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Mar 24, 2008, 03:58 PM
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I'm a survivor of childhood abuse I've been in therapy for a few months now. I've been having nightmares and flashbacks. When my T asks me about them, I just can't talk about it. It's like I want to but the words won't come out of my mouth. Has anyone else experienced this? If so, did you get past it and HOW?
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Mar 24, 2008, 04:10 PM
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it seems that when i have flashbacks that happens alot ... i have found that the memories are kind of stuck in my body... or i can see them... but can't express them in a cognitive way... i have found that when i sketch them it helps... to get to where i can start... actually i am going through it right now... my t is really good at helping me get them out... sometimes i can just write words... and he helps me expand on them... i hope this helps...lyn
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Mar 24, 2008, 09:19 PM
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mick07 said: I'm a survivor of childhood abuse I've been in therapy for a few months now. I've been having nightmares and flashbacks. When my T asks me about them, I just can't talk about it. It's like I want to but the words won't come out of my mouth. Has anyone else experienced this? If so, did you get past it and HOW? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> tme... just time
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Mar 25, 2008, 05:47 AM
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That is where I am so lucky with my t. If I can just give her a hint of what I need to talk about she will lead with questions, that I in turn feel...?compelled?...to answer. Admittedly it has taken 18mths to start opening up to the extent that I am now, but I am pushing myself to do it because she is making such an effort and so should I!!! So basically I guess it comes down to what kiya said- just time (and a great caring t that you fully trust).
take care and good luck (((((mick)))))
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Mar 26, 2008, 05:42 AM
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I agree with all of the replies............it is time, and cant be rushed. It was 2 years before I was able to mention anything and I still struggle every single time. Writing it down can be helpful, and then taking it with you to the session. Be patient with yourself.
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Mar 26, 2008, 11:15 AM
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Pick a small "corner" of what you see, unrelated, and relay just that. A smell, color, sound? What were you doing or thinking earlier. Surround it as much as you can and slowly relay more and more as you are able.
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Mar 26, 2008, 01:07 PM
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i didn't realize how powerful scents are in triggering memories until recently ... lyn
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#8
Mar 26, 2008, 01:11 PM
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I actually force them....I have this lavender oil that I keep in the shower...
I mix it with a little liquid soap and wash my face with it....and breath deep... There was a time once long ago that I was walking in this field filled with lavender with a special person... In the shower,,when I choose to,,,I can bring those two hearts together in that field, in that moment...and smile... Lenny
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Mar 26, 2008, 01:34 PM
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i love lavender too... i have it all over my house... i even buy lavender fabric softener... it is very soothing ... lyn
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