Depressed about Breasts

Hey all,
I'm miserable because I have really small breasts (34A)! I've always been insecure about them my whole life, but I thought I would get over it eventually, but I haven't!!. I always wear padded bras, my boyfriend says they're great the way they are, I've heard women talk about how bad it is to have huge breasts, and I'm not exactly a teenager any more (I'm 26) but I still feel REALLY insecure about them. I feel really unconfident, like I have the body of a child, don't deserve to be sexually active and I'm starting to wonder if I'm EVER going to be able to accept myself?? Other small breasted women don't seem to have any trouble with this and I so I can't work out why its so hard for me!!
HELP!!

Hi sweetie, would you like to swap breasts with me?? LOL
OK seriously now, you don't need to feel bad about them, even your BF likes them the way they are.
Let me tell you something about big breasts, they reallly aren't practical, it's like you always need to choose carefully what you wear and feel uncomfortable with lots of kind of bras.
I agree with you, they might look sexy sometimes but some other times they turn into eeeewww disgustingly huge, big, loose and just not much to look at!
I can't believe I am telling you this in a post that the world will read but I will, once you get pregnant, and breast feed, if your breasts are already, they will get bigger till you can hardly see the corner of the room, they will look ugly with veins decorating them and once you're done lactating and the milk goes away, they won't be nice and rounded, they will eventually look more like empty socks! Seriously, socks!
But as your breasts are not big, then there are many options to get them bigger such as wearring padded bras as you do, I'm not sure if you thought of silicon but I wouldn't advice as it affects the sensation and has many side effects on the long run, you can also wait till you get married and pregnant god willing and watch how your body changes, they might look much better after that
Honestly, I won't tell you this just to make you feel better but you're blessed and eventually, 34A is cute, lovely specially in bathing suits and really practical!
I don't think your problem is about breast, it's about loving yourself as you are and being more confident. If you can't consider your breasts beautiful, I'm sure you have a lot more to look at and feel good about.
Smile

Misse
I am almost 38 and have had 4 children and I am only a 34B and have always wished that I was fuller. Such is life..... you just have to find a way to accept it..... I totally understand what you said though and it helps to talk about it and know that we are not alone.

take care
Juli

Misse
I am almost 38 and have had 4 children and I am only a 34B and have always wished that I was fuller. Such is life..... you just have to find a way to accept it..... I totally understand what you said though and it helps to talk about it and know that we are not alone.

take care
Juli

I have had the same problem hon. I am overweight right now so mine are not as small as they once were. I always wanted bigger. I would consider augmentation. you can get either saline implants or silicone and bothe are pretty safe. if you choose to do it do it for yourself. not anyone else.

im exactly the same size as you - and i know how you feel. but going under the knife or anything like that... is a huge decision. my best friend's a 32 f and although i am jealous of the size and their effect on people, there are some things i dont. i.e - a smaller range of bras, backache etc. and for you, well the right sized bra can do WONDERS! try la seneza or m&s - they really do enhance your assets.

x.

no way would I ever go that big if given a choice! ouch! maybe a small D or larger c but never an F!

34 B.....no shame! theyre mine! lol

jeez, i'm only a 36C and i get depressed coz all my friends are like 40DD+ ... so i describe myself as having fried eggs with punctures LOL.

on a serious note... i really think women always worry about breast size...top big, too little etc. societal conditioning maybe that the size of your breasts actually matters as a woman as opposed to your nature? .. IDK i grew up the only girl with all boys LOL so i'm a bit in the dark as to female thinking ...help

Whoa, I'm a 32 DD and I would love to go down a couple of sizes. I think we always want something we don't have, and it's usually the thing that the other person has that she doesn't want, lol.

Hey, coming from a 36-nearly A (can't even fit in A's), I just want to tell you that I know how you feel, as I used to feel the same way. I was teased, embarassed, etc.
But now, I am 41, and I am glad that I am small. My husband is fine with it. I have had 2 kids and breastfed both. When I was "more endowed" (thanks to milk) I realized how much breasts can get in the way, so I guess now I am thankful. And, they still don't sag! Hopefully you will come to accept their size. (Now, let's not talk about other body issues, I have a ton!)
Take care and HUGS!

Just wondering... Are you thinking about getting implants?

When I was younger I was all: You should be happy with who you are! Never change yourself for anyone!

Then I grew up, I had my own insecurities. I still stand by: Don't change yourself for anyone else, but if you want to change yourself for yourself, I think that's fine.

I'm an A cup as well, and I think when I lose weight I'll be an AA - my mum has small breasts, but most of the rest of my family have big boobs - there is still time for me! :P

Anyway, whatI'm taking a long time in saying is, there's nothing wrong with having a boob job to make yourself feel better - discuss it with your partner first though, and make sure it's something you really want to do

Some people may look down on you for it, but those people simply don;t get it. Maybe they never had any major insecurities, and if they did it probably didn't have much to do with their bodies (Unless it was like acne).

Wouldn't it be great if those who want breast reducions could magically remove a cup size of three, and for them to appear on someone who wants bigger boobs?

i really hope you can overcome this issue.

i used to feel exactly the same way and swore that when i grow older i will get implants (i have hypoplastic breasts - very childlike like yours). i thought i was a freak, my breasts didn't look like breasts at all - that was until i was on a finnish forum and someone had started a discussion about "tubular breasts" (another term for hypoplastic breasts) and posted a gallery.

sure, in the thread, some people said hypoplastic breasts were ugly, the original poster should have had surgery... nasty stuff like that.

but i realised that if i did get implants, that just wouldn't be me. that would be me trying to fit into the society's standards. that isn't me. i've always wanted to be true to myself despite of my insecurities (trust me, there are a lot of them).

you can look at this in many ways, but this is what i think.

if one believes implants would make them happy - then i don't see why they shouldn't get them.

i'm just not the type - my conscience wouldn't be clear.

mental hugs to all from
katie

32 AA here can't even find bras that size. Interesting thing is that I can remember being really embarassed about that. One day when in junior high, a neighbor boy came over & standing at the door talking, he mentioned something about noticing that I was "getting older'" or some comment along those lines....can't remember exactly.....but I remember after that point, I was so embarassed, I would try to hide anything about me that made me look different than I always looked before.

Go figure, I came from a family of 5'2" mother & Grandmother both were at least a "c" & much larger & overweight than I even wanted to let myself get.......so at 55, I am still around 100, a 32AA & 5'2"......& just fine with it. Wouldn't want to be big especially when riding horses like I do.....thank you....I like being small.

It's just a matter of appreciating ourselves for what we are.....look at being small as having less tissue for cancer to form in.....thus less chance for breast cancer...(don't know if there is really any true logic there, but it sounds good...lol.)

Debbie

I am on the other end of the spectrum... I have always had big boobs... Was teased b/c of them growing up.. I was an early bloomer... Was always being accused of stuffing, had boys snapping the back of my bra and wanting me to prove to them that they were real and not tissue.... My dad would get uncomfy horseing around with me b/c of them... saying they were in the way.. he was paranoid if he accidently brushed against them... then it was the boobs that got attention from the boys and not me....

it wasnt until I was into my 30's ( I am now 37) that i began to love myself and my body as it is including the boobs. Until then I hated them... Felt they were in the way, uncomfortable, pple staring and so on... I have had 4 kids, breast feed one of them and currently am a 44 DD ... They arent perky, they are as one described.... Empty socks... play dough...and altho my husband loves them I must confess that if i could afford it I would have them lifted... not to say that I dont like them and embrace them for the girls that they are just would prefer them to be up where they should be... LOL... Its all about our own preception of our own self image I guess...

I hoep that you can learn to love your body and self just as it is.... (((Hugs)))

Honestly, I used to be an a, then a small b for a really long time. I even had pointy boobs (soooo unattractive to me) but then i put on a ton of weight compared to what i used to weigh and now they are small Ds and i dont want them anymore. I am destined to get skinny again and watch my boobs shrink! Stretch marks are so ugly. I think that tells me they were never supposed to end up a D. Hey look at Paris Hilton, shes famous and is one of the few who has not gotten implants, but yet she is so so popular.

And bigger boobs is not always to die for, I was trying on dresses and ive gained a lotta weight, and i would be a size 16 if it wasnt for my boobs. I am an 18 bc my boobs are actually winning the battle over my beer gut.

Hey! I think you should try to love your body the way it is. Besides take it from me I have 40 DD's and they are back breaking and I can't even find a cute bra to wear. I wish I could go down a few sizes.

woah im 32E i would give anything for a b/c im skinny too so i dont understand why there bigger than most peoples my age hmm it just makes you wonder, but i supose what we have got give will have to do.

I encourage those who aren't triggerd by pictures of breasts to google "what real breasts look like" You will find two galleries which show a variety of normal breasts. You will be surprised at what is considered normal.

IT IS ABOUT TO GET REALLY PERSONAL BELOW:

I am sorry your breast size makes you so insecure. I sort of know the feeling, but it's a little different for me. My breasts aren't small, but I am really insecure about them, anyway. Most of the women I know were embarassed and felt really......weird....about their breasts growing up when they had larger ones or developed early. My breasts never bothered me this way, really. For one thing, the people who actually talked about them were usually adult females, and not in any creepy way. I found it nosey and a tad rude, but that's about it. Besides that, I didn't mind if people noticed them. I just had a different mindset about it than most women I've spoken to. I liked it if people noticed them. I liked guys and I liked my breasts- for awhile.

But very soon- in middle school (7th or 8th grade), I think, but no later than freshman year of highschool- I stopped liking them. It became evident that they were VERY saggy. Also, I wasn't satisfied with the size. I wanted bigger. A bit greedy perhaps. But mostly, it bothered me that they sagged so much. People started to make rude comments, as well, about them being too big or being saggy. Also, when breasts get bigger they tend to show veins. Mine do somewhat, but I show veins in some other areas as well due to the type of skin I have.

Ever since somewhere in middle school I guess, I have not liked my breasts. I have been REALLY self conscious about the sag, unhappy with the veins, and now the skin is bothering me, as well. I have large pores on my face, and it seems to be happening to a lesser degree on my breasts. I feel gross. Because of the size of my breasts, the skin is thin, so it is easy to pinch or scratch it to a degree that doesn't seem like that much, and then end up with blood bruises, if you know what I mean. Little bloody spots beneath the skin. Also, I have had stretch marks on them since I've grown them. Even before they were this big, but due to weight gain and loss, its worse, as is the sagging. My Guess is, when you have small breasts and lose weight, you are less likely to lose so much in the chest, and get stretch marks. Not so when you are larger.

I understand why you want larger breasts, but honestly, it's my guess that most men pefer smaller breasts to these sag bags I'm carrying around! Plus, there is nothing unnattrative about smaller breasts! A lot of guys like them. Some prefer them. And I hear smaller breasts are usually more sensitive. This can be bad in some ways cause they're more sensitive to unpleasant stimuli, BUT it is also good in other ways since it could prob. feel more pleasurable, as well! Because your breasts are smaller, they will prob. age better than mine. I have had old woman breasts since shortly after I got breasts. You are also less likely to have such thin, easily bloodied skin, noticeable veins, etc., I'd guess.

A lot of men think smaller breasts are attractive. Sure, they may be less noticeable under clothes, but when the clothes come off, they are as good as anyone's! Also, keep this in mind- you can wear some really attractive clothes I could never wear without embarassment, and I mean clothes that would raise a man's blood pressure if you know what I mean. You know those tops that are cut WAY low down the very middle, going down past the breasts? I've seen some movie stars with them on, but I also found some for sell online. I'd love to wear a dress like that, but my breasts sag so much, I'd be embarrassed. I couldn't wear a bra under one because it would show in the middle where the split is, and while I normally don't mind if some of my bra shows, with this outfit, in that spot, I just don't think it would be attractive- but you could wear it, and the outfit is HOT. Also, I saw a woman online once- wish I knew who and where- who said she wore super high cut tops that women with larger breasts couldn't get away with. I assume she means the looser kinds, like cut off tees, cause the ones that hug, we could wear. But you know, I was a little envious of her ability to wear those tops! Also, while I will wear bras with the straps showing with a tank, I'd prefer not to wear them with strappless tops. You can wear a strapless, sleeveless top without a bra, and feel comfortable and look perky. Point is, if you feel they are less noticeable in outfits, captialize on the hot, attention grabbing stuff you can wear with small ones that you can't with the big ones.

What people never say about sag is this- it's not only a self esteem issue, it's a comfort issue. It feels bad physically when they sag, and I often have to readjust them to feel good.

It is difficult to get bras to fit good for any larger breasts, as well. And larger breasts do hurt the back. Also, they do get in the way sometimes. I mean, larger breasts have some benefits, such as less sensitivity for certain unpleasant things, and mine don't hurt as bad when people elbow them now as they did when they were smaller, BUT looks wise, I think my self esteem is no better for them, hanging as they do.

Sure you can get breast implants, but PLEASE really check it out. While I take some moral issues with this mass rush to surgically alter all of our breasts, I honestly wouldn't judge you if you had surgery because I understand. I know the feeling. I want a breast lift in a way, and may get one, yet. So, I would never judge you. But you need to know what you're getting into. You can lose sensitivity in your breasts. Sometimes partial, sometimes total, sometimes temporarily, sometimes permanantly. I THINK during first time insertion they can go through your navel or armpits, so you won't have to worry about breasts scars the first time, but implants are not permanant. They will need replacing. When they are replaced, I think they must come out through your breasts. Again, not sure on this, since I was more focused on a lift than the implants. Do your own research. But if they come out through your breasts, you will likely scar, and you may feel as self conscious about the scarring as the size. Also, you need a good surgeon to make them look natural, and sometimes when things are botched they can go REALLY badly. If you enlarge them much, you will prob. sag more. Again, this will likely make you self consious. You may end up preffering small breasts to saggy ones. There are many other issues to keep in mind, as well, so please make sure it is worth the risk to you. Also, remember, your current partner may not like the implants. I don't know if that's an issue for you or not. Keep in mind if you DO get it done, to check out the credentials and previous work of the surgeon, make sure it's clean, professional, and a well done job. It is best to be aware of the MANY different types of implants. Diff. sizes, different materials, different shapes, different placements (above muscle, partially under muscle, and completely under all the muscles), etc. Pick one that is best for you.

Good luck. I hope you learn to love yourself, and I hope you see, big breasts aren't exactly better- just different.