[norwegianwoman]

Considering throwing myself my own personal pity party next week - then it's been a year since I had sex.

It seems like "everyone" has a lot of sex all the time, but I know that's not true. I have friends who've gone almost two years, and very few of the single people I know have sex more than maybe a few times a year. But a year feels long.

I just don't really find anyone I'm interested to have sex with, and I'm not usually the first girl guys would be interested in.

Now it has been so long that I don't really "miss" it, there is a time after a while when you're extremely sexually frustrated, but now it's as though my body has slowed down its sex drive.

A lot of people seem to think women have no problem getting sex, but I wonder where they got that idea from - yes, there always really drunk or old or creepy people basically harassing me on the street on my way home, and sometimes someone who is only interested in that approaching, but come on, who really wants to have sex with those people? I usually just go out with my friends (and just want to BE with my friends, so please don't come over and disturb us) when I am out, I am not interested in anyone at my college etc. I really don't know where to meet someone but I'm not really worried, I just feel a bit patethic because it's almost been a year.

So - what's the longest you have gone without?

[healingme4me]

Three years. Post divorce. Add in a few extra months. Ten months now, thanks to ldr. He's (S.O.)got me beat on the time chart, too.

Not jumping into a new relationship, after an abusive relationship, helped me regain my sense of how sexuality and sense of identity correlate. The current distance between, helps work on the little quirks relationships bring, without masking with the wrong sense of security that physicality can bring. It's not ideal for everyone, but for a wounded soul like myself, it's the right pace.

Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk

[Yoda]

14 years

Nobody could compare to my late boyfriend in bed. I don't want substandard sex after experiencing that.

[bixkf]

Well, the longest was about 8 years between a homosexual "sexual" relationship and then meeting my wife in a long term heterosexual relationship (we're still there). During marriage, the longest we have gone without sex is about 9 months.

It's been 2 years and 4 months for me.

[AstridLovelight]

I haven't had sex in 17 years. Although there were a couple of nights of heavy petting with someone 5 years ago.

I doubt I'll ever have sex again, and I'm cool with that.

[AppalachianAxis]

22 years (My whole life) and still going strong!

[Alone & confused]

Right now.....3 months but I'm sure there's been longer times, I just can't remember.

[Mike_J]

16 years, but that is a very understandable thing. The several times when I went longer than 2 years while married is a very different thing. Divorced now, has done wonders for my sex life.

[Webgoji]

My wife is the only person I've ever had sex with so up until 25 I was a virgin. After that the longest has been 2 or 3 months. We still sorta do it now, but it ain't right. Kinda like having sex with a blanket. She's just not interested and hasn't been for 6 months.

[gloamingone]

Probably about four months for me. My boyfriend just isn't interested in it anymore. Makes me feel like crap.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[Webgoji]

Originally Posted by gloamingone

Probably about four months for me. My boyfriend just isn't interested in it anymore. Makes me feel like crap.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

I totally understand you there. It hurts really badly and I wish I could offer any advice. The therapist tells me not to take it personal.

What!? It's completely personal!

Webgoji - A guy just stabbed me in the chest.
Police Officer - Don't take it personal.

[gloamingone]

Originally Posted by Webgoji

I totally understand you there. It hurts really badly and I wish I could offer any advice. The therapist tells me not to take it personal.


What!? It's completely personal!


Webgoji - A guy just stabbed me in the chest.

Police Officer - Don't take it personal.

My boyfriend tells me the same thing. Lol

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

I have not had sex since August of 1996.

So, let me see, that would be, er ... um ...

18 Years, 3 Months, 5 Days, 7 Hours, And 56 Minutes (as of this post!)

Since my last serious mania about a year ago. Sorry this may be a bit personal but do you not have the urge anymore or do you masturbate? Remember this totally optional question

[Koko2]

The last time I had solo sex was fairly recent, but if this thread refers to sex with someone else, it's been quite awhile, too long to mention and not by choice. I guess I won't go down in the record books as a modern-day Don Juan.

BTW, these threads where people request sympathy because they've had to go without sex for a week really just kill me.

[LiteraryLark]

Since losing virginity? About 4 months

36 years. I'm 36.

[eskielover]

It's been about 18 years here.......bad marriage where living in the same house.....13 years....had absolutely NOTHING to do with him the last 11 of those years & left him 7 years ago FINALLY. Have no interest in any relationship & without a marriage relationship.....NO SEX here. Don't for see a change in that for the rest of my life.....but don't find it to be a real loss after all those bad years. The freedom more than makes up for any lack of sex.

[Secretum]

I'm a virgin, so...23 years!

[norwegianwoman]

Lol, I am not seeking sympathy, I think. I just feel like it's "unnatural" to go too long without but it might be a result of a sexualized culture.

And I do have sex with myself, although not as frequently as when I have sex a lot (I don't know about other people, but personally I get much easier turned on if I am in a relationship etc., which in general isn't that often though). But my libido, even though it slows down, is not the problem. I mean, i doesn't "go off" for strangers but it never really has, but my problem isn't getting off (a lot of women have problems with that) or feeling turned on in general in certain situations. Even if I just put my mind to it, which sometimes happens ("it's been ages since I masturbated, my body needs it") I can get turned on and also get off easily.

[LindaLu]

12 or 13 years now (?) and Im going to say all the politically incorrect things here: in 12 years Ive gotten fat and ugly and old and although I stopped having sex purposefully because I was having risky encounters with dodgy partners, I now wallow in self pity, a la "no one would want me anyway.." This is something I should explore in therapy but I've got lots of issues going on and don't think my current T is up for it.

Anyway, last PC incorrect statement of the day that others can feel free to smash: Sex with others is better than self sex. Personally I miss the intoxication of touching someone else.

[eskielover]

I just feel like it's "unnatural" to go too long without but it might be a result of a sexualized culture.

You hit the nail on the head.....it's NOT unnatural to go without sex if you don't have a marriage partner....it's society that has told you that it's NOT NATURAL.....& I wouldn't give a dime for societies values.....mine are based on something a lot higher than society & I don't regret it for one minute.

I miss more that I have never had a man who I have truly connected with on a deep emotional level to share life with more than I would ever miss sex.

[Mimielam]

To long, I'm in a long term relationship and my partner just has no sex drive..I'm still hoping she will come around, I still talk to her about it but it's always complicated. I also have times when I just don't care for it..so..eventually maybe we get around to it some day..when we finally have time to relax and spend quality time together..we have so many obligations, work on different schedules..weekends are for taking care of aging sick parent on both sides..ahhh