Why I dont deserve to be loved

Why I dont deserve to be loved

1. I push everyone away after getting close
2. I dont know how to react to anything
3. Im self obessed
4. I blame everyone else
5. Its always my fault
6. Self pity
7. Physically sick only at age 18
8. No one likes me
9. Everyone gets mad at me
10. I dont know how to stop the self destruction
11. Im negative
12. Im depressed
13. Im no good at anything i like
14. Im no good at anything period
15. Im a bad friend
16. I cause drama
17. Im not a good person
18. Im a leach
19. Im greedy
20. I cant hold on to people
21. I cant seem to be totally responsible
22. I depend on others to help me with life
23. Im crap
24. Im used
25. Im trash
26. Im ugly
27. Im lazy
28. Im fat
29. I have an eating disorder
30. I want to die
31. I drag people down with me
32. That im stopping this list at only 32....theres a lot more...believe me

IM A PATHETIC GRIMY NASTY PARASITE WHO DESERVES TO BE THROWN IN THE TRASH!!!!

love you guys....Inny

nah, is that list that deserves to thrown in the trash, such a list of negitives is the sort of put down and demolition of self that cults use to indoctrinate and control. Have you been involved with a cult that asks you to make such a list?

(((((((((( Iny ))))))))))

I hardly know you, but from what I do know about you, I can tell that you are very intelligent, caring & hard-working.

I agree w/ the poster above me (sorry, can't see your name & I forget it). I think that list would be better in the garbage. But, I have written lists just like that, so I know how you feel.

Take care.

Desy

Thank you

but yes..I have belonged to cult ...that cult was my Mother

I don't think you are a bad person... just bad things have happened to you. Now may I suggest that you take your list of negatives and turn them into positives.... I know I have days that, I feel just like your list. I have days that I feel ok.....
Take care, Lililth

I agree with Downy, it's the list thats trash, toss it away and let us make you a new one , I'll start it
1. Good listener
2. Has friends at PC
3. Good poster

okay who can add more?

Hi InACorner,

Why should you be loved? I believe it can be found in Desiderata, where it says, " You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here." You deserve to be loved.

Calm

((((((((((((((((((((INNY))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

HEY BABY, i never met you, but that doesn't matter - i still love you - you are kind, thoughtful, helpful, you think of others the list is endless, don't you ever think so low of yourself, we here at pc love you x millions. we're your friends and one day, i want to meet you, and i want you to meet my daughter whom you have helped too. throw that list away, it means nothing. it's not you.the inny we know and love in here is you. pm me sweetie anytime, i'm here for you. or e.mail me.

love you xmillions xoxoxoxoxox

keep going folks we need Inny to believe in herself again
Angie

Inny,

What would you tell a friend who was criticizing themselves so harshly?

Mom's can be very harsh almost by habit, thinking they are saying such things in your best interests while either totally oblivious of the impact or narcissistically and perhaps sociopathically relishing the pain caused, in their effort to control the situation.

Cult mind control, and cult think, so permeates many societies that few realize how prevalent and squelching of decent and exposure it is. The patterns of group behavior involved need more wide spread acknowledgement and change. I encounter it on these forums every time I visit.

Be well~Down

Why you DO deserved to be loved:

Because all of us here have read your list, love you still (even more), and accept you just as you are...................

omg...you guys your all so wonderful....(tearing up...need tissue) I mean I guess i cant be that bad if you guys like me...((((((((((((((((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))))))))))))
Thank you...I guess I do deserve to be loved...
I love you all from the bottom of my heart...I love you guys, Inny

Love ya sweet heart and please remember I only have good friends and your one of them
Angie

Inny,

You deserved so much better as a child. It wasn't your fault. You were only a child. You were only a child. You were only a child.

When we are abused as children, we learn to push people away to stay safe. We learn to do things to harm ourselves to try to hide our pain, while also hoping somene will notice how much we have been hurt and give us the help we are too afraid to ask for. As we grow, these things no longer helps us. We need now to grow to love ourselves and create safe relationships and lives of wholeness, love and peace that we really do deserve.

Whatever dysfunction we developed as abused children, and carry with us into adulthood, we have the right to heal and restore ourselves and we deserve help. If you can see your behaviors for why you have them, you can move to a truly healing process. It is not your fault you ended up here. But you can -- and you deserve -- to heal from your past.

I can see some very important things in you in what you have written since joining this site. I see you trying to share your pain, and that is important to do in order to heal. And just as important, I have seen you begin to claim a new life for yourself, one of dignity and companionship among those who understand what you have been through. You really deserve that, Inny.

I believe that together, we can restore our lives.

mtd

mtd......wow......

Hi inny

I read that list of yours, got through all 32 points, and I thought: I do a lot of those things too. But it's not what matters. Cause u can learn to live with all th bad sides of a person, and especially when there's a reason. Those 32 points don't really matter. At the bottom you write:
"love you guys"
And that's what stuck in my mind. You deserve to be loved when you give love too.

I think most people could write a never ending list of all the bad they do. I know I could. But our bad sides aren't so important. People don't choose who to love by the number of bad things they do.

(((((((Inny))))))

((((((((((Inny)))))))))) You are too hard on yourself, sweetie. You are starting to sound like me.