I'm so done with trying to reach out to people on here and not get any help back

Thank you I do consider people like you my friend you are very kind and I happy to meet you. And Thanks so much for the wonderful comments

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That's fine it's OK to vent thanks talking to me and Hey I will talk to you without asking for anything because I know how that feels and it can really suck.

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It kind of bothers me the way you posted this post. Granted I haven't been here for long, but I also have not seen you post. We all struggle and we are not professionals. This is called the Depression link for a reason. We all struggle with depression. The way you phrased your title and posts leads me to believe you want instant attention which I'm sorry to tell you, you will not get. We all try to give as much support as possible. If you want instant attention I recommend you call your therapist or psychiatrist. If you have neither, then try to find the county mental health office. If you have a live or die issue then please call 911.
Thanks

I'm sorry if I effended you but this is a problem I have, I don't want attention like you think I was panicing and I needed help and if you even know what it's like to be me when you are that upset and everything's going on at once I wasn't thinking clearly so I'm sorry if my wanting help bothered you so much to be rude about it.

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You are not supposed to judge people on this site and that is what Your doing and all of US are here to get away from that so please quit with the quick judgement.

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One thing that I have realized about myself is that all the years of feeling rejected has paralyzed me in social situations.

In moments when I should reach out to people, like if they're sick, I won't because I automatically think that I'll be a bother because I'm not important enough.

I then begin to isolate myself from people but in my depressed moments I see it as they are isolating themselves from me.

So now I'm tasked with trying to resolve and heal those wounds of rejection so that I can be more social and supportive of the people that I claim to love and care about.

I say all that to say: sometimes when we are at the core of a thick and dark depression we tend to not always see things as they really are. But I do understand that every now and again we need to hear, feel and know that we are important... Bazzinga1990 you are important

I don't believe I'm judging you, I am expressing how a collection of words makes me feel. As for not knowing how many issues you are facing DITTO. Since December mommy dearest blocked access to my inheritance because she is a vindictive *****, I lost my job because my life was so chaotic that I could not focus on my job. I got evicted by my SOB landlord who didn't have the decency to be slightly flexible with the rent. This was in spite of the fact that he was holding $4000 of my money as deposit and last month which he has yet to return. That was all the money I had and my choice was to move in the back of my car in Colorado winter, or god knows what else. I called my ex-in laws and they were not too happy with me moving in. I found a new place to live, I made a math mistake and was short $200. My new landlady wanted to evict me over the $200 and after I had paid with money I don't have for movers to move my things, they forgot my entire kitchen and I lost some very expensive items to the SOB. Then I applied for an IT job which had been offered in the past. This time I didn't get it because I didn't have time to prep and it was plain as daylight that had emotional issues going on. Who wants to hire someone like me. And how could I forget, TMobile cannot seem to understand the term "cancel my order" so they sent my new phone god knows where and they are refusing to fix it. I've been a customer for 11 years, you'd think I deserve a bit more respect.
You may have your issues, and I respect them, they are very important to you. At the same time, most all of us here have issues and they are all extremely important issues to us. You may not care that I was almost living in my car, I was extremely concerned.
All I'm asking is that you be a bit more respectful especially when you write "I'm so done with trying to reach out to people on here and not get anything back". In my mind think oh oh suicidal possibility, then when I read it, and find the same post on three other threads it makes me angry because to me it does appear like you are taking advantage of a peer group and not offering anything in return.
Thanks for reading

I understand what it's like to not get out of bed for days on end. I had a friend who lived 50 mi away each way who would drive two to three times a week to make sure I was still alive. I've been at this miserable disease for over 20 year both therapy and meds. I understand a lot more than I'm given credit because I've experienced it. I'm still far from well, hence this group, my therapy and my meds. But I also have learned a lot about myself and my triggers and how to address them in a proactive way.

I do not feel she was judging you or being rude. I think that she was giving you an honest view on how the post came across to her. When you post in a forum like this you are open to all sorts of opinions and feedback.You are not required to agree with her or anyone. To reject opinions you don't like as rude or judgmental only closes the door to honest and frank discussions going forward.

The truth is everybody struggles with a lifetime of communication challenges. Not everybody "hears" things the same way. If she interpreted it that way somebody else probably did too. If you are interested in your message through that is valuable information to have. I appreciate that kind of feedback.

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live2, I believe you misunderstood baz's original post. It is confusing when, as someone pointed out, there are 100 views on a post but only 4 replies.

I'm sorry I really didn't mean for it to sound like that believe me when I say I was not thinking clearly and this was a few days ago . I'm not proud of the Way I am when I get this bad mentally and I'm really sorry all that happened to you, it is not fair and I believe you should have been treated better then you were. Please don't hate me for my mistake on the title and stuff and as for the three threads do you mean they were of the same one as this? Cause I only posted it once. Still trying my best to learn how the threads work on here. But thanks for talking to me and explaining how you feel and a little bit about ur past. I really Hope things get better for you. Do you have a place ur staying at now?

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Time me this makes you a very strong person because even though you've have to deal with this for 20 years, you are still here and doing something about it. that is really amazing to me you are an inspection. To me like so many others on here. Thanks for sharing

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Thanks for that and that very much part of how I feel when I'm depressed. I do how you are doing better now? Hugs

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Hey bazzinga1990,

Love your username! I'm a huge fan of The Big Bang Theory and I can see Sheldon every time I see your username.

Starting off in a new community can be difficult, in real life and online as well. It takes time to learn about the community and how it works. I see that you were upset because you didn't have many responses to your thread but a lot of views. I just wanted you and the other members to know that people who are reading threads from outside of Psych Central (not logged in as members) are also counted in the thread views. Very often this is why there are so many views and what seems like so little response.

The other thing about learning how to fit into a support community is that if and when you can offer your support to other members, it would be great! It's when you can support others that you begin to gather acquaintances and from their friends. The way that makes a site like this run is the give and take of support. Sometimes we're good at supporting and other times we're more in need of support than we can give, and that's okay, it happens to us all.

I think you have found out that when we say something unsupportive about the members here, there may be some who kick back so to speak. That's why we don't normally allow members to discuss their issues with other members, either individually or collectively on the open forums. It's normally considered unsupportive and against our guidelines. I believe that I approved your thread and the reason I approved it was because it seemed to me like you were venting and kind of in a tornado where every little thing was being sucked up into the whirlwind and I wanted you to get the support you deserved. I can see that you have received good support in this thread and I'm glad for that.

Know that you are just as important as the seasoned member here at PC. Keep reaching out, asking for support, give support when you can and you will find that things will move along nicely.

Take good care!
sabby

thanks i love the show and sheldon is my favorite. to be honest, im not sure what is going on with me and i never meant to hurt or offend or most of all go against the rules but i was hurting and i do know that i have panic disourder so i know that had something to do with my post at the time and im sorry. do you think i should remove it ? cause im fine with doing that.

hi bazzinga1990 I so understand some of what you write about. I gave up posting in the ED area because i got 49 reads with not one response. And it was a post about my brother having just died. And how that was making the ED worse. When I saw how many people read it and didnt say a word or even send a hug I knew to give up. Finally I just erased the body of the post and never returned. I commend you for not giving up. You reached out and posted about it. I think thats awesome. And you can see the response you got. Awesome. Not like me who went away with my tail between my legs never to return to the ED area of the forums.

Hi sunsetsunrise-

I am so sorry to hear that you didn't receive a response and I am so sorry about your brother. I have been debating writing a thread about the despair I'm feeling right now but I've been afraid to do it. I need the support as I am alone with this but if I don't receive a response here I'm afraid it will send me over the edge. I am glad that you also returned to post here and to write about what happened to you and the lack of response. If you ever need someone to talk to I am here to listen. Take care and I wish you well.

I believe this thread has run it's course at this time so I am now closing it. Thank you all for participating.