[salukigirl]

Im wondering why men are sooooo adamant about this. i know guys read this so if there is a reason, please tell me!

my boyfriend will get a sinus infection or something and instead of just going to the doctor, he will wait the month and a half it takes to go away on its own. well now he has some rash on his face. we have changed his razor, cleaned the sheets and pillowcases and he has used a 2.5% concentration of hydrocortizone. But it just wont go away! Sometimes it is hardly there and sometimes it's rampant. But he refuses to go to a dermatologist.

and here is the kicker. in january i got an extra $4000 for a federal grant for making the dean's list in the college of science. we paid off some credit cards and have left over half of it in the checking account just in case. so we have the money for him to go. and he keeps saying "well, once we get money..." about everything. and i showed him the checkbook last night and said 'then what the hell do you call all this stuff?!' and he still wont go to a doctor! what is it with guys and having to always act macho? is it a sign of weakness to go to the doctor or something? does it make you less of a man? im seriously curious.

This is a primo topic... and I have no clue either...

My son 23 years old... is the same way... putting it off and putting it off....

We... as women... worry about the men we love... and yet...can't "make" them go to the doctor....

[Rhapsody]

IMO - it goes back to their natural nature....... Men like to solve problems for them self and health issues just seems to another problem for them to solve - to do on their own.

[BalishBun]

Yes why are guys like that?!?! Its so annoying!

[glimmer]

In my relationship its the opposit. My bf goes to the doctor whenever anything is wrong, but he has to drag me kicking and screaming usually. I just hate to go for no reason. Usually they cant really do anything anyway so might as well wait it out, right?

[sunrise]

salukigirl, I don't like to go to the doctor either. In the last couple of years I have really tried to get better about it, perhaps because I had a problem that was serious and required surgery. But I have gone many years at a time with no doctor visits. I remember one time in the last decade I went 7 years without visiting the doctor. I preferred to deal with my medical complaints on my own. So I don't know if it's just a man thing, because I have been that way too. I think for me, it's more of a self image thing, that I view myself as healthy and I know enough about medicine to know that when I visit the doctor with minor complaints, they can really do nothing, or what they give you may not really help you get better too much faster than if you self-treated. Such as sinus infections--they will go away without antibiotic treatment, just may take longer. Or if I hurt my knee or ankle--it will likely get better with ice, compression, rest, etc.; do I need a doctor to tell me that? I have a pair of crutches at home if I really need them. If several months pass and the knee (or my cough or whatever the persistent problem is) is still bugging me, then I might go see a doctor.

[Perna]

My husband and I schedule our appointments together, one time slot after the other but occasionally they even take us together into one room and the doctor sees us both at the same time. My husband is a good "follower" :-) so I found us doctors when we moved and we went for a checkup, etc. and got into the rhythm of things. I didn't have a doctor, had never been sick when my appendix burst in 2003 and that was a very costly mistake. I have a doctor now and am getting to know him and me, etc.

[AAAAA]

Neither one of us enjoy going to the dr. My husband is better about it than I, he's diabetic, and knows he has to keep that under control.