AHHHHHHHH I CANT DO IT ANYMORE!!!!

OK I haven't been this depressed in like 4 years when my parents first split up! I mean dont get me wrong im happy they are apart but you know but i just miss the whole family thingy i just dunno anymore it kindda makes me want to start a family of my own if you get what im saying but being only 19 that is not to to smart truthfully but who knows right i just want it all to stop spinning soooooo fast its feels like life is just blowen me by while i sit on the side lines i mean i know im only 19 but i should have accomplished more in life by now then just graduating high school and that was even late bc i was dumb and dropped out for a year and a little. but i dunno anyone know anythign that may help me out to be more motivated to move forword in life???? anyone who answers thanks for the advice in advance

wow heathery i feel EXACTLY the same way you do. Well maybe not exactly, but i completly understand where you are coming from because i am in a very similar spot right now. I know how frustrating it can be to not feel like you're really accomplishing anything, and feeling so frustrated with the things in your life that you cannot control. Are you in college or anything? Or do you have a job? I find keeping myself busy (even doing little tasks) helps to feel that sense of accomplishment. Are you talking to anyone IRL? ... Maybe i can try and help if i know a little more...

Hi Heathery, nice to meet you.

19 years old...same age as me. i havent graduated from anything, im in an average 8am - 4:15pm job 5 days a week, am single, family have fallen to pieces. have had un-imaginable upset in my life, and ive had so many points in my life when ive wanted to end it all, for good. but i didnt, and im still here, still standing. i have done nothng with my life yet...and i want you to focus on one word there, YET. you are 19, you dont have to accomplish anything yet, what do you think you should be doing with your life.

at this age, you are mearly starting your life, as i am. and there is a whole world of opportunities out there. there are people willing to love you, and one day you will start a family. but there is more to life than that. as a person you must have interests, some you may not have realised yet. but they are there. you are still descovering yourself, what makes you tick, and at times this will make you feel the way you are, but you have your whole life ahead of you, to do with as you wish. nothing is impossible.

just go with the flow, and dont tell yourself that you should be someone by now, or you should have a family etc, because you shouldnt.

stick at it yea, things do gradully improve over time, you just need to let them, motivation will increase when you find something you are passionate about.

your parents splitting up is a significant chapter in your life so far, and this has a great deal to do witht he way you are feeling right now. but its natural, try not to beat yourself up over it.

my family has exploded in the last few years, and im hanging onto a few family members ever so slightly. i dream of starting a family too, i look to the future and i see myself being a father to some wonderful kids, with a wife by my side who i love etc. and to be honest, thats what motivates me to succeed in life, so in the future i can provide a fantastic life for my family-to-be. try to focus on that.

take care heathery, and let me know if theres anything you want ok, im here for you.

simon

I know what you mean how you miss the family thing My mom and dad split when I was 7 years old when I was growing up I was wishing for some miracle to get them back to gether just for that but I was glad they were apart because my mom wasn't happy. but I miss it. I am 22 and not married and I so despearatly want to get married and start a family and I almost did until I realized that I shouldn't rush it and so I called off my engagement which was good becuase I didn't really love the guy. I decided I am going to be cauctious about it so I don't end up like my parents or like my mom being single and raising 5 kids on her own. about moving on with you life if you want to go to college then go to college or if you just want a job go get a job that is real fun for you and just go party and one day you will find the guy that you want to marry. does that help? sorry if it don't.

Okay... how about this... I am 43 and a mom of 2 boys.. one 22 one 16... I came from a very troubled childhood and I walked around life aimlessly...and this is what i think...

Maybe what you should do at this point is try taking those basic classes you are going to need regardless of what course of study you choose.... take care of getting that part out of the way while you think about what it is you would like to do with yourself.

And meanwhile, work a part time job and be young.. enjoy life... meet people and also.. try to think about what you have accomplished and not what you haven't been able to do.

Congrats on graduating!! To be able to say that after having quit once is a major deal I think! that shows you have determination and drive .. you just have to figure out what you are driven about... what is your passion?

Are you passionate about art? animals? medicine? nature? science? Think about it.. take your time.... be patient with yourself... and Good Luck!

I really honestly dont have anything to be pasionatie about ummm i mean dont get me wrong i like to cook and things like that hang out relaxe and things but nothing to be pasionate about who knows maybe one day i can think of somethign but if i continue to turn to cooking and food im going to become a fatty lol well not really but you know what i mean i guess thats just what i do i think that i am actually scared to i dunno not really grow up but go out in the " real world" if you get what i mean! I really didnt have a child hood or teen years they were pretty much ripped away from me by my "father" and another person who i cant really talk about without trying to do somethign stupid but anywho! i think no i know that is my problem and i honestly am truly scared to death of not succeeding in life like the rest of my family and i dunno i see them struggle soo much all the time not making that much money but too much for government help but for sure not enough to get eviction notices everymonth from our apartment complex i mean i dont want that i just dont knwo what to do about anything anymore it just beats me so i guess ill just quit rammbeling now and let you get on with your lifes thanks for at least taking the time to care

Heathery, my parents split when I was 5, I can remember trying to mediate their fights at one point. Now I'm 37. My memories of those days are clouded, but I remember how slow and hateful life seemed to be. I had to live with my mom who had issues but still tried hard, and would visit my dad who remarried and his wife had two kids, that abused me (she had two boys and I'm male). I failed grade 2 (figure that out). The abuse from my step-brothers stopped when I was in my teens, but not soon enough. It's impacts are huge. I married at 21, and my wife had our first son when we where 30 (1 month apart between us).

I held my son for several hours after birth. In my hands was a miracle; a chance to write a different history then the one recorded in my head.

I didn't know what to do with my life, I've had about 25 different jobs. I went in debt to go to college, lived in someones basement (not finished), used to sleep on the floor while in college cause I couldn't live with my mom anymore.

I finished my MBA a year ago. I don't have bi-polar, I'm posting on this board as a family person trying to help a family member work through his illness, but came across your post. You had an affect on me in reading your comments.

My story has good stuff in it, it has bad stuff in it, and stuff that just doesn't really matter in the end. Who knows how my story will end. I don't have any answers. For me all I could do is set one goal after another and work to reach them. I failed many times and succeeded in a few.

I know no comment takes away the self doubt, the questions, (and in my case self loathing) and angst about ones life, but you matter. As a person, as a human you have value, sometimes we can't see our value, but as the years pass our value to others begins to show. It takes time, and faith in yourself. Sometimes just time produces the answers one seeks.

Sometimes the answers aren't in words, but in actions, or experiences, or in the things we see around us.

For what it's worth those are my thoughts.