[enchanted]

What do we do when "friends" and "family" continuasly turn their backs on us? when we give them nothing but love and support and they abuse and betray us!
How are we ment to have peace in our hearts and any kind of self worth when the people closest to us, our blood, show us so little regard, when our suffering is ignored and replaced with their own self indulgence and selfishness.
We try so hard to be good people and open our hearts and we are given abuse and heartache for our honesty. ive lost so many people i though cared for me, ive tried to keep my heart open and not let bitterness get the better of me but we should not have to suffer because of their issues, its so unfair and so destructive, its a tough world and we are supposed to look out for eachother and be the soft safe place in a hard world but it seems that most people wll sell you out at a price, its hard to be optimistic and stay positive when you have been hurt so many times by family and friends and find you have nobody left in your corner.

[Dan12345]

Quite frankley society has changed? Back in the old days you went on holiday and the whole street made sure your house was safe, family looked after each other... Dunno times change, friends that are good to you are gold dust keep on to them, I love my friends they always stand by me.

[Opfwilllive]

The good people are hiding, they are afraid of being nice
I'm pretty sure I'm like your family, it might have something to do with making assurptions that "Blood is always thicker than water" and "family will never leave you".
I suggest you apply the Golden Rule, and see how they feel when you don't care.
Maybe then they will apprecciate you.

[enchanted]

Thanks for taking the time to give some advise guys
if only it where that easy to not care op
yea if nice people are treated like this i understand why they are hiding
i think i might go into hidng too
Thanks again

[Salvatore27]

Hi enchanted...really sorry to know you are going through this stuff...Keep your chin up and know the fact that you are a stronger person than those who let you down...You are a good person who cares about other people and if morons don't give you the respect you deserve then to hell with them! make a firm timetable believe me there are tons of activities you can pursue by yourself...Who needs losers when you can do so much better on your own...I have had my due share of hurt and despair at the hands of those I thought were people who cared about me and over the years I learnt that the best way is to give them the finger and move on...There's lots of support on this community so cement the thought in your mind that you will never be alone.. cheers!

[cluelesscher]

i'm sorry you're hurting. <3 the journey to recovery is slow if you have little support in real life for whatever reason - they don't understand if they've never experienced it, which is usually why sufferers are unable to get the kind of support we really want and need. healing happens, it's just slower. so, we turn to forums, therapists, groups, etc. <3 <3 <3 keep posting and remember you are never alone in this fight.

[enchanted]

Thanks Salvathor you are right, we sit here worrying about them and why they act this way and the chances are they are not worried, thank you for you kind words, im sorry you have lost friends but you sound like your in a good place and have moved on
Thank you clue for your kindness and support it is hard but i do believe we will be at paeace eventualy, its just hard when your in the middle of it.
Thanks for taking the time to listen and support guys

[Salvatore27]

You're most welcome enchanted...actually I learnt to deal with the fact that those people are not there to give me a dime! but I am by no means in a good position these days.. The pain of loneliness delivers mighty blows onto my face everyday...and the overwhelming pain has gotten so big now that I have become numb and lifeless...I'm sorry for rambling like this but I feel comfort by letting out the stuff that I keep locked up inside everyday...I've just learnt how to 'live' with loneliness, I have sure as hell not conquered it in the least!

[enchanted]

Im so sorry Salvatore you seem like such a kind person and dont deserve to be treated this way, it was so good of you to offer support when you are suffering so badly.
Its so heart breaking to hear how lonely you are feeling and thoes people who have hurt you are scum and not worth half of what you are worth, i realy hope you find some peace and a way to distance yourself from these people. Do you have a T or a pdoc you can talk to?
I know its little or no help but you can come talk to me anytime, i would like to help if i can.
take care and thanks for your support

[oceancries]

like someone said the good people are hidden. you have to look closely and you will find at least one good person in the crowd of bad. It takes a brave person to be good and go against what society deems as norm now.

[enchanted]

Thank you ocean this is so sad and so true the good ones have probably been hurt too so they have guarded there hearts. you sound like a wise person thank you for your support

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by enchanted

Thank you ocean this is so sad and so true the good ones have probably been hurt too so they have guarded there hearts. you sound like a wise person thank you for your support

You're welcome Keep being strong, enchanted.

[optimize990h]

I do not consider myself as good as I have my bad points. But hope u will feel better soon.

[enchanted]

Thanks Optimize we are not perfect we are all flawed but you seem honest about your imperfections and that is a good trait

[Corvid]

I'm just replying to the title... thinking, "Well she's right there posting about them! She's the good people!" haha It's hard to be the good people ;-). Stay strong.

[enchanted]

Thank you Corvid you are good people fo show they are out there we just have to do some digging i guess

[awebb198488]

Originally Posted by enchanted

Thank you Corvid you are good people fo show they are out there we just have to do some digging i guess

It made me smile when I read "fo show" my cousin and I say that to each other all the time.

[LadyShadow]

Thank you so much Enchanted for this thread! I often wonder where all the good people have gone. You have actually inspired me to create my own thread based on this same idea and some of my experiences lately.

Come by and comment!

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showt...37#post2758837

[enchanted]

Thanks aweb im glad i could make you smile
Platinum thank you for your kind words and support
I think this is a great idea for a thread, i look forward to
stopping by yours maybe together we can coax all the good people out of hiding

[awebb198488]

Not sure if I am "good people" but I am definitely trying not to hide anymore.

[tokiwartooth]

I wonder where they've gone too. I've cast off my dad's side of the family. We did nothing but try with them, and we got nothing in return. There are only three people in my life that I completely trust now. I can totally sympathize with what you're going through.

[gabmux]

Originally Posted by enchanted

Thanks for taking the time to give some advise guys
if only it where that easy to not care op
yea if nice people are treated like this i understand why they are hiding
i think i might go into hidng too
Thanks again

....sometimes I find isolating quite comfortable...
well actually...most of the time

[kharmarulz]

Thank you Enchanted for sharing. You have put perfectly into words my situation as well. Only those we care so much for can send us into this downward spiral. If only we could turn our emotions off and keep it moving. Stay strong my friend I think we have found friends here who understand .

[enchanted]

Originally Posted by awebb198488

Not sure if I am "good people" but I am definitely trying not to hide anymore.

Reading your thread it seems like you are a good person and trying to be a better person, i think thats all we can do, try our best to be one of the good guys, a lot of people are not that open about who they are and refuse to take responsibility for their actions,you seem to know yourself and you are trying and i think that is a great thing

[enchanted]

Originally Posted by tokiwartooth

I wonder where they've gone too. I've cast off my dad's side of the family. We did nothing but try with them, and we got nothing in return. There are only three people in my life that I completely trust now. I can totally sympathize with what you're going through.

Thanks Im sorry that you have tried so hard with them and they have not returned the efforts, you sound like a good person, at least you tried with them. I think there comes a time when we have to just walk away, if these people are a negative in our lives and we are suffering because of them it is just not worth it. I am glad you have people in your life that you completely trust, you are lucky to have 3 thanks for your support i hope your life is a little happier now that you have broken ties with them
take care