell you what to do, especially something like that. I understand if someone says "no porn' because its a controversial thing. But no masturbation? That's like telling someone not to scratch an itch. Everyone does it. Probably even her.

Sex was designed to be a beautiful shared experience. But, sometimes a persons (male or female) hormones don't seem to know this. Certainly, you two can talk about it find other ways to love on each other. Ways that will bond you closer together, and not create resentment.

Sounds like a jealousy thing as well maybe? I used to go mental knowing my partner did it (because I was jealous and very insecure) but years down the line I've realised how normal it is as that it's a basic human need. Maybe you need to sort out the deeper issues here first, if any x

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Did you design sex? It seems so, since you speak of the purpose of sex with such enviable confidence. Apparently, somebody else designed hormones without consulting with you, and therefore hormones have not been informed of your design plan.

Next time, if you know that you and other people are going to design something, try to at least hold a joint design meeting to avoid ending up with such a buggy product that has not been thoroughly thought through, prototyped, and tested.

I can tell you that I was someone who didn't start Masturbating until fairly later on in life (I would say a few years after I left Puberty) but honestly I don't feel much weaker now than I did in my Pre-Masturbation day, the only difference I see is that I almost never have wet dreams anymore.

There have also been times when I have gone to certain places and didn't Masturbate for the duration of the time I was there however when I left I also didn't feel like I had much strength.

Why don't you just masturbate anyways your not doing anything wrong its not like your cheating take a shower and relieve yourself I mean don't give her that upper hand sometimes you do have to think of yourself don't tell her just do it and you will be good as new