Who Am I?

Who I Really Am
I am ..A woman-a mother- a has been
The main thing about me is ...I have a good sense of humor
I always...Cry when a man is screaming and angry and threatening
I feel most like me when ...
What I like most about a person is ...Honesty and their smile
I will be ...
I get angry when ...People lie
I feel happiest when ..
I believe in ...God
One thing I want to accomplish is ...Shed 25 pounds
What I like most about myself is ..
I hate it when ...People fight or when someone sneaks up behind me and startles me because I jump and scream profanaties when they do that and they just laugh and think it is funny.
I was ...
I feel least like me when ...When I panic
If you really knew me ...
I feel weakest when ..
When I feel angry I ...
On a rainy day I like to ...Snuggle in a soft blanket and read a book
I feel good when I remember ...The fun times with my children
When I'm alone I feel ...Relaxed
Most of all I really want ...
I was the type of child who ...
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...
I feel strongest when ...
On a beautiful day I like to ...
My favorite passtime is ...
When I feel happy, I like to ...
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ...Am not in a relationship at this time
My Child Within is ...

Who I Pretend To Be
I pretend to be ...I don't pretend to be anyone, what you see is what you get
Most people don't know that I . Afraid of the dark
I give the impression of ...
The mask I wear is ...I don't wear a mask
On the surface I am ...
The game I play is ..I don't play games
I hide behind ...
I wear makeup because .. I don't know why but I like it
The clothes I wear indicate ...I like variety of styles. but most comfy in casual which would show I am easy going type of person.
The car I drive shows that ..I am broke
My job or profession shows others that ...Unemployed at present
The real me hides under ...
How long I've been pretending is ...
How often I pretend is ...

Maybe I can later fill in the blanks. I have no idea how to answer some of the questions. Looks like I don't know a lot about myself. Never to late to learn

I feel most like me when ...I think I am "me" all the time.. Shrugs shoulders..
I feel happiest when ...I do not know, it has been a long time since I've been happy.
What I like most about myself is ... I couldn't think of anything so I asked my son what he liked about me. He said I am loving and genuine.
If you really knew me ...You would be surprised
I feel weakest when ...When I am vulnerable I am at my weakest. Not really sure what makes me vulnerable.
When I feel angry I ...Do things I should not be doing
Most of all I really want ...To experience life without being consumed with fear
I was the type of child who ...Maybe talked too much
I feel strongest when ...When I am in control of my life
On a beautiful day I like to ...Used to like visiting friends or do some kind of outdoor activity.
My favorite pastime is ...Used to be painting
When I feel happy, I like to ...Do something nice for a friend or someone in need.
My Child Within is ...Playful and happy
Most people don't know that I ... Have not been out of the house for over a year

Who I Pretend to Be
Maybe I do not understand this section. All that I can say is I am who I am, the good, the bad, and the ugly. If I am not happy, it is written all over my face. I can't pretend it away...When I am happy, that too is written all over my face. I don't play games or pretend to be anything. Someone said some where that when you are playing poker you don't show everyone your cards. Well I let folks know what I want them to know. I don't let them see all of me. That isn't pretending. It is self protection. Anyway, I am just me. What or how people perceive me to be is “their perception.” I don't have control over that....

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from A Gift To Myself by Chales L. Whitfield, M.D.

Please complete the following honestly. (then we can share our answers)

Who I Really Am

I am ... just another person trying to get through the day.
The main thing about me is ...i care deeply about the people in my life, and do my best to make them happy.

I always...give up.
I feel most like me when ...when i'm caring for my kids, puttering around the house, drawing.

What I like most about a person is ...their ability to look past the faults and the pain and to see the beauty there.

I will be ...a very lonely old lady.
I get angry when ...i try and fail (guess i'm angry a lot)
I feel happiest when ...my children are happy.

I believe in ...lightnings ability to strike twice in one place.
One thing I want to accomplish is ...letting go of all my misery.

What I like most about myself is ...my understanding, and that i'm not judgmental.

I hate it when ...peoplei care for hurt me.
I was ...a victim.
I feel least like me when ...i do the things everyone else expects me to do.

If you really knew me ...you'd come over for tea and scones and a good game of scrabble.
I feel weakest when ...i think i'm falling in love.
When I feel angry I ...hurt myself.
On a rainy day I like to ...walk in the rain.

I feel good when I remember ...cant think of an answer to this one.

When I'm alone I feel ...afraid.
Most of all I really want ...the pain to end.
I was the type of child who ...took care of stray cats.
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...my past.

I feel strongest when ...i run.
On a beautiful day I like to ...walk in the park.
My favorite passtime is ...reading
When I feel happy, I like to ...sing in the shower
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ...i would be devastated. but thats life.

My Child Within is ...cowering in a corner.

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ...happy. ok.

Most people don't know that I ...am hurting on the inside.

I give the impression of ...a soccer mom.

The mask I wear is ...strength, endurance, anger.

On the surface I am ...just another person youd pass on the street without a second glance.

The game I play is ...how long can i keep this smile pasted on my face.

I hide behind ...anything i can.

I wear makeup because ...well, i dont usually. it doesnt really help much.

The clothes I wear indicate ...i'm poor.

The car I drive shows that ...i'm really poor.

My job or profession shows others that ...i am a chronic underachiever and essentially a failure.

The real me hides under ...all of this crap.

How long I've been pretending is ...20 years.

How often I pretend is ...every darn day of my life.


Rap

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OK Im trying agian!!!

I am unstoppable.

The main thing about me is I try really hard. I screw up a real lot but its not cause myheart is in the wrong place. Its cause my mind is.

I always want to do better.

I feel most like me when - that is what Im searching for. I dont know. I know wearing jeans and not stupid work clothes is a good start. Also, When Im being creative and when Im in shape.

What I like most about a person is kindness and straight talk.

I will be missing Richie forever.

I get angry when people think I should be over my husband's death in four months.

I feel l happiest when Im not having any panic attacks, OCD, etc.

I believe in prayer.

One thing I want to accomplish is to raise a happy kid.

What I like most about myself is sense of humor. when Im not depressed. LOL.

I hate it when people try to take advantage.

I was abused.

I feel leastlike me when I get angry.

If you really knew me youd know how fragile I feel and how hard I try.

I feel weakest when I miss Richie.

WhenI feel angry hold it in, or flip out completely.

On a rainy day I like to stay home.

I feel good when I rememeber Gabbi as a baby.

when Im alone I feel scared.

Most of all I really want my husband back and for Gabbi to be happy.

I was the type of child who was an easy target.

One thing Id like to change about myself is Id like to be in better shape.

I feel strongest when I am in good physical condition.

On a beautiful day I like to walk in the park, or the mountains.

My favorate passtime is chatting, lately.

When I feel happy I want to do something nice for my daughters.

If my relatonship withRichie were to end...he died..I guess it did end...but I still talk to him...I will miss him every day..but hes with me in spirit...

My child within is scared but playful.

I pretend to be..getiing on with my life..."professional" at work..but Ive been pretending a lot less lately.

Most people dont now that i had to give a baby up for adoptona long time ago. We were reunited lastyear and she is beautiful.

I give the impression of being a lot less smart than I really am.

The mask I wear is disintergrating.

On the surface I am harried.

The game I play is running the obstacle course.

I hide behind my pc, my clothes, a fake smile.

I wear makeup becasue I dont want to be alone the rest of my life.

The clothers I wear indicate Im not happy at work.

The car I drive shows that I like to have a big safe car.

My profession shows others that Im smart or important or something. All I knowis they are impressed. I am not.

The real me hides under anxiety and depression.

How long Ive been preending is about twenty years.

How often I pretend is alot ..

I did it!!!!!!!!!!! Yay me!!!! yay everyone else that did it too. It was a real ***** kicker. Took me two tries. ALmos three. Yay everyone else who tried but didnt finish it too..its allin the timing I think....
Hugs

It's hard, isn't it? I think it took me something like two or three weeks to do it (I carried around hand-written notes and jotted things down whenever they came to me). The really neat part is to look at your lists and understand yourself and just say in your own words who you are and who you pretend to be. I think I posted my descriptions in my own words somewhere on this thread too, but it might be too private to post here for some people. I would encourage you to try it, either here or with someone you feel safe with, or just to yourself.

Rap

I am ... weird.
The main thing about me is ... I am weird.

I always... live in my own world.
I feel most like me when ... live in my own world.

What I like most about a person is ... their sense of humor?

I will be ... going to bed too late tonight, as usual.
I get angry when ... people question my edits and when I screw up.
I feel happiest when ... I am watching TV.

I believe in ... God.
One thing I want to accomplish is ... being a famous mystery writer.

What I like most about myself is ... my writing ability.

I hate it when ... there are other people around when I'm in my own world and when traffic noise drowns out my iPod.
I was ... a weird child.
I feel least like me when ... I don't know.

If you really knew me ... you'd think I was weird.
I feel weakest when ... I need to assert myself because I can't.
When I feel angry I ... scream and throw stuff.
On a rainy day I like to ... sit in the dark. Well, I don't like to, but I do.

I feel good when I remember ... I don't know.

When I'm alone I feel ... bored or contemplative.
Most of all I really want ... to stop being like this.
I was the type of child who ... got picked on all the time and cried.
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... Oh, there are so many. I don't know how to pick.

I feel strongest when ... I don't know. Editing?
On a beautiful day I like to ... watch TV. The sun is the enemy.
My favorite passtime is ... to watch TV and hang out on the computer.
When I feel happy, I like to ... Happy?
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... I don't have a relationship with _____ (and what an odd name!).

My Child Within is ... still going in circles and talking to herself.

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ... friendly.

Most people don't know that I ... am asexual.

I give the impression of ... being unfriendly.

The mask I wear is ... I don't know. I have a clay one?

On the surface I am ... I don't know.

The game I play is ... ???

I hide behind ... darkness and other people.

I wear makeup because ... my skin sucks.

The clothes I wear indicate ... that I am a flood victim (although I'm not, unless we count Allison).

The car I drive shows that ... I never wash my cars. Also, it has an HRC sticker, so I give the impression that I'm lesbian.

My job or profession shows others that ... I am %#@&#! and fear light.

The real me hides under ... ???

How long I've been pretending is ... ???

How often I pretend is ... ???

I don't pretend enough, apparently. Maybe that's my problem.

I am ... weird.
The main thing about me is ... I am weird.

I always... live in my own world.
I feel most like me when ... live in my own world.

What I like most about a person is ... their sense of humor?

I will be ... going to bed too late tonight, as usual.
I get angry when ... people question my edits and when I screw up.
I feel happiest when ... I am watching TV.

I believe in ... God.
One thing I want to accomplish is ... being a famous mystery writer.

What I like most about myself is ... my writing ability.

I hate it when ... there are other people around when I'm in my own world and when traffic noise drowns out my iPod.
I was ... a weird child.
I feel least like me when ... I don't know.

If you really knew me ... you'd think I was weird.
I feel weakest when ... I need to assert myself because I can't.
When I feel angry I ... scream and throw stuff.
On a rainy day I like to ... sit in the dark. Well, I don't like to, but I do.

I feel good when I remember ... I don't know.

When I'm alone I feel ... bored or contemplative.
Most of all I really want ... to stop being like this.
I was the type of child who ... got picked on all the time and cried.
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... Oh, there are so many. I don't know how to pick.

I feel strongest when ... I don't know. Editing?
On a beautiful day I like to ... watch TV. The sun is the enemy.
My favorite passtime is ... to watch TV and hang out on the computer.
When I feel happy, I like to ... Happy?
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... I don't have a relationship with _____ (and what an odd name!).

My Child Within is ... still going in circles and talking to herself.

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ... friendly.

Most people don't know that I ... am asexual.

I give the impression of ... being unfriendly.

The mask I wear is ... I don't know. I have a clay one?

On the surface I am ... I don't know.

The game I play is ... ???

I hide behind ... darkness and other people.

I wear makeup because ... my skin sucks.

The clothes I wear indicate ... that I am a flood victim (although I'm not, unless we count Allison).

The car I drive shows that ... I never wash my cars. Also, it has an HRC sticker, so I give the impression that I'm lesbian.

My job or profession shows others that ... I am %#@&#! and fear light.

The real me hides under ... ???

How long I've been pretending is ... ???

How often I pretend is ... ???

I don't pretend enough, apparently. Maybe that's my problem.

Who I Really Am

I am ... who i am
The main thing about me is ... i survived

I always... try
I feel most like me when ... i swim

What I like most about a person is ... honesty

I will be ... honest and open with my T always
I get angry when ... people are rude and bossy with me
I feel/felt happiest when ... mama or my T use to hug me

I believe in ... always telling the truth even if it hurts you
One thing I want to accomplish is ... finding happiness again

What I like most about myself is ... honest w/ others, trustworthy and loyal friend..

I hate it when ... someone lies to me
I was ... severely abused

I feel least like me when ... im triggered

If you really knew me ... you'd probably not want me
I feel weakest when ... im depressed
When I feel angry I ... shut down
On a rainy day I like to ... sleep

I feel good when I remember ... things i need to do

When I'm alone I feel ... better, less irritated
Most of all I really want ... mama to of not of died
I was the type of child who ... hid from everyone
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... something.. i dont know what it is.. but its got to be something.. theres got to be something wrong with me cause no one wants to be around me or touch me.. even my T dont want to simply just hug me.. i dont understand

I feel strongest when ... im with some friends
On a beautiful day I like to ... go to the park or beach
My favorite passtime is ... walking in the park
When I feel happy, I like to ... see the turtles and fish in the park
If my relationship with _my T_ were to end, ... im not sure how i would do anymore

My Child Within is ... constantly crying

Who I Pretend To Be .. is a waste because its never true.. im always trying to pretend to be happy in front of others so they wont know how im really feeling inside.. so they wont know how bad im hurting

I pretend to be ... happy.. safe.. A-OK

Most people don't know that I ... am no where near that

I give the impression of ... i can handle it.. no worries

The mask I wear is ... glued on.. my secret is out now..

On the surface I am ... ok

The game I play is ... dont make a fuss over me

I hide behind ... masks.. walls.. my answering machine.. sleep.. the dark.. and many many within..

I wear makeup because ... i dont where any

The clothes I wear indicate ... i like big clothes but my friends say i where them to hide my small body but i say i have a big body.. blah to all that is what i say..

The car I drive shows that ... i dont drive

My job or profession shows others that ... dont work

The real me hides under ... im not sure.. i cant find the real me very well or too often.. that part of me is hidden very well

How long I've been pretending is ... pretty much all my life just wish i could remember more of it

How often I pretend is ... everyday

Who I Really Am

I am ... scared , scared of saying the wrong things, doing the wrong things
The main thing about me is ... i want to be loved just the way i am

I always... daydream
I feel most like me when ...i am with people who understand me

What I like most about a person is ...their loyalty

I will be ... happy someday
I get angry when ... i see abuse
I feel happiest when ... my mind is calm

I believe in ... happiness
One thing I want to accomplish is ...being a good wife and mother someday

What I like most about myself is ... my loyalty

I hate it when ... people are judgemental, selfish and unable to empathize
I was ... around the wrong people as a child
I feel least like me when ...

If you really knew me ... you would know you have a friend for life in me (or so people have told me)
I feel weakest when ... i am crying
When I feel angry I ... retreat
On a rainy day I like to ... sit inside, have some tea and read a good book

I feel good when I remember ... being with my grandmother

When I'm alone I feel ... abandoned
Most of all I really want ... to be happy
I was the type of child who ... had to keep her mouth shut
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... my outlook on life

I feel strongest when ...
On a beautiful day I like to ... play with my dogs in the park(even though my cat gets jeleaus)
My favorite passtime is ... reading
When I feel happy, I like to ... sing
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ...

My Child Within is ... always trying to come out

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ... self-confident

Most people don't know that I ... have bipolar and abusive childhood

I give the impression of ...being arrogant when i am around people i don't know yet

The mask I wear is ... breaking down slowly with the help of my T

On the surface I am ...confident

The game I play is ...

I hide behind ... makeup

I wear makeup because ... i think people won't notice i am not doing well

The clothes I wear indicate ... i am easy going

The car I drive shows that ...

i care

The real me hides under ...

How long I've been pretending is ... forever

How often I pretend is ... every day

Who I Really Am

I am ... motivation less dreamer.

The main thing about me is ... complicated.

I always... fight, even in awful situations.

I feel most like me when ... write and listen to music.

What I like most about a person is ... honesty and respect.

I will be ... acknowledgable.

I get angry when ... I fail.

I feel happiest when ... I learn something worth learning.

I believe in ... hope.

One thing I want to accomplish is ... to own a home and live in it forever.

What I like most about myself is ... knowledge and wisdom.

I hate it when ... I'm alone.

I was ... once a bad person, but changed through time.

I feel least like me when ... I'm on a low.

If you really knew me ... you'd get away from me.

I feel weakest when ... I am alone and isolated for a long time.

When I feel angry I ... complain.

On a rainy day I like to ... veg

I feel good when I remember ... my Grandmas home cooking.

When I'm alone I feel ... overwhelmed and imprisoned.

Most of all I really want ... success.

I was the type of child who ... was free and wild.

One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... everything.

I feel strongest when ... my children need me.

On a beautiful day I like to ...

My favorite pass time is ... do something productive.

When I feel happy, I like to ... play outside with kids and read.
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... I would finally be free.

My Child Within is ... dead.

Who I Pretend To Be everything I'm not.

I pretend to be ... somebody worthy.

Most people don't know that I ... am sad.

I give the impression of ... a *****

The mask I wear is ... fake

On the surface I am ... okay

The game I play is ... wake up
I hide behind ...

I wear makeup because ... I have zits.

The clothes I wear indicate ... I lost a lot of weight and need to go shopping, that I'm broke.

The car I drive shows that ... I am broke and need a head gasket replaced because I'm smoking.

My job or profession shows others that ... no job.

The real me hides under ... lifelessness.

How long I've been pretending is ... along damn time.

How often I pretend is ... every moment of my sadly disturbed life.

No matter what ur special in GOD's eyes

with love
carol

Please complete the following honestly. (then we can share our answers)

Who I Really Am

I am ... adventurous!
The main thing about me is ... I want to see the world.

I always... try something new
I feel most like me when ... I am traveling to someplace new.

What I like most about a person is ... if they can make me laugh.

I will be ... myself..like it or not!
I get angry when ... people get treated unfairly
I feel happiest when ... surrounded by the people I love.

I believe in ... myself
One thing I want to accomplish is ... To travel across Africa

What I like most about myself is ...My adventure streak.

I hate it when ... People put others down before they even get to know them
I was ...a shy kid
I feel least like me when ... cooped up in my office.

If you really knew me ...you would say I am intense, silly, and fun
I feel weakest when ... alone
When I feel angry I ... keep to myself
On a rainy day I like to ... sleep in or cuddle on the couch with my hubby

I feel good when I remember ... My family, my wedding day, place I have been and people I have met along the way.

When I'm alone I feel ...flighty
Most of all I really want ... to see the world
I was the type of child who ... kept to myself, who was quiet and caused little trouble
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ..I probably should settle more.

I feel strongest when ... I have conquered something new, or a fear
On a beautiful day I like to ... ride one of my horses, a motorcycle, jet-ski, car (anything fast), anything outdoors-go to the beach..take the airplane for a spin (husbands a pilot), rock climbing, spelunking, outside on the ranch, playing with the animals
My favorite pastime is ...playing with the horses, other animals..watching movies, listening to music
When I feel happy, I like to ... all of the above
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... Id move back to Colorado

My Child Within is ... happy once again

Who I Pretend To Be ..I no longer pretend..what’s the point?

I pretend to be ... again..I don’t pretend

Most people don't know that I ... used to be a dance instructor

I give the impression of ... a hard ***.

The mask I wear is ... WAS my smile

On the surface I am ... confident

The game I play is ... I don’t play games..not anymore..thats more trouble than it is worth

I hide behind ... nothing

I wear makeup because ... I hardly wear any and I think it brings out my eyes..

The clothes I wear indicate ... my personality

The car I drive shows that ... I don’t give a crap

My job or profession shows others that ... I care about them

The real me hides under ... nothing

How long I've been pretending is ...I don’t

How often I pretend is ...okay..maybe around the mother-in-law..what a WITCH..

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Rapunzel said:
from A Gift To Myself by Chales L. Whitfield, M.D.

Please complete the following honestly. (then we can share our answers)

Who I Really Am

I am ...Caroline Lai Wai Lan
The main thing about me is ...BPD

I always...feel ups and downs
I feel most like me when ...I'm outwardly focus

What I like most about a person is ...Honesty, openess, sincere

I will be ...Grateful
I get angry when ...ppl took me for granted and doesnt appreciate me
I feel happiest when ...I feel happy easily even when I see stars or lights

I believe in ...JESUS CHRIST My LorD oF ALL
One thing I want to accomplish is ...The Mission

What I like most about myself is ...Courageous, Advisable, Righteous, Openess, Loyalty, Initiative, Noble, Evangelistic

I hate it when ...I failed to be what I want to be or GOD wants me to be
I was ...am felt sad now
I feel least like me when ...I unable to be outwardly focus

If you really knew me ...Im very rude honestly
I feel weakest when ...Im sick
When I feel angry I ...SI
On a rainy day I like to ...Sleep with a thick blanket

I feel good when I remember ...the good things GOD given me

When I'm alone I feel ...Fearful,Lonely,but also Freedom,Independant
Most of all I really want ...to achieve all my dreams
I was the type of child who ...is ambitious, curious, Intelligent, Creative, weird, enigma, special, warm, friendly
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...a lots to strengthen what remains and is about to die

I feel strongest when ...my mood is high
On a beautiful day I like to ...Praise GOD, take a walk with my dog, 1 of them died sigh...........
My favorite passtime is ...Evangelism, viewing beautiful scenery, stars, moon, lights, dancing etc
When I feel happy, I like to ...encourage ppl
If my relationship with __GOD___ were to end, ...I rather kill myself

My Child Within is ...Fearful

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ...pdocs and psy

Most people don't know that I ...act 2

I give the impression of ...being fake

The mask I wear is ...strangely I dont wear mask or maybe I've forgothen or dont realize it???

On the surface I am ...joyful but inside have a lots of problems

The game I play is ...computer games

I hide behind ...when am fearful

I wear makeup because ...I love to dress up

The clothes I wear indicate ...simple, decent, art, unique, daring, sometimes Lewd ( when am not doin well spiritually )

The car I drive shows that ...I dont drive

My job or profession shows others that ...Im resting at home

The real me hides under ...real

How long I've been pretending is ...became real me & my strength

How often I pretend is ...often

You can either copy this and fill in your answers, or print it and write your answers and tell us who you are in your own words if you want to, or how you feel about this, or do whatever you want. I'll post my responses too, but I'm still working on it so it might take me a while.

Rap

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Very interesting exercise. Now I have something to talk about with T - finally

Who I Really Am
I am ...an artist
The main thing about me is ... I love my family. I love to learn.
I always... remain calm, detach
I feel most like me when ... I explore my ideas
What I like most about a person is ... their interests
I will be ... happy, fulfilled, make a contribution
I get angry when ... I don’t understand. Other people don’t understand. People are cruel. I make mistakes.
I feel happiest when ... I’m learning. I’m being taught.
I believe in ... possibility
One thing I want to accomplish is ... fitness of mind and body
What I like most about myself is ... my ideas, my hair, my sense of humor
I hate it when ... I’m irritable and lazy
I was ... full of energy
I feel least like me when ... I’m trying to please someone else
If you really knew me ... you would be surprised
I feel weakest when ... I’m tired or uninformed
When I feel angry I ... withdraw
On a rainy day I like to ... read, be lazy, reminisce, sleep
I feel good when I remember ... my accomplishments
When I'm alone I feel ... happy and full of potential
Most of all I really want ... contentment and to connect with my family
I was the type of child who ... followed the rules, shy
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... more will power, be more assertive, speak my mind
I feel strongest when ... I’m working toward my goals
On a beautiful day I like to ... enjoy nature
My favorite pastime is ... reading, listening to music, looking at art, daydreaming
When I feel happy, I like to ... listen to music
My Child Within is ... lost

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ... smart, shy
Most people don't know that I ... walk on the wild side
I give the impression of ... responsibility
The mask I wear is ... hard worker, conformity
On the surface I am ... friendly
The game I play is ... not caring, trying to impress people, giving people what they want
I hide behind ... illness, commitments, knowledge
The clothes I wear indicate ... comfort
The car I drive shows that ... I like convenience
My job or profession shows others that ... I’m creative.
The real me hides under ... nonchalance
How long I've been pretending is ... since adolescence
How often I pretend is ... everyday

I like thinking about those questions. Are there more questions like these? From the A Gift to Myself by Whitfield that you mentioned? Or other sources? These are great for me because I can never come up with things like this to ask myself, but they help in figuring out those things I can't think of. Got any more?
Thanks for those...

I was going to post more from that book, but I'm working through that book very slowly (as the author recommends), and I've not been keeping up with it lately. Yes, the book has a lot of questions, not just like these, but to help you figure out who you are and why you are where you are in life, and what you would like to change, and how to recover from past traumas. I would recommend the book if you like this exercise. Don't stop at just answering the questions. Think about your answers and figure out what that tells you about yourself and what is important to you and how your really are and how you try to present yourself to the world.

There are other self-help books that I am using that get you thinking about these kinds of things too. If I have some energy tomorrow I'll round them up and post a list in the self-help section (there is a thread about self-help books over there).

I am ... trying
The main thing about me is ...my curiousity

I always... wonder
I feel most like me when ... I am alone

What I like most about a person is ... the beauty within

I will be ... better soon
I get angry when ... someone hurts me
I feel happiest when ... run, swim, walk, read

I believe in ... freedom
One thing I want to accomplish is ... doing something good for someone

What I like most about myself is ... my want to learn

I hate it when ... I am not good enough
I was ... a wierd unlovable child but very imaginative and happy
I feel least like me when ... people expect too much of me

If you really knew me ... you would be too close
I feel weakest when ... I can't escape
When I feel angry I ... have to get away
On a rainy day I like to ... get soaked

I feel good when I remember ... something I have been trying to remember along time

When I'm alone I feel ... more safe
Most of all I really want ...to learn to care about others
I was the type of child who ... poked around too much
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... my thoughts

I feel strongest when ... I win
On a beautiful day I like to ... notice every detail
My favorite passtime is ... reading
When I feel happy, I like to ... try new things
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... I wouldn't miss them

My Child Within is ... just wanting to please you

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ... strong

Most people don't know that I ... want them to stay

I give the impression of ... being arrogant

The mask I wear is ... crumbeling

On the surface I am ... a nerd

The game I play is ... not fun anymore

I hide behind ... my anger and my questions

I wear makeup because ... i don't

The clothes I wear indicate ... that I don't care what I look like

The vechile I drive shows that ... I don't drive very well

My job or profession shows others that ... I like to learn

The real me hides under ...all the pain and hate

How long I've been pretending is ... hard to say, not something I consciously chose

How often I pretend is ... whenever reality hurts too much

Who I Really Am

I am ... Unfinished
The main thing about me is ... I want to help everyone

I always... Criticize myself more than I should
I feel most like me when ... I’m alone

What I like most about a person is ... Their compassion

I will be ... Happy
I get angry when ... People are hurtful/spiteful
I feel happiest when ... I’m with my husband (he’s in another country)

I believe in ... People
One thing I want to accomplish is ... More world travel

What I like most about myself is ... 2 things actually-My sense of humor and my compassion

I hate it when ... People are disrespectful
I was ... painfully insecure
I feel least like me when ... put on airs and not be the true me

If you really knew me ... you’d know as a teen I was raped/as an adult I was physically/mentally abused
I feel weakest when ... I can’t control things
When I feel angry I ... cry, shout, slam doors
On a rainy day I like to ... Listen to the rain

I feel good when I remember ... Being in the arms of my husband

When I'm alone I feel ... abandoned
Most of all I really want ... to live with my husband
I was the type of child who ... was very emotional
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... my physical appearance

I feel strongest when ... I’m in control
On a beautiful day I like to ... take pictures, go for walks
My favorite pastime is ... computing
When I feel happy, I like to ... laugh and share the mood
If my relationship with Florin were to end, ... I will have lost my soulmate…

My Child Within is ... Sad

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ... More than I am

Most people don't know that I ... had an abortion after being raped

I give the impression of ... being more competent than I am

The mask I wear is ... One of being in control of my life

On the surface I am ... *****y

The game I play is ... I’m better than I think I am

I hide behind ... my hurt/anger/fear

I wear makeup because ... I’m ugly

The clothes I wear indicate ... I’m worthless

The car I drive shows that ... I’m poor

My job or profession shows others that ... I’m compassionate & caring

The real me hides under ... years and years of not feeling good enough

How long I've been pretending is ... all my life

How often I pretend is ... almost everyday

Who I Really Am

I am ... sad.
The main thing about me is ... I have strong beliefs in others, but not myself.

I always... wish I could be different.
I feel most like me when ... I am alone.

What I like most about a person is ... their honesty.

I will be ... better someday, I hope.
I get angry when ... I look at myself in the mirror.
I feel happiest when ... I am reading a good book.

I believe in ... nothing.
One thing I want to accomplish is ... to be in love someday.

What I like most about myself is ... my curiosity.

I hate it when ... people can see my embarassment.
I was ... rejected a lot growing up.
I feel least like me when ... I am around others.

If you really knew me ... you would see how hateful I am.
I feel weakest when ... I am speaking in front of others.
When I feel angry I ... comtemplate suicide.
On a rainy day I like to ... read until night falls.

I feel good when I remember ... my grandma.

When I'm alone I feel ... like dying.
Most of all I really want ... to be in love with someone.
I was the type of child who ... had fun every day.
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... how I look.

I feel strongest when ... I have been very studious.
On a beautiful day I like to ... walk in the park or to the library.
My favorite passtime is ... reading.
When I feel happy, I like to ... write letters.
If my relationship with my friend were to end, I'd kill myself.

My Child Within is ... disappointed with her adult version.

Who I Pretend To Be -- aloof.

I pretend to be ... unconcerned with how others perceive me.

Most people don't know that I ... cry every day.

I give the impression of ... being very caring.

The mask I wear is ... indifference.

On the surface I am ... calm mostly.

The game I play is ... to try & avoid speaking with others.

I hide behind ... baggy clothing.

I wear makeup because ... I don't. I'm already ugly without it.

The clothes I wear indicate ... that I'm from the lower class.

The car I drive shows that ... I don't drive.

My job or profession shows others that ... I don't have one.

The real me hides under ... a good book.

How long I've been pretending is ... 10 years.

How often I pretend is ... every day.

Who I Really Am

I am ...rubbish
The main thing about me is ...my nonsense

I always...worry about nothing
I feel most like me when ...I've had an "episode"

What I like most about a person is ...intellectual power

I will be ...nothing
I get angry when ...I am myself
I feel happiest when ...(never)

I believe in ...nothing
One thing I want to accomplish is ...not being myself

What I like most about myself is ...(nothing)

I hate it when ...I am myself
I was ...once a greater idiot though.
I feel least like me when ...I watch TV

If you really knew me ...you would vomit
I feel weakest when ...I have no options
When I feel angry I ...keep it inside
On a rainy day I like to ...do nothing

I feel good when I remember ...(nothing)

When I'm alone I feel ...OK
Most of all I really want ...to be left alone
I was the type of child who ...blew his brains out with TV
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...(I can't change)

I feel strongest when ...(Never)
On a beautiful day I like to ...Do nothing
My favorite passtime is ...to do nothing and think
When I feel happy, I like to ...joke and laugh
If my relationship with _ dad____ were to end, ... I would most likely cry

My Child Within is ... an idiot

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ...intellectual

Most people don't know that I ...am really quite moronic

I give the impression of ...a genius

The mask I wear is ...one of intelligence

On the surface I am ...smart

The game I play is ...an awful game

I hide behind ...my father's intelligence

I wear makeup because ...(No Makeup)

The clothes I wear indicate ...that I am stupid

The car I drive shows that ...(I don't drive)

My job or profession shows others that ...(No profession)

The real me hides under ...the veil of intelligence

How long I've been pretending is ...all my life

How often I pretend is ... everyday

Who I Really Am

I am ... very confused about who I am.
The main thing about me is ...I have a lot of hostilities I have to surrender before I can live the life I want to live.

I always...try to act like I'm normal.
I feel most like me when ... I don't have to act normal.

What I like most about a person is ...their smile.

I will be ...okay once I learn to forgive.
I get angry when ...I think the world revolves around me and then find that it doesn't.
I feel happiest when ...I eat pistatio ice cream.
I believe in ...animals.
One thing I want to accomplish is ...self love.

What I like most about myself is ...my ability to be honest with myself.

I hate it when ...people/animals are hurting and there's nothing I can do to help them.
I was ...once unaware of just how angry I was and didn't realize that's what was ruining any chance of having any kind of a relationship with anyone.
I feel least like me when ...I am mean to people.

If you really knew me ...you'd see I'm just a scaredy cat who wants to be protected.
I feel weakest when ...I give up.
When I feel angry I ...don't think rationally and act stupid.
On a rainy day I like to ...take a walk without an umbrella.

I feel good when I remember ...how bad my life use to be.

When I'm alone I feel ...safe.
Most of all I really want ...to trust people again.
I was the type of child who ...had imaginary friends.
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...the way I express myself.

I feel strongest when ...I accomplish/try something I didn't think I could do.
On a beautiful day I like to ...take my dogs to the park.
My favorite passtime is ...writing poetry.
When I feel happy, I like to ...share it with others.
If my relationship with _my Mom____ were to end, ... it still wouldn't resolve all of my issues.

My Child Within is ...anxious to grow up already.

Who I Pretend To Be

I pretend to be ...strong.

Most people don't know that I ...think about what it would be like to have sex with them as they're talking to me.

I give the impression of ...being a woman who likes to listen to classical music.

The mask I wear is ...a woman who likes to listen to classical music.

On the surface I am ...easy to blow off the face of the earth.

The game I play is ...I'll protect you when I'm the one who wants to be protected.

I hide behind ...my dogs.

I wear makeup because ...it's easier and a lot cheaper than plastic surgery.

The clothes I wear indicate ...I'd rather not be noticed.

The car I drive shows that ...I have two hairy dogs that like to sit in the back.

My job or profession shows others that ...I like being independant.

The real me hides under ...anger when I'm scared.

How long I've been pretending is ...I stopped pretending about a year ago.

How often I pretend is ...when I know I have to fake it because my survival depends on it.

Who I Really Am

I am ... do not know any more
The main thing about me is ... lost

I always... worry
I feel most like me when ... it is summer

What I like most about a person is ... being able to listen, honest

I will be ... old
I get angry when ... people are mean to others
I feel happiest when ... the sun is out

I believe in ... god
One thing I want to accomplish is ... can not remember what my dream was in life, would like to find it.

What I like most about myself is ... I am there for my friends

I hate it when ... I can not figure things out
I was ... young
I feel least like me when ... everyone wants a part of me

If you really knew me ... you would think wow she is lost
I feel weakest when ... I am stressed
When I feel angry I ... hurt
On a rainy day I like to ... to crawl back in bed

I feel good when I remember ... my parents, my old home,summer and being young.

When I'm alone I feel ... nothing
Most of all I really want ... to know how to have fun
I was the type of child who ... was strong
One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... that I feel lost

I feel strongest when ... people need me
On a beautiful day I like to ... sit in the sun
My favorite passtime is ... ??????????
When I feel happy, I like to ... ????
If my relationship with _____ were to end, ...

My Child Within is ... still way to young, and lost

Who I Pretend To Be strong , happy, in control

I pretend to be ... same as above

Most people don't know that I ... was given a wonderful gift, and still do not know how to have fun

I give the impression of ... being blond

The mask I wear is ... me

On the surface I am ... nervous

The game I play is ... wish I knew how

I hide behind ... ?????

I wear makeup because ... I do not wear it

The clothes I wear indicate ... I am poor

The car I drive shows that ... I am not poor

My job or profession shows others that ... I am a hard worker

The real me hides under ... the bed

How long I've been pretending is ... always

How often I pretend is ... ???????