freaking out.....

hi, i know this might not fit the topic, but i'm used to posting on this board so i think i'll stay here! one of the girls i'm sharing a house with, who has been consistently rude to me over the past month or so, has called a meeting tonight b/c "things need to be discussed"...i'm just scared her and the other two are going to gang up on me and give me a huge lecture and i might end up crying which i don't want to do infront of them! this girl has been writing me nasty littles notes telling me to clean such and such proply and now that i'm putting more of an effort into the cleaning (i'm not a big fan of housework, but i'll keep the shared areas tidy to keep the peace!), she has accused me of stealing her food! it was olive oil, which i don't even like to use for cooking but she wrote me a note saying it was none of the others so it must be me! i really can't stand her, but the problem is this is a fixed term tenancy, so i'll have to convince the landlord to let me get out of it and i'm not sure what my chances of that are, but i'm not looking forward to this meeting as i get the feeling it is directed at me and it won't be pretty! any support greatly appreciated!!!

I know it must be getting close to the time of the meeting... i would be feeling just the same as you. Just sending you +ve vibes and lots of support- and hey! What part of NZ are you in? And don't say you're a JAFA (from an ex-JAFA!!)- the F being...friendly!!!

I am sure you already had the meeting. I am sorry I didn't see your post until now. I hope it went better than you thought. My thoughts are still with you., Take care.

Well, it would be about 24hrs since the meeting, yeah? I'm hoping it wasn't so bad, and that things went alright for you and things got resolved. Again, best wishes xxx

Yes I am a JAFA but i've recently defected to the Mainland, Chrischurch to be exact lol! So whereabouts are you? Wow, cool to meet another kiwi on here, that's makes three of us i know so far!

the meeting did go better an i expected even though we didn't see eye-to-eye on a few things ( i am a semi-slob living in a flat of neat freaks!!!), but i guess all bad vibes are out in the open now, so ppl have whatever off there chest. i was a bit stressed about it today, actually ended up self-harming for the first time in a couple of months, which was dissappointing but it was only a couple of scratches along my arm and i didn't get a huge rush out of it or sit there starring at the mark in fascination, so i guess that could be a positive thing, and i did do really wel to go two months as two weeks used to be a big thing for me!

our posts must've crossed! I live in In'gill now, but my father was born in Chch- Leeston to be precise!. I know of Sezzie, you, me, and Drunksunflower (but she's not around for now). So there are a few of us...

But anyway, great to hear that things weren't too bad, and I can sympathise with living with a neat freak when you yourself are not quite that way inclined!! I LIKE things to be neat, orderly, tidy, clean but motivation (or lack of) + upbringing (I cringe everytime I walk into my parents house there is so much dust) + kids all factor into the equation. But I'm off now to do some tidying up- my ex will be here 2moro nite to babysit and I DO not need any more critisism than is necessary lol. Take care, and well done on going for 2mths with no self harm. I'm celebrating 1week 2days

lol...yeah, i think they did cross! anyway i'm feeling a bit more relaxed about being here now, i guess i tend to get a bit sensitive to criticism and me and her both just need to learn to live with a bit of difference, after all it would be a boring world if everyone was the same ( as my grandma used to say!). Well done on 1week 2 days with no self-harm, i know it can be tough (as i guess i demonstrated today!), but i am just going to consider this a fleeting relapse...kinda like the ex-smoker who takes a puff of a cigarette and stubs it straight out in horror, just to do a little analogy...so hang in there!