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Outwardly I still function. I haven't held a job for a dozen years or so. But this year, I'm the president of our townhome association. It's not a terribly important position but I still have to function. It's internally that my mental illness is gradually tearing me down. This is not any different than it has been all of my life really. It's more my ability to cope... to maintain control over it that has deteriorated. I've had 2 major suicide attempts, one just over a year ago. It's only through sheer force of will, & psych med's that I haven't tried it a 3rd time. ![]() ![]() |
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I think there is no reason to be embarrassed of your illness. some of us are going to get senile in the end and then where will we be? My mother's friend doesn't even know her own name and she's in her 70's. She wears diapers as she can't go to the bathroom alone either, it's like she's a baby again. She had several children during her lifetime, was and still is a great person. I also used to work in nursing home and some of the people were in the same situation as her. That is why I say not to be embarrassed about your illness, who knows, maybe you may not even know your own name tomarrow!
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It was heartbreaking. And, in a facility, you are totally at the mercy of care from people who may be worked to the bone themselves..your skin may break down, nurses will shovel meds into your mouth, aides food, you may not really want it but.... or be misused and unable to speak up. You don't get to the bathroom on time unless you can walk or you are able to get the help you need. Diapers need to checked and changed every two hours, people touch you, move you, even as you resist. There is pain in the end if something else doesn't kill you---and it is incredibly sad for loved ones who are no longer known. Being demented, losing memory and physical abilities, is not not being in some clueless happy/forgetful land. It hurts. It loves. It cares. It cannot express, eventually cannot eat or move... sorry so rambling. can't help myself and no reflection on you. There can also be beautiful times still, small joys and pleasures, my mom loved to walk and walk we did, she loved a present, the cat in her lap. For years, when she could no longer read, she carried a book in her hand. She did clearly avoid activities that reminded her of her own lost abilities (she was an artist--NO craft groups for her, no painting for fun, no museums...she was a cook, the kitchen became a place that didn't exist...a gardener who suddenly couldn't respond to flowers with a smile.) |
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I'd have to say now maybe I would be embarrassed in a way, if i lost everything as above, all i'm saying is enjoy life now while you have the time and abilities to do what you can.
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I'm sure it must have been apparent that I was having difficulty, but no one ever said anything or did anything to help (including my parents.) So my inclination to hide was reinforaced. I've written a number of times that if denial were blankets, I'd have been crushed by the weight! However, once I made my first serious suicide attempt, the cat was out of the bag, so to speak. After the 2nd one, it really became hard to deny. But now that another year & a half has passed, it seems I'm right back where I started. (That pile of blankets is starting to feel pretty darn heavy again- LOL!) It's just something that I simply don't seem to have the capacity to shake. In fact, writing this gives me an idea for a new thread which I think I'll put up shortly. You're correct too that it becomes difficult to distinguish between aging & aging with mental illness. I have quite a few short-term memory problems. I don't know if these are primarily just age-related or if they're more related to the effects of long-term depression & anxiety & psych med's. In reality, it's probably a combination of all of these. This would also make an interesting topic for a new thread. Maybe I'll write that one too! Thanks for commenting! ![]() ![]() |
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That sounds like a good idea Bedobones!!
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I've practiced meditation & studied mindfulness practice, done yoga & a simplified form of Tai Chi as well as other stuff. But none of it has made any real difference in my essential mental health status. In the end it always seems to come down to the same old thing. I'm just whacked (LOL!) Sometimes I think senility would be a relief! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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I actually had several head injuries, and I swear I'm senile sometimes. I hope I'm not is there any test for it, I am serious!!!! i'm on over 8 meds, maybe they are treating me for it and i don't know? Altimers? I wonder!! I also get seizures, what could all this be leading to? I don't think I want an answer!!!
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what is it you think you are achieving by 'hiding' a lot of stuff about yourself? is it worth the sacrifice of being free to be your true self, having peace of mind that friends and loved ones like you for who you really are not a pretend or false you? it must be very tiring constantly trying to remember what bits you have told to who. life although it may be rocky at first would be much simpler if you were not hiding things. i hid a lot of stuff for many years, trying to be what people thought i should be and was never happy at all, really depressed, and angry for not being able to be the real me. then i cracked up, and everything i had been hiding away came flooding out, ok i lost a few friends and family in the deluge but i came out the other side far more relaxed, liking who i was- the real me, and i found the friends i have now accept and like me simply for being me. |
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I'm crazy too!!!!!!!that's all I have to say!!
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I do know what you mean about questioning whether or not you want to know the answer. This is essentially why I never did contact the psychologist my pdoc recommended. It just seemed, in the end, like what's the point? It's not likely to make any difference in my day-to-day treatment now & maybe I'd just as soon not know what might lie ahead! ![]() |
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I guess all I can do is take it day by day, and understand why you wouldn't want to know too.
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I don't officially have any diagnosis. I have a tendency to get depressed and not enjoy life overall, and I'm frustrated how much of my life was spent solving social/emotional and social anxiety problems. I'm not where I could have been with some decent help early on. So, yeah. |
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![]() I sometimes wonder where I might have ended up if I had. I have said a number of times that when I was young no one wanted to get me the help I needed mostly because it just wasn't done back then. And now, nobody really wants to be bothered because I'm old & most of my life is in the past anyway. So sometimes it feels like I lost out from both ends. And, I guess that's part of the reason that I've finally come to the point where I say: just give me the med's & forget all the rest of it. It's too late to worry about it at this point! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Fortunately, or unfortunately depending on how you look at it, I don't have any friends. So I don't have to worry about what I've told to whom. And to everyone I know "professionally" I just remain the person they see in front of them, as do most people. So, the "theoretical"part of this is very complicated (the part about becoming my true self.) But the mechanics of it are pretty simple. I guess maybe that's part of the problem. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Not embarassed exactly. Just tired of being tethered to this...this...this "thing". Makes me grumpy.
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I don't see anyone from my life before MI, its too hard. Never was able to own my own house, or return to work although I tried many times. So yes, I'm very embarrassed about my failures. I'm so tired of living in poverty I don't want to envision living into the 6th decade.
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