Am I bisexual

I've fantasized about the same sex my whole life as well as the opposite sex. I was abused in every way as a child. This year I had two encounters with other women. I considered myself bi-sexual almost all my life then now I call myself straight. Have I changed or am I kidding myself.

Just some food for thought - why do you feel the need to label yourself at all

For me I don't like to say I'm bi or straight or gay. I am attracted to who I'm attracted to. Gender doesn't matter. In my opinion you should do what makes you happy

In a way bisexual is like the humanitarian of sexual preference because its based on love & attraction of the individual without the need to make it gender based.

Hi jennrachael05,

usually sexual orientation is just what attracts you and what gender arouses you. You can feel it, unless the way to your emotions is not blocked in a way that you cannot see (feel) yourself.

Since you mention a history of abuse it is possible that you were disconnected from yourself by the abuse. So getting connected again might maybe be an important point to get a clear vision and intuition again.

Whatever you do and whoever you have sex with, gender is by far not as important as the point to avoid more hurt in that context (if there has been in the past).

Take care (of yourself),
bluenarciss

I think sexuality is on a continuum. Some people are just attracted to the opposite sex, some are attracted to the same sex, and some are attracted to both.

I consider myself lesbian, but I have had relationships with men too. I went through the whole coming out experience, and decided, OK I'm gay.

Then I fell in love with a man. As it turned out, it never became sexual because he was married.

I still consider myself lesbian, even though in between significant relationships with women, I'd be dating men.

Men are much simpler emotionally than women.

I've been with my current woman partner, faithfully for 24 years. I'm a queer as a two dollar bill--but technically? Who knows?

I'm happy with how my life turned out. For all the trauma I've been through, I chose my wife/partner well.

To Jennrachel05:
Don't worry about it. I know this my sound cold, but it isn't intended to. I just know from personal experience that sexuality is fluid. Also, don't qualify your feelings. By this I mean yes you were sexually abused and of course, it could affect your sexuality. Oh, god I lost my train of thought here! Oh, well. Anyway what I really want to say is that in varying degrees I believe a vast majority of people are bisexul. I know I am, I also know that one the worst times in my life was when I fixated on what my sexual attractions where.

[quote=michele#3;983168]To Jennrachel05:
Don't worry about it. I know this my sound cold, but it isn't intended to. I just know from personal experience that sexuality is fluid. Also, don't qualify your feelings. By this I mean yes you were sexually abused and of course, it could affect your sexuality. Oh, god I lost my train of thought here! Oh, well. Anyway what I really want to say is that in varying degrees I believe a vast majority of people are bisexul. I know I am, I also know that one the worst times in my life was when I fixated on what my sexual attractions where.

I found out through many years of T that my sexual attraction to the female body was not me actually being bi - but rather that of an emotional need to be loved by a woman being that I was sexual abuse by many different men and never really cared for by my mother.... my sexual desire was a substitute for what I never received as a child.

Knowing this I can now enjoy being sexually drawn to either an attractive male or female and not have worries over being gay or bi.... I am just normal (a regular sexual human being).