[lizardlady]

Fibro friends I need advice from those who understand.

I have a very good friend who has been shuttling between a nursing home and the hospital with a laundry list of health problems. She's back in the hospital. She's also Covid positive. She's asymptomatic. Covid is not the reason she's in the hospital. I'm trying to decide if I should go see her. As far as I know none of the docs have said anything about end of life, just that She's got a host of medical problems going on.

Part of me thinks I should go see her because it's the "right" thing to do. A larger part of me thinks knowingly exposing myself to Covid is incredibly stupid.

Complicating things even more she no longer answers her phone when I call and does not reply to texts. I'm sure she is depressed. Who the heck wouldn't be in her situation? But how the devil can I offer support if she doesn't pick up the phone or read her texts?

Part of me doesn't want to throw away a 50 year friendship. On the other hand, she started cutting me out of her life before she got sick.

All of that aside, I could use your input on the idea of visiting her given her Covid status.

[Pflowers]

I definitely would not knowingly expose myself to Covid @lizardlady ...

Not even up pfor consideration!

Especially with all the other health issues you have going on!

You stated that she had already started cutting you off before all this happened, so I'd attempt one more contact by calling the hospital & asking to be connected to her room phone (she may not have hers on her).

If there's no response, then perhaps send one last text letting her know you care & are concerned pfor her, and for her to call or text when she pfeels up to chatting.

Sometimes pfriendships end because they've run their course. It doesn't make it any less painful - especially one that's lasted so long. Doesn't mean anybody's the good guy or bad guy. Sometimes the path we've walked pfor a time simply veers off in opposite directions.

It's okay pfor you to practice self-preservation in this case; and ...

Do your best to not pfeel guilty pfor choosing to not expose yourself to this deadly virus!

,
Pflower

[lizardlady]

Thanks pflower. I needed to hear that from someone other than myself.

She won't answer her room phone. At this point I'm unwilling to completely let go of the friendship. Am trying to work on personal boundaries/responsibility. There's a part of me that wants to "fix" the situation, both our relationship and her health stuff. I can't do either. For now I am going to keep texting her and try to not expect a reply.

Thanks for listening. It's helping me work through this.

[Travelinglady]

Liz, could you send her a card in care of the hospital? (I don't know how these things work.) Do you know of her other friends who might take a card to her?

[lizardlady]

Based on a phone call today it sounds like they are getting ready to discharge her from the hospital. I'm afraid if I mail her a card there she won't get it. I can do that once she gets to the nursing home though. Good idea!

wish I didn't have a body sometimes

it really hurts- and even though my plans today are to do absolutely nothing, ow

not as bad today but still painfull and still took me a good while to dress

[Pflowers]

Takes a lot of courage to pface what we pface every day ...

[lizardlady]

Maybe I am finally starting to learn about taking care of myself. Yesterday was physically and emotionally exhausting. See my "FIRE" thread in social for details. Today I spent six hours driving to pick up a friend's cat that I am fostering. Don't know about you folks, but long drives set off my fibro and CFS. I'm exhausted and in pain. I'm going to practice self care and take a personal day from work tomorrow.

[lizardlady]

So glad I took a personal day today. I feel like I got hit by a bus. EVERYTHING hurts. Last night I was thinking of all the things I could get done today. I suspect sprawling on the couch and reading is all I'm going to get done.

[Pflowers]

Goodness @lizardlady!

No wonder your pain levels are off the chain ...

I am glad that the pfire didn't get too pfar gone before help arrived.

I am also glad that you took a day off to do a little self-care ...

It's important to have some down time now & again.

[lizardlady]

I could use another day off tomorrow, but have to go in

[Pflowers]

Happy Tuesday Pfibro Pfriends!

Changed the linens today!

Only took a couple of hours ...

Very slow & painful process with lotsa breaks along the way.

Now I'm sitting on the couch with my pfeet propped up going Ow! Ow! Ow!

Lort-A-Mercy!

Getting old(er) is definitely not pfor wimps!

May The Day Be Kind To Us!

more pain exclusively caused by showering. ugg

[lizardlady]

Today is a rough day. Am still in pain and exhausted from events last week. Between work, stuff in my personal life, pandemic and war in Ukraine I am overwhelmed. I don't do this often because I don't want to wallow in self-pity, but I've given myself permission to feel like crap today. I find that by acknowledging I'm overwhelmed at times, and putting a time limit on the self-pity, it helps me cope.

[lizardlady]

I made myself climb off the pity pot last night. Given everything going on I think it's legitimate that I'm down. Not going to wallow in it, but not going to deny it either.

Physically I still hurt like hades. Left hip and knee hurt like bloody blue blazes. Am spending the day sitting on a hotpad while I do paperwork.

[Pflowers]

I'm sorry you're in so much pain @lizardlady ...

That hotpad sounds wonderful!

The three blossoms on my orchid have pfolded up, but two more buds are about to bloom.

Betty The Orchid really outdid herself this time!

I hope your pain eases on up sooner than later ...

Pain Sucks!

[lizardlady]

Between fibro and arthritis I am close to tears. Sorry for being so whiny lately.

[Pflowers]

No apologies necessary @lizardlady ...

Chronic Pain Sucks!

I'd make it all better pfor us if I could.

[lizardlady]

Thanks hon. I hate being whiney, but damn I hurt! Am currently sitting on a hot pad trying to help my hip.

[Pflowers]

((( @lizardlady ))) ...

I don't know what the weather is like where you are, but if it's bouncing all over the place temperature wise, that certainly doesn't help. Of course, if you're in a pflare, that's no good either!

Whichever one it is, I hope you get some relief sooner than later, and I don't mind hearing you whine about it either! If we keep it to ourselves, it just seems to make it that much more painful & lonely!

[lizardlady]

Finally! Pain level is down to its usual background noise level.

[lizardlady]

Cold front headed this way. Pain levels climbing as a result. Fibro and arthritis are competing to see which can hurt more.

all you could hear today while I was getting ready was me screaming in agony.

it took forever and really hurt

[Pflowers]

Hey @lizardlady!

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