grandma.

today i found out that my grandma has breast cancer.
i have absolutely no idea what to do. i lost my grandad to lung cancer when i was two, and both my fathers parents died before i was born, so ive always been really close to her- as have my entire family. i dont see her as much as i used to because we moved away from wiltshire in the country to london (about a 2 hour journey) a couple of years ago... but this news just scares the living daylights outta me. i cant bear to lose her completely. and i feel like im all alone. i dont want to talk to my friends about this- im normally quite an open person and as far as they know im dealing with "family stuff"- but i just feel that its better they dont know. and whenever i try to talk to mum about it, she just gets upset. i just want someone to listen to me and help me through this. i dont know how to deal with it all.

L x

I am sorry about your grandma hon. My best friend was just diagnosed as well so I kind of know what you are feeling. I cried like a baby when she called me. The good thing is alot of breast cancer can be cured. my friend is having double mastectomy soon with recontructive surgery along with it. do you know the type of breast cancer she has?

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i'm sorry to hear about your grandma. there have been lots of advances in cancer research and treatment. hopefully she'll be fine!

i just lost my gran. but she was 82 and her body just gave out. i was able to spend more time with her during her last couple months. and i'm glad i had that opportunity.

with you being quite young and probably unable to get to her for a visit on your own, perhaps you could start sending weekly cards and letters. i'm sure your grandma is scared too. and hearing from you might cheer her up!!

keep us posted. and take care!

thanks guys & i will. i used to send letters to her when i was younger but recently i just havent the time. i'll probably start making more of an effort now.
i think its called ICD or something.. im not too sure. but from now on my familys gonna visit every other week hopefully, so thats better than nothing.
i guess its kinda selfish though; i shouldnt just worry about my own fear... shes the one going through it all. i just dont get why, of all the people in the world it had to be her.
ty,

L x

i am so sorry.
i live with my grandma and always have, and i too am very close with her.
i don't know how i'd be able to deal with anything without her.
my heart goes out to you

I've experienced this before.

What I recommend from my own personal experience is to remain calm and try to be strong for your Grandmother. If your strong and encouraging it will encourage her to get better and fight this illness.

When I look back on my own personal situation involving my Grandmother and her illness, I regret not holding myself together when she became her weakest.

thats precisely what im afraid of.
i feel scared that im just gonna break down every time we talk about her now, and just feel like im about to burst into tears whenever im near her

i just dont want to make this any harder for her or my family.

x.