[RACEKA]

Can anyone recommend any readings (book, web, etc.) about working through childhood abuse when parents are deceased?

Thanks.

[mtd]

RACEKA, I don't have a specific recommendation about books. Those who abused me are still alive and I haven't dealt with the specific struggle of recovering with them gone. However, I just want to say that I have been in therapy with a number of survivors whose abusers were now dead. It prevented a confrontation for those who had not reached that point in recovery before the death and I know some people struggle with that. BUT, it did not prevent the healing process -- that I want to affirm to you.

You are not alone here, despite any of our differences.

be well,

mtd

[Kiya]

I would say the Courage to Heal Workbook.
THere is also the Courage to Heal - regular book, but i found it VERY triggering.

The Growing Up Again book i also found helpful.

some by Luccia Capichone (i'm not sure of the spelling) about writing with the non-dominant hand....

ummmmmmm..... there's lots out there... go to any bookstore and there's a whole section. =)
kiya

[RACEKA]

Thanks for your reply. I've read survivors healing stories when their abusers (parents) are living, I haven't read about survivors healing stories when abusers are deceased. I wanted to see how others feel in this situation.

My feelings get mixed up. My parents were my abusers and they are deceased. I almost feel guilty talking about them after they are gone. They are still controlling me from the grave. I'm still afraid of them. I feel like they are watching me. I know that can't be. I have a lot of hallucinations and hear my name being called. I know it's just the process.