thanks for listening

i feel so furtunate to be able to come here and talk about my feelings right now--it does not even matter if anyone responds---it helps just to express what i am feeling---i have been feeling bad for awhile now--i spoke to my therapsist and he said that he knows that i am strong enough to deal with this
my daughter moved in with her dad last year because i really thought it would be good for her--she was having a lot of trouble in school and getting into trouble---she has been there over a year and her dad does not want me to have anything to do with her--and now she has told me that she never wants to hear from me again
all i could think was how could something else bad be happening in my life? my daughter is over 1000 miles away and i cannot see or talk to her and she seems to have completely forgotten about me--she is 13 and she lived with me for the first 12 years of her life--i don't know how she can do this--and i don't understand why her dad would encourage this--it hurts so much
things are so horrible that it almost seems funny-- i mean no one can be this depressed--have their boyfriend leave her after 2 years and lose their daughter all in one week
i have no idea how i am doing this anymore
anyone thanks for listening and making me feel their is a safe place that i can go to talk

Hi there, and welcome!

First I would like to give you a big, warm, knowing ((((((((hug))))))))). I understand your pain to a degree and know how difficult it is.

Know that we're here, we understand and we care.

Keep talking...

KD

Hello I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time at this time. I wouldnt give up on your daughter or yourself. You can always write your daughter and still try to have a relationship with your daughter. You also need to think about your mental health as well and not let your mental health become too fragile if you can. You need to look after youself as well. I hope your therapist can help get you through this difficult time. Take care I hope the best for you Soidhonia

I'm glad you found PC to be able to put a voice to your sadness and frustration. When you were thinking rationally (?) you felt the best thing would be for her to go to her dad's. Perhaps you are second guessing that decision, but it might not be a good idea to try and change it back right now?

IDK.

What you can do is (as others suggested) is write to her, and ask her about emailing too. Maintain the best you can, because she is still impressionable and everything you say and do now will play an important part of her future judgments. She's growing up, and needs you to be "there" where you are, for her. Don't give her reason to feed the (wrong?) impression she has right now... things can and probably will change.

Don't force the issue, but take this time away from her to show her long distance love. She can't be in both places at the same time.

I'm glad that you have a T, and one who believes in you. I think you must be strong. Instead of giving up, you kept looking to help and improve and found PC!

Depression is a tough dx. Do your best for the day, each day and things will change. TC

My heart goes out to you. Hopefully, things will turn around.
Just keeping trying to make contact. As for the boyfriend, my ditched me after five years. I don't even exist to him anymore. The boyfriend you will re-bound but the daughter just go the extra mile for her. So sorry.

I'd call or write her father and see if you couldn't get a bit more information; see to what extent he's "encouraging" her attitude and whether or not he's fostering it with his own comments/attitude or whether she's just beginning to be a teenager and has a short memory and not a lot of experience yet figuring out how to separate from her parents and grow up.