[RainyMood]

Hello Community!
This is my first post and also the very first time that I`m going to talk to someone about my condition.
I am anxious all the time!Anxious because I want to be perfect all the time,in whatever I do.My mind never rests.And this condition takes away my freedom!If I do something not as good as I would like to do it,there is no way to forgive myself.
Sometimes if I think that I tried hard enough for something,I may think to myself that I could do better but at least I did the best I could at that time.But if I do something not good enough because I did not think too much about it there is no way I could forgive me.I mean,if I leave my mind wondering or day-dreaming,if I do not totally control my thoughts or my moves,I feel low,I feel guilty...
You may wonder why I am feeling this way.The reason is that I do not want to do a mistake that I am going to regret,something that would be an obstacle for me in the future.What if I do or say something that will make other people dislike me,or people that I care for will dislike me and change how they thought of me or how they felt about me...
And I do not want to change that!Trying to be perfect is a good intention I think.If I stopped trying to be perfect I would feel guilty again...But that anxiety and the sorrow after mistakes is...
That is my condition.Thank you for taking the time to read this post.Any thoughts would be appreciated.

we can't be perfect. i decided to try it once for a year and only made it to 10 months......

please don't be so hard on yourself. relax and some of the anxiety will disappear.......xoxoxo pat

[biplol]

{{{{{{{{{{Rainymood}}}}}}}}}}}} Welcome to PC!
You sound a lot like me. Mainly I do things so people can see how "good" I am. Just recently I started to relax a bit and find a way to be "good" just becuase I want to feel good within myself.
I know how you feel hon, I have anxiety and OCD, and it can be really hard at time. like Faye said, don't be so hard on yourself.
We are here anytime.
PM me if you ever need an ear~
Hang in there~

[Boopers]

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Welcome to PC.

I am sorry that you are so anxious. Are you on any meds? If not, that may help you alot.

None of us are perfect. We all have our faults and idiosyncricies.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Just do the best you can and leave it at that. Be happy with that. You did the best you could and so be it.

I know, it's easier said than done. But, if you pratice, maybe you would start feeling better about everything.

I wish you all the best. You are a great person and you should be proud.

Hugs,
Linda

[jacq10]

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First of all, welcome to PC! and you should feel good about yourself for opening up on here and telling us about how you've been feeling!

I agree with what fayerody said, that no one can be perfect. i do however understand that some people (myself included) need to have things a certain way, or have higher expectations of themselves. Just try and be easy on yourself ... focus more on the positive things in your life, what you like about yourself, what you succeed in.

Feel free to PM if you ever want to talk
Jacqueline

HI Rainymood.

I know those feelings so well, and yes they hold you prisoner. Life lacks spontainoity. Its like a monkey on your shoulder. I needed professional help to dig down and see where these thoughts and voices were coming from. I've since learnt that I will make mistakes because I'm human and thats what "we" do. I've since learnt that growing up I was made responsibe for things that I was to young to be responsible for so could never get "It" right, because it wasnt my job to get it right. It wasn't my job to be perfect.

Take care.

I also have perfectionism & it has limited my life in so many ways. One of them is that I dropped out of college in my junior year, because I was going to get a B in a class. I couldn't stand not having a 4.0 so I gave up. The stress was too great.

Now I don't try things, because I'm afraid I won't be good enough. That makes me a bit of a loser. I'm isolated.

My daughter has the same perfectionism, but she has been able to be "perfect"--top of the class in high school, college & law school, working on high profile cases, getting allocades from everyone, but she still doesn't feel like she is good enough. She's afraid that "they" will find out she is really not as bright as she appears, that she'll make a mistake, that she will be revealed to be a fraud.

I can't seem to get her to believe in herself. So either way you go--doing nothing--or totally excelling--it seems you can't get rid of these feelings of having to live up to some incredibly high standard. I don't know what the answer is, but I hope you can tackle this problem before it severely affects your life.--Suzy

[RainyMood]

I thank you all,from the bottom of my heart,for your very helpful answers!It is so sweet that I have found people who understand me...
I would feel too guilty if I stopped trying to be perfect,though...
I need a balance...
This community is great!

[Soidhonia]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central. I have to agree with everyone else and say a good therapist and medicaiton may be in order for you at this time. A good therapist and medication can help you regain composure and control over the things that you can not control or be comfortable with at this time. I hope the best for you in the future. Take care Soidhonia