[mossanimal]

Who here has awesome ideas at the time nixed by a spouse or other loved one that are funny in retrospect?

The past 2 years for me has been trying to buy a miniature donkey, falconry and pottery. I went to see the donkey and called my wife about getting it and.. nope (followed by a week long tantrum). Then I secretly set up an apprenticeship to become a falconer and bought a bunch of books.. then the wife found them (followed by a week long tantrum. it still stings). And then I tried to become a potter (that didn't end well).

(edit: I forgot about the Viking mead hall I wanted to build and tried to convince my wife that I needed it for my business)

Anybody else?

Doesn't strike me as funny, honestly. :/ Unless you couldn't afford the hobby and that's why your wife was upset, I don't see why she should stop you from pursuing a hobby that interests you. Especially week long tantrums afterwards? Yikes! D:

[19J82]

The brand new twin turbo BMW I arrived home in one time seemed like a good idea....
The top of the range metal detector with which I was going to find hidden treasure....
The Audi A6....
Starting to paint the bedroom and the hallway, then giving up halfway....
The Mini Cooper....actually she loved that one!! The only manic purchase I've got away with, well that and a Caribbean holiday I booked at the same time as the Mini.
There's a bit of a theme with cars, I've bought a few more cars than what I've listed. A Pdoc I spoke to said she had a client once who would buy Rolls Royces when he was manic!
Obviously spending vast amounts of money isn't funny, but if I don't laugh I'll cry! And the metal detector was quite funny, I was convinced I'd find a Viking hoard of gold.

[mossanimal]

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

Doesn't strike me as funny, honestly. :/ Unless you couldn't afford the hobby and that's why your wife was upset, I don't see why she should stop you from pursuing a hobby that interests you. Especially week long tantrums afterwards? Yikes! D:

Guess you had to be there. :-) I was at least hypomanic at these times and manic when the pottery thing happened. That cost a lot of money because I abandoned my business suddenly to change to a career in which I had no experience. That one really isn't funny because the depression afterwards sent me to the hospital. Bad example.

As to donkeys and falcons.. they are very expensive and we don't have the facilities and I don't have the time because of my business. The tantrums happen when I can't pursue an intense obsession. It's a sign that I'm at least hypomanic.

Anyway... guess it's hard to relate without the context.

[mossanimal]

Great examples! Just goes to show that the results of impulsive mania can have boundaries due to income. :-)

And yes.. maybe not funny when these things happen. But it's nice that my wife and I can look back and see some humour in it. She won't discuss pottery though.

Originally Posted by 19J82

The brand new twin turbo BMW I arrived home in one time seemed like a good idea....
The top of the range metal detector with which I was going to find hidden treasure....
The Audi A6....
Starting to paint the bedroom and the hallway, then giving up halfway....
The Mini Cooper....actually she loved that one!! The only manic purchase I've got away with, well that and a Caribbean holiday I booked at the same time as the Mini.
There's a bit of a theme with cars, I've bought a few more cars than what I've listed. A Pdoc I spoke to said she had a client once who would buy Rolls Royces when he was manic!
Obviously spending vast amounts of money isn't funny, but if I don't laugh I'll cry! And the metal detector was quite funny, I was convinced I'd find a Viking hoard of gold.

[bioChE]

I started a dispensary when my state first legalized mmj. That didn't go over too well with my other half.

[mossanimal]

Originally Posted by bioChE

I started a dispensary when my state first legalized mmj. That didn't go over too well with my other half.

I can see how that could go south.

But that is the thing about this. Sometimes these ideas don't go south.

I should mention that the Mead Hall thing was significant because I spent weeks researching it, made a Facebook page, etc. There is no way I could afford to build such a large structure or have the time to maintain it. It would have been grand though.

[jacky8807]

Originally Posted by 19J82

The brand new twin turbo BMW I arrived home in one time seemed like a good idea....
The top of the range metal detector with which I was going to find hidden treasure....
The Audi A6....
Starting to paint the bedroom and the hallway, then giving up halfway....
The Mini Cooper....actually she loved that one!! The only manic purchase I've got away with, well that and a Caribbean holiday I booked at the same time as the Mini.
There's a bit of a theme with cars, I've bought a few more cars than what I've listed. A Pdoc I spoke to said she had a client once who would buy Rolls Royces when he was manic!
Obviously spending vast amounts of money isn't funny, but if I don't laugh I'll cry! And the metal detector was quite funny, I was convinced I'd find a Viking hoard of gold.

Good Lord if I had your money when manic things would go very very bad for me lol

[pirilin]

I had some money left from the sale of my business and wanted to invest in a massage parlor.
What's wrong with that?. Many men have 'em. The Missus didn't like my idea at all.
Ended up losing three months of the one year lease. And 20k in remodeling. Plus some salaries.
Nice classy place. With very discreet parking. two blocks away from the banking center. Chance of a lifetime.
At least I got a couple of massages "free".

[Naynay99]

I'm sure it's frustrating when you feel like you just HAVE to have or do something RIGHT NOW, and a spouse or s/o crushes your brilliant plans. But it's good you have somebody there to be the voice of reason for you, and keep you from doing something impulsive that could have bad consequences.

I'm pretty sure it would really suck to crash into a deep depression and have to deal with your 2 car garage filled with 6 brand new cars that are being shat on by a flock of falcons, while a miniature donkey covered in clay watches in horror as he spins round and round in circles on a potters wheel...

I do love me a new, brilliant, grand scheme that sounds like the best possible idea ever, though. Other than buying some stupid crap I don't need though, most of my crazy (and possibly kick as$) ideas never make it farther than my own mind. I'm an idea person but can't really bother with details to ever actually ever follow thru on anything... which is probably a good thing since I have no spouse to put the kabosh on them.

I once drew out sketches and started to create a prototype of a McD French fry carton that fits perfectly in a car cup holder and has a built in cardboard fold out slot to put the ketchup in, so u can neatly dip your fries into ketchup while driving. Totally stupid but I still sort of wish it existed as i can clearly picture it in my head every time i go to the drive thru!

[mossanimal]

Originally Posted by Naynay99

I'm sure it's frustrating when you feel like you just HAVE to have or do something RIGHT NOW, and a spouse or s/o crushes your brilliant plans. But it's good you have somebody there to be the voice of reason for you, and keep you from doing something impulsive that could have bad consequences.

I'm pretty sure it would really suck to crash into a deep depression and have to deal with your 2 car garage filled with 6 brand new cars that are being shat on by a flock of falcons, while a miniature donkey covered in clay watches in horror as he spins round and round in circles on a potters wheel...

First... that is hilarious.

Second.. Your first sentence is exactly the point of my post I think. The years before I met my wife I made an absolute shambles of my life. If it was not for her common sense and persistence in tempering me.. I don't know. I fear the streets.

Also.. these examples very much foster the idea that BP is a spectrum disorder and can affect everybody differently depending on degree of mania as well as the situation they are in. I was frustrated with my first pyschologist because he said I couldn't be bipolar because I'd never spontaneously spent thousands of dollars on new cars, or flown off to Thailand for a sex vacation on a whim, etc. I didn't say it at the time... but there is NO WAY I ever could have done those things given my financial situation. (now that I know more about all of this.. I now know that I DID make a very expensive manic decision a long time ago.. quitting my doctorate on a whim, leaving my fiance to drive to California for a new job, blow everything and do nothing but surf and fish and ruin my career)

[19J82]

Originally Posted by jacky8807

Good Lord if I had your money when manic things would go very very bad for me lol

The issue was that I didn't really have the money! The BMW got taken by the repo people when I fell behind on payments and the others were bought with huge loans I took out with high interest. Now I have a diagnosis I'm classed as being vulnerable by the UK Finance Authority so my bank shouldn't give me loans etc without a proper interview. I'm currently working on them to drop interest rate on the loan I'm paying off as I was clearly not well when I took it out.
And my wife made me sell the metal detector, still convinced I'd have found something!
Some interesting tales on this thread too, thanks everyone for sharing.

[mossanimal]

Originally Posted by 19J82

The issue was that I didn't really have the money! The BMW got taken by the repo people when I fell behind on payments and the others were bought with huge loans I took out with high interest. Now I have a diagnosis I'm classed as being vulnerable by the UK Finance Authority so my bank shouldn't give me loans etc without a proper interview. I'm currently working on them to drop interest rate on the loan I'm paying off as I was clearly not well when I took it out.
And my wife made me sell the metal detector, still convinced I'd have found something!
Some interesting tales on this thread too, thanks everyone for sharing.

Man.. If I were in the UK I would not be able to not have a metal detector. Never know when you might find another Sutton Hoo horde or a viking cache. Not to put a crazy idea in your head.. but you can find amazing stuff in the Thames estuary just by walking around at low tide without a metal detector. Thousands of years of wonderful human detritus is revealed. Check out the 'London Mudlarks' ;-)

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[Alokin]

Oh yes, there is a reason my garage has several street bikes, dirt bikes and a sports car in it LOL Good thing is my husband actually approves. Once I bought a boat and did not have a truck, that was stupid.

[19J82]

Originally Posted by mossanimal

Man.. If I were in the UK I would not be able to not have a metal detector. Never know when you might find another Sutton Hoo horde or a viking cache. Not to put a crazy idea in your head.. but you can find amazing stuff in the Thames estuary just by walking around at low tide without a metal detector. Thousands of years of wonderful human detritus is revealed. Check out the 'London Mudlarks' ;-)

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Don't encourage me! Haha! I walk the dog in the fields across from my house, and when they've been ploughed I can just pick up pieces of Mediaeval and Roman pottery from the ground. There's a really good BBC comedy called the Detectorists that I think probably helped me on that purchase.
The Mudlarks FB feed is really interesting, crazy what people find.

[19J82]

Originally Posted by Alokin

Oh yes, there is a reason my garage has several street bikes, dirt bikes and a sports car in it LOL Good thing is my husband actually approves. Once I bought a boat and did not have a truck, that was stupid.

I was one click away from buying a 32 foot boat on Ebay recently. I drive a an MX5 (Miata) so that would have been interesting!
Sounds like your husband's a man of taste, bikes and sports cars are great fun!

Spouses just get in the way of the inevitable. Divorce is always an option.

[mossanimal]

Originally Posted by 19J82

I was one click away from buying a 32 foot boat on Ebay recently. I drive a an MX5 (Miata) so that would have been interesting!
Sounds like your husband's a man of taste, bikes and sports cars are great fun!

Those boats. My dad spontaneously bought a sailboat on the way back from work one day... without discussing with family. Shortly after they were selling their home to move into something far less expensive. My dad has never been diagnosed.. but he's never held a job and so many passions and so many impulsive purchases.

The funny thing.. is that my wife DID make the decision to buy a boat this year. I certainly did not object. We had a very big tax return and some in savings.. and we live on Lake Superior and she really wants our kids to grow up here experiencing the islands. She absolutely runs the finances and knew that we could make it. I try to make my purchases knowing NOTHING about our money.

[mossanimal]

Originally Posted by 19J82

Don't encourage me! Haha! I walk the dog in the fields across from my house, and when they've been ploughed I can just pick up pieces of Mediaeval and Roman pottery from the ground. There's a really good BBC comedy called the Detectorists that I think probably helped me on that purchase.
The Mudlarks FB feed is really interesting, crazy what people find.

Oh so jealous. I live in an area where I can find fur trade artifacts... but England has got such an ancient history.. my favorite parts of history. I'm also a born treasure finder. I recently saw an article talking about the aerial photographs that show vast numbers of 'tomb raider' holes going down into Egyptian archaeological sites. Guiltily I can see myself doing this.

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[Alokin]

Originally Posted by 19J82

I was one click away from buying a 32 foot boat on Ebay recently. I drive a an MX5 (Miata) so that would have been interesting!
Sounds like your husband's a man of taste, bikes and sports cars are great fun!

I had a miata once! <3 Yea, he is a pretty awesome guy!

[19J82]

I love my Mx5, it's 24 years old now and I don't think I'll ever get rid of it!
Mossanimal, I just checked your profile and now I'm the jealous one. I regularly spend hours watching YouTube videos on forging. The Northmen channel is a favourite of mine, makes me want to forge knives, make log canoes and a wooden house!
The boat sounds great, I've always been interested in Lake Superior, probably because my dad was into folk music and Gordon Lightfoot's Edmund Fitzgerald was a regular song. My dad was bipolar too and he certainly had a few funny ideas over the years. I remember my mum's dismay when he left to go shopping and came back with a huge 1970's Toyota in bright yellow (this was around 1990).

[mossanimal]

Yeah forging is fun. Unfortunately it ends up being a small percentage of what I do because there is so much finishing work. But I do like it.. I actually focus when I'm at the forge. Too hard to drift when I'm polishing.

I also want to make log canoes, wooden houses, use my forge for making glass, melt enamel into things, bronze casting, jewelry etc. It's really hard to stay focused when you have a shop like mine and a brain like mine. I have the stuff to make just about anything... and I get myself in lots of trouble because of that.

Ha.. I love the Fitzgerald song. Come up here in the summer and you will find somebody singing it in every bar. When I first moved here I worked on boats in fisheries.. and the 'Witch of November' can be pretty ugly out there. Sometimes worst than what I saw on the Pacific.

Originally Posted by 19J82

I love my Mx5, it's 24 years old now and I don't think I'll ever get rid of it!
Mossanimal, I just checked your profile and now I'm the jealous one. I regularly spend hours watching YouTube videos on forging. The Northmen channel is a favourite of mine, makes me want to forge knives, make log canoes and a wooden house!
The boat sounds great, I've always been interested in Lake Superior, probably because my dad was into folk music and Gordon Lightfoot's Edmund Fitzgerald was a regular song. My dad was bipolar too and he certainly had a few funny ideas over the years. I remember my mum's dismay when he left to go shopping and came back with a huge 1970's Toyota in bright yellow (this was around 1990).

[mossanimal]

Originally Posted by 19J82

I love my Mx5, it's 24 years old now and I don't think I'll ever get rid of it!
Mossanimal, I just checked your profile and now I'm the jealous one. I regularly spend hours watching YouTube videos on forging. T.

Hey.. you should look up Owen Bush. He is an English bladesmith and offers classes and has gatherings. Great guy...

[Alokin]

Originally Posted by 19J82

I love my Mx5, it's 24 years old now and I don't think I'll ever get rid of it!
Mossanimal, I just checked your profile and now I'm the jealous one. I regularly spend hours watching YouTube videos on forging. The Northmen channel is a favourite of mine, makes me want to forge knives, make log canoes and a wooden house!
The boat sounds great, I've always been interested in Lake Superior, probably because my dad was into folk music and Gordon Lightfoot's Edmund Fitzgerald was a regular song. My dad was bipolar too and he certainly had a few funny ideas over the years. I remember my mum's dismay when he left to go shopping and came back with a huge 1970's Toyota in bright yellow (this was around 1990).

My WRX/STi is getting up there in years too, I hope to still have it when it is 24 years old too! How many miles are on it, mine just hit 127k!

[WastedFreesia1654]

Originally Posted by mossanimal

(edit: I forgot about the Viking mead hall I wanted to build and tried to convince my wife that I needed it for my business)

Anybody else?

Personally, I think the Viking mead hall is a little funny. In what way did you need it for you business? That's what I'm trying to figure out

And you're not alone - during one of my hypomanic states I went to several Goodwills in the area and shoplifted or bought (depending on the item) clothing and tried to sell it all on Ebay. I thought it would make me rich. Nothing sold. I've gotten weird business/moneymaking ideas each hypomanic state.