Pregnant? No way.

First of all, I'm only 14 I'm still a virgin but i haven't had my period in about 3 months. I'm feeling really nauseous mostly in the morning, night and afternoon, I have lots and lots of cravings, little bit of sore breasts, cramping and such. I went to the doctor today with my friend, he came to support me and such. he asked 5 of his friends whom were girls and some with a baby n such for their opinion and they ALL thought i was pregnant. Like I got date raped. So the doctor said the test was negative but i don't know why I've had all the symptoms! I usually get my period every month or so. Im really really scared!

(((cutbuddie))) I'm sorry you're going through this confusion..as if life isn't confusing enough at our age! If you're still a virgin, don't worry, you aren't pregnant. It's probably just a change in your hormones that is causing these things to happen. If you notice it goes on for a while longer, I'd see the doc again, just to be safe. But it's more than likely nothing to worry about

thank you so much! yeah I don't think I am either.

Well, I Would't sign up to play Mary for this year's Christmas pagent.

hahah me either!

if you are a virgin you are not pregnant. did you say you were date raped though? I am a little confused here.

Another thing to keep in mind is that periods for teenagers can be erratic. Especially if yours didn't start too long ago. If you don't find your symptoms resolving and you can't get an answer from your doc you might want to ask for a referral to a ob/gyn for a more thorough evaluation. Good luck.

There are many medical reasons for you to skip your period, some more serious than others. I'd definately discuss this with your mother and seek medical treatment. The women in my husband's family has an issue with this, I will not state the cause because it sounds more serious than it is, but do speak with your parents.

I would agree with the other women here, If you're a virgin you can't be pregnant. When I was younger I was an athlete and sometimes missed periods because of this. When you're your age periods can be erratic like that, did your mom have erratic periods when she was younger? It might be a wise idea to go to a doctor (obgyn) just to check it out. There could be a medical reason for this.

Of course you know you're not pregnant and I agree with AAAAA that your doctor should make sure everythings okay.

I'm sure it's just an abnormal hormonal thing, but it's the best of advice from the above to have yourself checked out by a gyn. If you've lost a lot of weight lately, this could have an impact too. I loved Nucking's response above. You couldn't be pregnant. I see no way you could be pregnant. Best regards and wishes in this time of some anxiety - billieJ

Have you been under stress lately? I've found that stress can either cause me to miss periods-or get my period earlier than normal, the nausea/cramping could be explained by stress as well. Being that your 14, your breasts are probably still growing a bit and therefore would be tender.

Still, if you skip another period I'd ask your mother to make you an appointment with a gyn to get checked out just in case.

OMG...thanks for giving me my first laugh in December!!! I will love you forever ~

Melanie

I've volunteered and worked for Planned Parenthood in four US cities for the last 40 years. If your period has not started by now and you are not comfortable talking with your mother or another adult you know, go to your doctor again...or to PP or a family clinic near you.

And...most importantly, read and learn all you can about being a sexually active and responsible person. There are a few inconsistencies and red flags in your post and I need you to know that bottom line YOU are responsible for YOU.

Please don't become a baby having a baby. Know how to protect yourself from STDs. And please learn how to avoid being a date rape victim.

Please, please, please don't hesitate to write me should you have any questions. Best of luck to you...please keep us informed?

~ Melanie

***just a warning that this might be a bit graphic**

hey sweetie,
don't know if you're still reading this thread and/or if you've sorted out what's going on. but just wanted to double check that when you said you're still a "virgin" that you meant you are not (and have never been) sexually active at all as opposed to say... letting the guy penetrate a bit, but not breaking hymen, or pulling out before he cums and/or yknow, doing whatever (i can give you all sorts of scenarios if you'd like!! ).
don't want to offend you in any way, but having worked as a counsellor for a little while i kind of get that some teens (and heck - even people my age! i'm 25) consider "virginity" to be something very specific, but sometimes you can get pregnant doing other sexual activity instead.
now, if your doc has run tests and said you're not pregnant, then great . my periods were erratic until i turned 17 and then they became like clockwork. so like others have said, it is probably just growing pains.
but if you reckon there is a possibility that you've had sexual contact with a guy, then maybe suss out the pregnancy thing further, ok?

i hope this doesn't embarrass you and anyone else in any way - and i'm genuinely sorry and mortified if it does. not my intention at all!! but yeah - just like i said - having done a bit of counselling in the past, one of the first things i learnt is that "virginity" means different things to different people, so you need to get a bit specific when you're assessing std, pregnancy etc risk.

xo deli
p.s. feel free to pm me if you want to chat a bit more in private, but no expectations because i suspect my frank talk tends to make people run in the opposite direction soemtimes .

deliquesce ~

That is exactly what I was trying to say. After years with PP I've heard and seen it all and know exactly where you're coming from!!

~ Melanie

I read that as all her guy-friend's friends thought she was pregnant and assumed she was date raped and got pregnant....

I've had those symptoms and I'm in my 20s. Sore breasts, months without a period..cravings and bloating but no actual bleeding. For me it was hormone issues...something to do with estrogen and progesterone. The first doctor was an idiot and tried to tell me I was stressed because I was too young to have hormones out of wack because I wasn't 40. I went to another doctor and they found it.

But at 14.. skipped periods are even more normal.. Your hormones are supposed to be out of wack at that age.

Also.. doctors like to always check for pregnancy even if you say you're a virgin or haven't had sex in months. It's annoying. It's a liability thing because if you are and get medication and something happens to the baby nobody knows was there.. their butts are on the line when the woman sues.

Wait..what does age have to do with it? I know guys over 30 who still think the pull out method works. They claim it has to be done *just right*. LOL

good point, confusioncraze!! reading over my post it really does come across as "naive teenagers" when it wasn't my intent at all. (but maybe i figured that if you were still trying the pull out method at 30 you would have learnt from experience by then?). heaven help us all .

I agree with you, Confusion...however, many teenagers truly believe that 1) it works and 2) you're still a virgin. In fact, there are a lot of misconceptions that teens believe...and yes, they are naive primarily because they "learn" from friends and word of mouth rather than from those who know. You also have to factor in peer pressure and the desire to be popular and teens who aren't knowledgeable are playing with fire.

That's why I stressed going to Planned Parenthood (or even its website) and learning everything about being sexually active as well as sexually responsible. It's not just about pregnancy these days...it's about death.

~ Melanie

I agree 'pulling out' is a completely unreliable method of birth control - the reason why is, because during intercourse small amounts of sperm may leak out way before the actual orgasm.

also um, mutual masturbation could get a girl pregnant, if a guy gets cum or pre cum near her vagina, or on her hands, anyway, you get the picture,

When i was first sexually experimenting before i actually lost my virginity, I was terrified of becoming pregnant. Then the stress of being pregnant actually made me get my period late.

oh no, poor crystal!!

yeah - there are *many* scenarios in which you can get pregnant without necessarily doing "the deed". i did a health psych class this semester, and our lecturer (american) told us that 80% of schools get an "abstinence only" form of sex education? does that sound right? because, if so, that really shocks me! how are kids (or young adults) meant to find accurate information about sex if they aren't being told about it when they first become curious about it?

Thanks you guys for all the comments and support. I was negative and got my period the next day, what a coincidence you know?!! like holy! but yeah. so i guess i wasn't date raped. but i have certainly learnt from this, and that is, to wait atleast one more day before freaking out, haha.