[JustAPixie]

It makes me so sad to see what the world is watching at the theatres and on TV today. They are becoming so desensitized to other peoples misery. Have anyone seen the movie Derailed? If you haven't, don't watch it. I rented it the other day because it had a good cast... and one of my favourites, Jennifer Aniston. When I watched it I was stunned. They explicitly show a woman being raped by another man!!!!!!!!!!!! I got so angry and felt so powerless at that moment, it felt like it was happening to me! Has anyone who has seen it had the same reaction? Or has anyone had such a reaction to another movie? It just felt so personal, like I was the woman in the movie... I can't get past that image!

sometimes these movie makers have experienced the same earlier in their life, and by making a movie about it they are hoping to educate others of the evilness around them, its not always meant nastily.

even though a majority of film makers are out to make money, some are educational. i have seen films where i think "that is just wrong"£ and i tend to go off the film, but some i see and think "aww thats a good way to educate and express certain subjects"

it depends on the film i suppose and how its interpreted by the individual. its natural to be effected by things in films, and i cant say how to avoid this except to research the film a little about the contents and if they are triggering to you, try to stay away from them.

im sorry you had to see that, it does effect people more than these filmmakers realise sometimes.

[Sabrina]

I am triggered by movies with scenes of domestic violence. It brings awful memories back and my reactions are often physical where I start shaking and shuddering.

I do think that a story or a message can be conveyed perfectly well without too much graphics.

Yes... that movie was too much, when it comes to showing the audience reality. I felt bad... watching it, and I haven't been raped... so you have been there yourselves... I'm so sorry... must be absolutely shocking for you.

[damajdancer]

This may sound a bit weird, but I have had that same reaction to a book. The book is called Speak. I read it because the author is my favorite. And when the worst part of it triggered me I was in school. It was the worst feeling ever, I felt helpless and unreal. Everyone asked me what was wrong, but I couldnt say. So now when I read I make sure what the book is really about.
A couple of weeks ago, I saw an advertisment for the premire of Speak on tv. Someone had made it into a movie, and just seeing that ad. triggered me all over again. It drives me insane.
So I know how you feel, and Im sorry that you have to feel that way, it stinks out loud!
Hugs hugs hugs,
-Megan-

[almostangela]

I have not been raped in this life, but I can't stand watching a rape in the movies and even though I'm pretty tough and not queasy about anything, that action I will not tolerate. Even the suggestion of it p****s me off because it is the same mindset as hurting children and defenseless animals. I read a book and the first chapter there was a rape and I tossed it out. I can only imagine your pain and I am so glad that you are seeking help and have chose to move forward. You are extremely brave and I wish I could wrap my arms around you.

[JustAPixie]

What got me the most about the movie was that it wasn<#t done for educational purposes, it was done in such a way as to shock the audience. I loved those old movies when all they would show was the couple kissing on the bed and then the lights would dim... That is so much more powerful to show love than actually showing people having sex. It's fine in an R rated movie, because then only people who want to see it would watch it, it warns you, but you find these scenes more and more in family movies. It's the same thing with abuse, they can just leave you with the suggestion of it and do not have to show it. I'm afraid to wonder what my kids are going to be watching one day in a pg 13 movie!!!!!

Hi Tanya,
I think in the right context-some rape scenes are neccessary to the story,as long as they're not too graphic or glamourized to look like rape is sexy and a woman who's being raped is disirable. I've seen a couple of movies like that and it was obviously done for the men who get off on those kinds of scenes and not for the storyline of the movie.
But even when it's neccessary for the movie and it's done in good taste-it's still extremely upsetting. But I think it can be a powerful tool though too because it can show the ugliness and horror of rape. By that I mean-I watched a movie with my brother and it had an appropriate rape scene in it that was done in good taste but was also very powerful. As we watched it together-I was sitting next to him on the couch and I felt my brother's body tense up and get stiff while it was showing. I knew it really upset him and I felt a consolation in that. So, I think it can really let a man know just how horrifying it is for a woman to be raped. I mean, my brother knew rape is a bad thing but I think when he watches a rape scene well done like that, he can really feel the trauma and hate of it.
I hope this doesn't offend anyone.

[JustAPixie]

I agree, but they should have a warning or something... but then, did hollywood ever care about anything else than money?

Nope.

[JustAPixie]

On the subjects of movies.... never watch tarantino's Hostel.
My brother made me watch it because he's a fan, but Ihave to say... gross!!!!!! That is the most grusome movie I have ever seen!

[Tycoon]

(((((((((((Tanya)))))))))))))

You are absolutely right they are making the world use to anything, It's all signs of the end coming closer.....

[JustAPixie]

That is why I would rather watch comedies these days, although there is only so much toilet humour I can take!