No Help For Me?

I've tried reaching out with my T, on different Forums, with friends, through books, movies, reading online etc. but is it possible that there is no help for me? should i just turn back to SH, alcohol, and abusing meds?
is it really nothing and no one able to help me?
i feel so alone and so left alone with my struggles. i've always tried doing everything by myself but sometimes i realize i need some help too. but what can i do if when i ask for it and look for it, there is nothing that helps? where should i turn to?

SH, abusing alcohol and meds are self destructive behaviors. What is it about the help that you request that you aren't getting help for?

I'm sorry you are struggling with this. You know... I'm an old man now (well sort-of... it's complicated...) And I've been struggling alone for almost 70 years now. Yes, I am married. But, in a sense, that makes me even more alone than if I really were alone.

At this point, I've accepted there is no help. So I just keep doing what I've always done... putting one foot down after the other day-in & day-out. I am fortunate, at this point, I no longer have to go out & earn a living. That is a blessing. I have a routine I pretty-much follow every day. I don't really have to think too much about it. I just do it.

I don't SH anymore. Nor do I drink or use drugs. I simply live with the storm in my brain 24 / 7 / 365. And I strive to accept my circumstances with lovingkindness & compassion to the best of my ability. That's what life has come down to for me. That's what there is left. I guess perhaps it's like the old saying goes: "If you find yourself at the end of your rope, tie a knot & hang on."

i am not getting any help in how to live, not even survive.

right now im struggling with ED, OCD and sui thoughts and feeling lonely and abandoned with no help from anyone or anything. help to live and survive each and every day. its so hard.

im shutting down cause i've lost any hope

Sinking, there is always some hope, even the sliver that you are communicating in this forum. That means there is a hope, no matter how insignificant your mind is telling you. That is also the reason why I joined just yesterday.

Facts and truth are different. The fact is that you are indeed feeling. The truth is that there are people who care, even if it is just the one message you see from one of them today.

The fact is that the message may not change the situation you are currently facing, or the lack of significance that your mind is telling you that you lack, but the truth is that all people have significance. The messages, however, that you may see on these forums may help you to change your perspective.

Change your perspective, change your thoughts. I know it is easier said than done, as I struggle with that practice myself. Even if the significance that someone replies to your post is a start, it is still significant, right? If you see that, look for the next stepping stone, then the next. Waiting sucks, but each stepping stone is one more step to closing the gap between where you are now, and where you want to be.

Thank you CLP

What about DBT? Or a life skills class? Support groups?

Some of the therapists I've seen through the years, especially LISWs tend to have been generous with guidance as far as any additional programs etc that do exist. Sorry to read that yours don't give an ounce of guidance/direction/support.

I have the same feeling of sinking into a hole I can never get out of. I was sensored on one forum because my explanations of my problems were explicit. There is no where for me to go, no family members to help me cause they cannot find out about me, it would be devastating to family and friends. Some of this is my wife's fault and I have been thinking about divorce a lot lately. I just keep myself locked inside my bubble and try so hard not to get myself into any kind of trouble.

I'm in the same boat as you.
I can't get any help.
I hope someone will find a way for you.

I believe there is help for everyone, but we have to help ourselves to the best of our ability, if we cannot find it elsewhere.

I felt that way and still do! I suffer from addiction, depression, anxiety and SH. You aren't alone!! This takes willingness and courage. The real trick is to stay out of willfullness. I'm no expert but living in the present does help.

I know for me I had lousy T's for 13 years & no real support network though my mom let me come back when things got bad at home but then the stress of staying her was bad in a different way than with my H....only time I felt like I got any support was when I was in the medical or mental hospitals. I was in & out a lot during those 13 years.

Fast forward.....a move 2100 miles away to where I knew no one. Found an awesome T who taught DBT. I learned & worked hard for an intense 2 years & went inspite of having a compression fracture in my back for the first 6 months. T didn't just magically work.....it took a lot of hard work. I had met a few people who I had become friends with & found a community that actually was very supportive of each other even the "new kid on the block(or on my farm)". I do believe from experience that having supportive people in one's life is critical. I am a very independent person who has always been an "I can do it myself" kind of person but this move was very humbling & I came to KNOW that there are times I need help & times I give help to others. This community comes together & it has made me see just how critical good support is in the healing process.

I had tons of baggage I moved with. PTSD, anorexia, depression, anxiety.....but for me getting away from the bad environment I was in in my marriage was the first door opened so I could start healing & learning who I really was without having to live around the bad stuff 24/7.

My first PDOC gave up on me when I kept attempting suicide with many close times. No other help worked either during those 13 years. Everyone felt there was no hope....it was my last hope to leave & I had no idea it would make such a powerful pisitive impact on my life because everyone had always told me "you can't run away from your problems".....that may be true in many cases but there are times it does work....& that was the only time I was finally in a place where help worked. I finally was able to put energy into my healing instead of full time energy fighting my environment. Sometimes we don't even see how bad the environment has been until we are out of it & can look back objectively instead of being totally emotionally involved.

Just some thoughts from my own experience of feelibg no hope for 13 years.....after I had a break down.

Yes, I am all alone too and need help. But, I agree with Deejay that if you can't find help, then you must help yourself as a priority. Thus, don't drink alcohol and abuse yourself all alone. If nobody is there for you like me, you will realize you are truly alone and need to care for yourself because no one else will. I am all alone in a foreign country. I do everything alone except meeting people. It is hard to do all things by yourself. However, if I did not help myself, I think I have no option but to fade away. I can't move back to my parents' house because they won't accept me. I have no friends nor family here. I truly understand your feelings about nobody wanting to help you. But, you must find it within yourself to make the right choices and not hurt yourself first. Nobody wants to be with others who are needy and always dependent on them for help except for babies and children. If you are an adult, please make do with what you have for now and help yourself to the best of your ability. If this means changing your therapist, then do it. If this means, finding a support group near you, then do it. If this means, taking your medication daily, then do it. There are many things you can do in your capacity if you need to find help some place somewhere.

I told my T tofay. Theres no help for me u

Did your T really say that, to you? What about reporting them?