[lmg103]

so yesterday i tried to go in to the counseling center at my school but got scared and ran out. and i told myself i'd try to go again today and i shoudl go right now but im not. i try to think of every reason why i shouldnt go and convince myself i dont need the help, when i really am struggling and do. blaaaahhh and i keep putting my school work first becuase im scared of what my parents will think if i fail even more classes. ugh i am not having a good day. i feel so down and just want to hide away forever.

[cantstopcrying]

I'll go with you if you want. You can print off my little fuzzy purple...thingy and put him in your pocket. There is no good reason not to go get the help you need. You can do it.

[gimmeice]

(((((((((( lmg ))))))))))))))
I am with cantstopcrying, I will go with you too. Just imagine a penguin holding your hand and giving you hugs.
It sounds like this is something that you need to do for yourself.I know that seeking help is really hard but life without that help is even harder.

[lmg103]

thanks to both of you! i'm gonna try to get myself in there sometime today before they close hopefully.

[cantstopcrying]

Will you check back in with us and let us know how you did? And don't worry about the funny you'll get with a penguin holding your hand and a flying purple fuzzy...thingy in your pocket---they'll just be jealous that we aren't with them

[turquoisesea]

yay! and add in a sea or maybe a dolphin for me - I like dolphins - or one of the dragons in my siggy

you do need to go, don't be afraid because the people there are around to help you... it's their job

Originally Posted by lmg103

thanks to both of you! i'm gonna try to get myself in there sometime today before they close hopefully.

[lmg103]

haha hopefully ill remmeber all those things with me

and yeah ill let you know how things go...if i go...

[x_BabyG_x]

I was scared first time too.

Just go for it. It does get easier, trust me

babyg x

[turquoisesea]

yay ^^
gogo!
you've already made it partly in once
that's a huge step I"m so glad you did

Is there anything specific that scared you about it?
It's just a room... I dunno how yours looks but in my school, it's a bit like a doctors office really, there's a receptionist, a waiting room, and a bunch of rooms for the patients to go to (for talk therapy, and maybe for a talk about meds). Sure doctors give you shots and icky stuff sometimes, but we all go to them. We get used to them.
When I was little, I hated the doctor (probably like loads of people)
And ya.... I HATED shots. I'd scream and try to get away they had to hold me down x.x yaaa that wasn't fun
Over time though, I've gotten used to it
my approach is more like
*sigh* here we go again *rolls eyes* at least I wont get whatever disease they're preventing *oooo it's over?*

Talk therapy has been like that for me too. I was SCARED the first time. I looked around, made sure no one was looking, basically crawled into the place. Now, it's more of a *sigh* here it goes again... gotta do it, gotta get better *walks in* *talks* *tries to get better*

Go today
Walk in, crawl in even. Just make it there
You need it, you should get it
definitely tell me how it goes

Originally Posted by lmg103

haha hopefully ill remmeber all those things with me

and yeah ill let you know how things go...if i go...

[cantstopcrying]

Originally Posted by lmg103

...if i go...

When you go



Bernadette Devlin:

Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win.

[lmg103]

i just dont get why i cant just go!! im so stupiddd its not that hard. i dont even know what im scared about. i just dont know how to express myself i dont know what to say i dont know how im feeling its all just bottled up inside liek it has always been all my life. there is so much that im feeling its overwhelming. and i hate doctors too!!! i would cry everytime i had to get blood taken or shots. and doctors offices creep me out..maybe thats another reason why im scared. IDK

i get want to get it over with already.

[turquoisesea]

you can go in
it's hard yes, but you can do it

you say doctors offices are scary to you, how do you go in? why?
those are the same reasons you should go to this
if you were really sick otherwise, if you were running a really really high fever, throwing up, shaking uncontrollably feeling really really bad would you go into the doctor even though you were scared?
How about if you got hit by a car?

A therapist of mine said "basically what happened to you is like an emotional car wreck. The problem is it's all happened inside you so we have to figure out what happened and how to fix it. It's just as serious as a car wreck"

Just go, make yourself go
you don't have to know what to say.
just make your feet walk in the door

[cantstopcrying]

If it's stupid then there's a LOT of stupid people out there--me included and I've always prided myself on being smart (I don't always make smart decisions, but...). It's not stupid, it's realistic. You're going to go spill your guts to a stranger...so this stranger is trained to deal with it, it's still a stranger. How much do you say, what do you say, do you start or let them start, is it ok to cry, will they judge you, what will happen when time is up? These are all soooooooo normal. Every person wonders this. They no it, they help you. Some prefer to guide the first few sessions, maybe getting background on you, some prefer to shut the door and let you take the lead (if you can't do that, tell them that). Sometimes I think it's easier doing it because it is a stranger, not someone you'll see at the dinner table or hang out with at the mall or movies. For what it's worth I hate doctors too...and I work for them!!! I'm a terrible patient. But we aren't the only ones out there. Trust me, they are used to it. You can do it. Think how proud you'll feel when you are done. You will have conquered a fear, and that's a great feeling. Will you take the dolphin, penguin and I out for ice cream to celebrate after?

[lmg103]

if i were that sick..i would go to the doctor because i cant hide that up. this is something i have been hiding for so long...idk. you sound right i just dont want to go. im going to shower and get myself ready for theday and then ill try to go. i skipped my classes this morning woopss

[lmg103]

ughhh i just don't know what to expect but....i'm going to go. and yes we can get ice cream after even though i dont like ice cream haha (i know thats not normal)

Originally Posted by cantstopcrying

If it's stupid then there's a LOT of stupid people out there--me included and I've always prided myself on being smart (I don't always make smart decisions, but...). It's not stupid, it's realistic. You're going to go spill your guts to a stranger...so this stranger is trained to deal with it, it's still a stranger. How much do you say, what do you say, do you start or let them start, is it ok to cry, will they judge you, what will happen when time is up? These are all soooooooo normal. Every person wonders this. They no it, they help you. Some prefer to guide the first few sessions, maybe getting background on you, some prefer to shut the door and let you take the lead (if you can't do that, tell them that). Sometimes I think it's easier doing it because it is a stranger, not someone you'll see at the dinner table or hang out with at the mall or movies. For what it's worth I hate doctors too...and I work for them!!! I'm a terrible patient. But we aren't the only ones out there. Trust me, they are used to it. You can do it. Think how proud you'll feel when you are done. You will have conquered a fear, and that's a great feeling. Will you take the dolphin, penguin and I out for ice cream to celebrate after?

[cantstopcrying]

Not like ice cream!!! GASP! I don't know if I can go with you then! Just kidding! How about a donut or anything chocolate? You go shower, we'll all go and it'll be good!

[turquoisesea]

lol if not ice cream how abouts some CHOCOLATE *.*
yummmy!
or pick your favorite treat xD
just a suggestion

[foreverlost]

[quote=lmg103;881555]i just dont get why i cant just go!! im so stupiddd its not that hard. i dont even know what im scared about. i just dont know how to express myself i dont know what to say i dont know how im feeling its all just bottled up inside liek it has always been all my life.

Maybe for now, you should just concentrate on the mechanics of planning the time, getting yourself there, sitting and waiting, getting up and walking in the door (using reinforcers, deep-breathing, whatever works for you)rather than why you're having such a hard time. You can do that once you get in the door!

I put off going for soooo long because I was petrified and I, too, cannot express emotions verbally very well. It's tough. But, hey, you're young! You don't want to be saddled with this! Please do go!

[lmg103]

we can get chocolate

[turquoisesea]

Yayayayayayay=D

Originally Posted by lmg103

we can get chocolate

[cantstopcrying]

Come on, hurry up, shower, get ready....chocolate is my number one motivator!!1

When you are ready, you take a deep breath, think of the things we've said, you can do it, you are doing it to get healthy, it will be fine. You open that door, reach in pocket or look down at the penguin and dolphin and take that first step. Then keep going, breath deeply and know you aren't alone.

[lmg103]

ok ok im goiing...thanks guys

Originally Posted by cantstopcrying

Come on, hurry up, shower, get ready....chocolate is my number one motivator!!1

When you are ready, you take a deep breath, think of the things we've said, you can do it, you are doing it to get healthy, it will be fine. You open that door, reach in pocket or look down at the penguin and dolphin and take that first step. Then keep going, breath deeply and know you aren't alone.