So alone, feeling left behind, and no one to talk to

Hello everyone,

I think this is the best place to post this because I am feeling a mix of emotions right now. Jealousy, loss, inadequacy, failure, and just overall hopelessness.

A friend reached out to me tonight. A friend from high school who recently got married. She is now expecting a baby. She is also moving into my town.

All my friends from high school have husbands and have/expecting babies. Am I the only one left without these things?

Here I am at 33, living off of my parents, stuck on medication, overweight, and just miserable. Is this all life has to offer me?

I feel just lost. Left behind. And what's worse, I have no one to talk to. To tell this to, that will understand. My emotions are all over the place right now. I feel like crying, but I don't have tears. How do I cope? What do I do? Will someone just talk to me? Please....I am begging, someone just reach out to me......

I'll reach out

I am reaching out too, I see your posting all the time and would be glad to listen and share

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I just saw your post. I'm here anytime you need to talk I'll reach out You can PM anytime.

Thanks everyone for reaching out I appreciate it, feeling a bit better now. Still a little sad, but I am coping, don't really know what I feel right now.....

You are not alone. I have felt the same.

(((((platinumheart)))))

I feel the same way, you arent alone in this! Even though I have my own house and a job I still feel like im a failure and things keep going wrong. im 29, single and most of my close friends are getting into relationships. Sometimes I feel like they are drifting away. I dont know if I want kids...and a relationship for me at the moment would be difficult because of past experiences :/

Sweety, I am married with 3 smart, wonderful children (teens), a beautiful house, and an adorable puppy. I'm here because I feel like you, for the last couple of years. I finally started to cry again, so that's a start. This is gonna sound cliche, but find a beginner yoga class near you. DO NOT get tapes. Take a deep breath and go into the studio. If you don't like that class, go to a different one/studio. But most people who go to class don't give a rat's fart about what you're doing, they worry about them (and trust me, quite a few give their own farts). The exercise plus breathing and mindfulness can do wonders.

...are you letting that friend reach out to you? Will you see and speak with her? Please do, no matter what your fears...(((((((((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))))))))))))

I am reaching out, and sending you a hug (if thats OK).

((((PH)))).

Hi Platinumheart. Yes, you can reach out because we are here.
But won't a T be helpful? If you feel so lost and helpless maybe you need something more professional than us.
A T won't cure you, you will. But a T can help you find faster ways, he can understand your situation better and can show you a clearer path.
Yoga will do, friends are perfect and we are here.
But if you feel too down asking for help, just like you did here, is the right thing to do

Join Data in Star Trek. Good little clip. He is wearing a cowboy hat and is being a charactor. Only way to go.

Yes I am, I talked to her. But it made me feel awful afterwards because she has so much and I have so little.

Aww. That's awful. Allow me to give you this smiley to cheer you up. That probably either did nothing or made it worse. Ignore everything I just said.

when we feel so alone, we assume others have it all...((((((((((hug)))))))))))))

i am here for you too. i have to say i have a son who's 22 now, took everything i had and still does you've saved yourself from alot of hurt and worry by waiting for children, i can't handle it alot of times, i was always happy for my 40ish sister who never got married and she can do just about anything she wants. l live with my husband its hard sometimes to deal with different moods of either one of us experience, and i do feel a little guilty for not having more children, but i probably would have been thrown in a pshyc ward as i find it hard to even deal with one child. Just hang in there and i'm here for you to if you want to PM me too.

so true!!!
A german proverb I read long time ago goes:
You only see rainbow and happiness on other people's houses

PlatinumHeart, you can PM me anytime if you feel the need to connect with someone, even if on the internet.

Hi there. I had to reply to your heartfelt post. Yes, along with some others here, I feel those things too. I've kinda 'run out' of life for some things. I'm 54 so that explains the things I'll now never do. I still live off parents and can't see the day I'll survive alone. I'm here too, reaching out and hugging! XXXX

I feel the same way and I'm 25. When you said 'is this all life has to offer me?'...really struck a bell for me. I feel exactly the same way. You're not alone!

i feel the same, quite similar situation and sometimes i'm just too depressed to even search for help, but i couldn't help it and all i can say is, we're not alone, stick together and reach out for each other is the best we can do, and all i can do for you that feeling the same right now is to let you know that i'm here and you can always reach out to me, that way you might save me too... be strong.

I don't think you will always be where you are....it is just so hard to see beyond the walls we close ourselves into. My kids are grown, one is flying high and healthy, one is starting over and needs some help but he will be OK, and I am glad to be able to help as I can. It is an awful feeling, at your age, to be dependent, especially on parents. For my son, I am sure it is worse for him than for me (or his dad, who also helps, we are divorced) . In fact, there are things he does that help me. And you are not alone.

You are beautiful, You are strong, You are important, You were created with purpose a great being. On the surface things always look great we never know really what's going on behind closed doors. Be happy with who you are my friend. God don't make mistakes