How to deal with rude disrespectful boss who calls you names?

For those of you who don’t know this already, I work as caregiver in a group home.

Anyways, I was having a few different issues with a couple of people.

It ranged from everything from having two people trying to steal my parking spot constantly.

Then they dismissed that. He was like, the parking spot is whoever gets to it first, not whoever was waiting for it first & that the spot doesn’t have my name on it.

Wth? I was always respectful to him, but he was rude to me most of the time.

He yelled at me & threatened to write me up when I got lost one time instead of trying to help me. He did at first, but thrn he gave up & insinuated that it’s easy to find, so I must be stupid. Be didn’t say that exactly.

Then he insinuated that I was causing drama too. He got upset at me sending ‘15’ texts in a row which is an exaggeration.

I told him that bringing up a legitimate convern isn’t about me being a ‘princess’ or a diva, ridiculous!

So his solution is to seperate everyone involved next month probably to different locations.

One lady lied about me ‘sleeping’ on the job which wasn’t true. I just closed my eyes for a few seconds.

It was in retaliation just for something stupid. I politely asked her & her friends to use headphones when they were listening to loud music & I was ignored.

I know that be hates me & I’ m probably only still here because they’re short staffed probably. They don’t have to many drivers too.

I’m one of the few drivers who are also reliable & flexible.

What should I do? He’s the main manager & H.R won’t do anything. It’s hard to even get a response back from them usually.

My only option is to contact the owner of the company maybe.

What should I do? What are my options?

The circumstances you describe are most vexing, and I can well imagine the disheartenment such treatment must bring. To be diligent in your duties, reliable in your service, and yet to receive only reproach, misjudgment, and even false accusations, is an injustice no earnest worker should endure. It is doubly grievous when the very persons set in authority, rather than offering aid, respond with disdain or censure.

It seems plain that you have striven to remain courteous and to uphold your responsibilities, even amidst provocation. That, I assure you, is to your credit. Yet when superiors will not hear reason and those above them in Human Resources remain unmoved, the burden indeed becomes heavy.

If you possess the means, it may be wise to keep a careful record of events—dates, words spoken, and witnesses where possible. Such testimony may one day be of service should the matter be carried further, even to the attention of the company’s owner. At the same time, continue to perform your duties with diligence, for steadfast conduct speaks louder than any accusation.

It may also be prudent, though disheartening, to cast your eye upon other opportunities where your reliability and flexibility may be more justly valued. To remain in an environment where hostility is constant and recourse uncertain is a strain upon both spirit and health.

Be assured that the failings you encounter are not a reflection of your worth, but of others’ inability to act with fairness and courtesy. Hold fast to your integrity, for it will serve you well, whether in your present post or in some better station that may yet await you.

Thanks for the advice. I will start to document things. I’m looking for a second p/t job. Most employers have treated be badly for some reason, so finding another job may not eliminate that issue despite me being a good employee. I’m introverted & shy & this kind of personality tends to attract abusive people.

Your awareness of the pattern is already a strong step forward. Many people walk through life thinking it is simply “bad luck” when, in fact, certain traits—like being gentle, reserved, or conflict-averse—can unfortunately draw out controlling or unkind behavior in others. That does not mean you are the problem; it means you may need to strengthen boundaries so others learn how to treat you.

Documenting everything at work is wise—it gives you clarity and protection. When it comes to seeking another part-time job, perhaps keep an eye out for environments that value structure and fairness (libraries, administrative offices, tutoring, smaller organizations with defined policies) rather than places with chaotic or domineering management styles.

You may also want to practice small steps of boundary-setting, even in low-stakes interactions, so that your inner voice grows stronger against those who might test limits. Being introverted and shy does not mean being weak—it often means you have depth and sensitivity, which are real strengths when paired with self-protection.