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Old Apr 23, 2021, 04:18 PM
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I have noticed there are times that the issues that really bother me (only a few), really bother me, and there are times when I am aware these problems exist and I can’t fix them, but I am much more emotionally strong, stable, and focused on other things or even better able to deal with those chronic issues. . I’m not sure what affects the mood and why that colors how I feel about those negative issues. Just an interesting observation...
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Slept to 6 AM! Toilet overflowed close to bedtime. Sopped it up with lots of towels and will be doing lots of laundry today. At least it has been dry so our septic should be able to handle it....
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Old Apr 24, 2021, 09:32 AM
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I woke up feeling so bad, like there are daggers coming at me from several directions. R, D, C, S... Those interpersonal relationships gone in the ditch torment me and I can’t fix them. I need to learn to cope with the awful, haunting feeling of all that disappointment and abandonment.

I don’t like the person I have shown myself to be for decades, chronically depressed from these issues mentioned above. And I don’t feel a strong sense of self. I did not engage in my own life choices and be the person I wanted to be, because I did not know who that was or how to do it, when I felt trapped in the relationships with those people who dragged me under.
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Old Apr 24, 2021, 10:00 AM
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I hope it will turn out to be a better day for you, @TishaBuv! Sending you wishes filled with healing cosmic energy & love.
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Old Apr 24, 2021, 10:05 AM
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A spaced kind of day for me after a patchy nights sleep with sweats and shivers after my first vaccine, but think I'm over the worst of it now and feeling relieved.

A lot of stuff going on in my wider family, not quite sure how best to handle it. I'm now at that stage where the roles are sort of reversing with me and my parents, which is sad but I should look upon it as being fortunate to have so many good years with them. It's definitely a challenging life stage though.
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Old Apr 24, 2021, 10:50 AM
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I have an appointment today. The technician should be here shortly. I've been preparing my home all week for this. It's almost over with. I'll be glad.
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Old Apr 24, 2021, 01:41 PM
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I was doing really well, one of the better days than I've had in a while. I was really happy and optimistic and even a little motivated. But just now a minor thing has come up, again, and it's got me sinking fast. I'm fighting the negative though cycle I can see coming. I'm just so tired of having a good day get started only to have the negative take it away. I'm feeling pretty defeated right now. Like, what's the point? Why even get up in the morning and try to get through the day, when it would be so easy to just give up. I'm not sure I can keep going.

I need to get my pups into the vet soon, so they can get the required shots for kenneling. It gives me the option of not having them here.

Why Universe?!? Why can't I have one GD good day?!? Why do you have to take this away from me, EVERY FREAKIN TIME?!? I was happy for a change, why take that away?!? If there is a lesson in this for me, you're a really terrible teacher!
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Dear @AgentQ9A, please hang in there! These are not easy times, but things will get better!
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Old Apr 25, 2021, 03:35 AM
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I'm not coping well today. I have some things I have to do today and I don't want to do them. I wish I could take the day off but I have too many upcoming appointments. I have to get dressed today and that is difficult for me.
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I coped satisfactorily today. Went for a walk in the autumn sun which was the main highlight. I need to walk, to go outside, it's ingrained in me no matter how challenging such a simple act has become. I can't believe it really, but hey - mental health issues.
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Old Apr 26, 2021, 07:05 AM
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I am stressing this morning. Today is my appointment. My chest hurts from anxiety and my non-sensical voice is chattering away. I've tried some deep breathing and other self-soothing techniques, but they are not working. I'm afraid I won't feel better until I am home again.
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I am stressing this morning. Today is my appointment. My chest hurts from anxiety and my non-sensical voice is chattering away. I've tried some deep breathing and other self-soothing techniques, but they are not working. I'm afraid I won't feel better until I am home again.
How are you doing now? Hope all went okay.
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Old Apr 26, 2021, 09:58 AM
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I'm doing okay. There was a little bit of a stressful situation at work, we all had to pitch in, strangely I didn't feel stressed out and coped just fine. This may be because we all pitched in and I knew I wasn't alone. Things like this often overwhelm me so I'm pleased it didn't today.
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Old Apr 26, 2021, 12:30 PM
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I've been coping ok off & on.
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It started out as a good day for me but not for my brother. He lost his wrench. My happiness doesn't seem to last very long. my mood was kind of ruined after that. Here I have to get a tire fixed still on my riding mower and I will have to get it done asap.
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i'm scared out of my f-ing mind. and am just super exhausted. also feeling pretty alone - like outer space type!
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Old Apr 27, 2021, 05:16 AM
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I swaped automatic cat feeders out. That way my needy cat would have one that dispenses all the time. It wore me out physically. I am out of breath and dizzy now. I can't cope with it. I'm supposed to have a heart test done on Monday. But I can't cope with going. I just don't care what happens to me.
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It started out as a good day for me but not for my brother. He lost his wrench. My happiness doesn't seem to last very long. my mood was kind of ruined after that. Here I have to get a tire fixed still on my riding mower and I will have to get it done asap.
Was your brother in a bad mood about it? Or are you under some kind of deadline that requires your riding mower to work? I assume it must be own or the other or both since your day has been ruined. Hope you can find or buy a new wrench soon.
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I got triggered into a bad mood first thing due to still not getting what I want from h. I will never get what I want and need in this marriage. That would put anyone in a bad mood. It’s his bad inaction, when he knows I need him to act, and he promised he would act, but it’s me who is in control of how it puts me into a horrid mood and I must disengage from it. I will not let that a hole bring me down, not one more minute!
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Old Apr 27, 2021, 08:51 AM
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I'm really feeling sorrow for you guys. You are all trying so hard & important others are hurting you, not helping you. Very sad. I have painful problems of my own, but I'm not currently being hurt by the important people in my life, just my voices. God bless you, dear friends!!
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I'm okay today, a little low ebb, but self caring away. It's raining for the first time in weeks out there - into every life a little rain must fall as Freddy Mercury once sang.

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I'm really feeling sorrow for you guys. You are all trying so hard & important others are hurting you, not helping you. Very sad. I have painful problems of my own, but I'm not currently being hurt by the important people in my life, just my voices. God bless you, dear friends!!
Thank you BD! I hope you have a doctor and a form of therapy or a med that works to help with that. It sounds like it must be frightening for you. My prayers for you that the issue gets under control and you feel better. You deserve the best!
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Old Apr 28, 2021, 04:06 PM
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I am feeling fine and want to stay consistent. My goal is to not get angry and flee when faced with my trigger, rather stay calm. Grounded. I am feeling optimistic about moving forward in a healthier way.
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Old Apr 28, 2021, 04:19 PM
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How is everyone doing?

I had a good day, I knew I would, I met a good friend this morning outdoors for a walk with her dog and we had coffee too.

In the afternoon I motivated myself to wash down external doors and windows and that made me feel good. They had the filth of winter still on them!
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Old Apr 28, 2021, 08:09 PM
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I've had ups and downs today. At the moment I feel sad and lonely. I'm coping by posting on the forum.
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