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Jun 09, 2007, 01:10 AM
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Thats it. Im done being a victim. The truth is that *****es get what they want. Being nice has no value. Except for people will say "Oh she's so nice". Which is a euphemism for "yeah I pooped all over her. "
Like the man says "Either your a wolf or your a sheep-you decide" I decided. Im a wolf. and NO ONE is EVER going to take advantage of me again. new SN:"PetulantWolf"...last change!
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Jun 09, 2007, 01:38 AM
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I know what you mean - I tend to be on the "nice" a.k.a. "take advantage of Ann" side.
However, I do have to say something that someone suggested to me last week. When we are depressed, we tend to see everything in black and white, missing all of the shades of gray. Just suggesting that you find a happy medium between the two - ***** and wimp. It's a constant struggle for me. Hugs to you - sorry you are having a rough time. |
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Jun 09, 2007, 01:51 AM
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Yes, I think you ocalled the black and whit thing quite well but I see everything in black and white apparently even when Im not depressed- Im borderline. So I might as well just be a ***** and stick with it rather than get walked on...I have been really depressed lately but also am "a non-hostile borderline" ...well, I've decided to become hostile if it makes me less depressed then maybe a little hostility is not so bad for now..At the point Im at its fight back or die....and I have a little one so it looks like Im gonna fight...
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Jun 09, 2007, 02:12 AM
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Completely understand were you are coming from, you see it all the time the hard *****es winning......but then I realized it not a competition with them rather with yourself...YES take the high stand and don't be at everyone’s beck and call....stop being the victim............do what is right for you, you call the shots...........but don't get nasty....just stay firm.
Set YOUR goals and go get them. If you’re not sure about someone then you’re probably right... Don't forget that you are going to have to make changes that you may not like or agree with.........that’s the hard call and your way to taken a stand. Life's a ***** then it gets better.....!!!! |
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Jun 09, 2007, 07:22 AM
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you don't need to be a ***** to stand up for your self. just be assertive. it's actually not hard. it just takes practice to find the happy medium between "black and white".
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Jun 09, 2007, 09:20 AM
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Your total right adele96
just be strong...  
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#7
Jun 09, 2007, 10:44 AM
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No, you dont have to be nasty to stand up for yourself, but you do to get men to respect you...not that I give a crap about men anymore.
I just feel kind of dead inside but in a good way. Like if I needed to torment them for some reason I could whereas before I had some misguided principle about being nice and all, treating people they way I want to be treated. I imagine Ive been pretending that people in RL give a crap, trying to convince myself...with the boyfriend and all..I wanted to believe it, but I get it now and its fine. I have no reason to deal with anyone right now anyway. Independence day came early this year, babies.
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