social situations

at the end of the last school year, my bestfriend moved away to the other side of london. since then i've had an argument with my group of friends and have fallen out with them, and as much as ive tried to repair that friendship i couldnt. ive made new friends except this time i just dont feel comefortable being accepted by them. i dont say yes to outings, and i dont start anything new... i just dont want to get too close. and since being dumped for refusing to have sex, im now scared about relationships - i've since then had a boyfriend but ended it because of my paranoia about being frigid.

i just dont want to get hurt, but i dont want to shy away from everyone, i just cant take risks anymore...

so confused.

L x

Bananasarecool,

You’re ex-boyfriend is an idiot that tried to talk you into something that you weren’t ready to do, even after you turned him down. Good riddance! Soon you’ll see that you’re better off without him. Aren’t you glad that you made the choice you did? When you meet someone that truly loves you, he’ll be willing to wait. It’s a cliché but it’s true.

I know that friendships are difficult at this time of your life. You’re all changing and trying to discover who you are and what your goals in life are. Plus, girls aren’t very kind at this age. Please don’t be upset, you’re following your own compass and there’s nothing wrong with that. It take more courage to be yourself than to go with the flow. You need to be happy with yourself first, when you look in the mirror you should see an intelligent wonderful person. You’ve shown that you have good morals, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Can you get a part-time job to meet new people? That worked wonders for my own children. Good luck, this awkward part of you life doesn’t last long.