My adventures with my AA homegroup of 3 years!

Ok... so I go to my AA home group. You'd think that would be a safe and good place to be when you feel the tides turning from bleak depression to mania, especially when the home group members all know what I've been dealing with as of late. So, I'm all goofy and giddy and happier than I've been in months... accidentally drop my cell phone in the toilet before the meeting (quite funny, actually, but I'll save that for later).

The meeting gets out, and it was a really good meeting. We all make plans to go out for a bite, and I leave with my sponsee so she can cash her paycheck and we can grab my spare cell, and then we'd meet them.

We get the errands run, pull into the restaurant, and no one is there. I make calls to find everyone... no one answers. Then I call the last person that was supposed to be there... and he says, and I quote "Well, no one pays any attention to a ditzy broad". That hurt like hell... and I hung up on him. Everyone in the group thinks that its funny that they all changed their minds and neglected to call me and tell me... disregarding the fact that the restaurant is 15 miles from my home, or any of that. I'm hurt. I'm actually considering bailing on them... making my home away from home group my home group, and leaving them. Its just wrong, in my opinion, to laugh at someone elses expense.

Am I overreacting? I am so mad right now. Anyone with advice?

I think that is totally messed up. That is so not supportive by any stretch of the word. I wouldn't blame you at all for bailing and finding a new home group. I would be forced to start bawling if anyone in my home group did that to me. I would probably call them on it and find a new group. I'm so sorry they were so awful. =(
Rayna

If I haven’t met someone in an AA meeting that I don’t like, I’m not going to enough meetings.
The rooms are filled with people just like me, imperfect souls. Sometimes they say or do things that doesn’t set all that well with me. Sometimes they are just plain wrong.

But there is an axiom in AA that goes like this, “When I am upset, there is always something wrong with me”.

I read your post, and if the situation is as you put it, then they were indeed wrong. The book says that is as far as most of us took it.
It’s their fault.
The more important question I need to ask myself is what was my part in the deal. What if anything did I do to contribute to the situation.
Another thing the book suggests is to forgive wrongs done to me. Not because those people who wronged me will be better for it, but because if I can’t or won’t forgive them I may well turn a thoughtless slight into a resentment. And that is a real problem.

That said, my home group is very important to me. It is a place where I take strength. If that group can no longer provide that environment, then I should continue my growth by replanting myself somewhere else. But before I do anything, I talk it over with my sponsor. And even more importantly I talk it over with my higher power. If I get a green light from both of them, then I take action.

On the road to the good stuff,
Richard S.

Gee I'm sorry for this experience you had... but, yes, there are ppl with problems all over the world, and in every group you find...especially one specifically for ppl with a problem...

I'm not in AA, and am not in need of it... but I was very disappointed with some "heads" of a local hospital group for AA. I was walking down the hallway of the secure ward, and it must have been time for the "required" AA group session for those on the ward... and he (and other comments by others) said, Ok all you drunks get your butts out here for a meeting!
I was appalled that humans were not being given any respect. I was more troubled when, even though I was just passing through and not hospital-attired ? he assumed I was part of the AA group and tried to force me into the meeting!

His errors... did nothing to lower me and who I am. Please try to realize that you are not what others think, and that you are great for working on a problem you have discerned!!!

Ok... now I actually feel bad. The one who made the remark had just thrown out his back, and everyone else was being ditzy and forgot what we left early for. No harm, no foul, except for my skin being paper thin!

Glad it all worked out goofygirl!