If you could have coffee with anyone on PC ...

I'd pick as many of them, that can fit into the room.
and with the large volume of members, we'd need a banquet room.

I love you, Jax.

I'd like to meet canders and jacq and Rap, and Jax of course, and mssumom and Angie and EJ. And I'm surprised so far no one has mentioned Doc John. I'd love to pick his brain for an hour or two! LOL

i would love to meet sab,snowy,caj,muffy,dessy,jlove,tymber,dec,katheryn,jefftele,gordon,heyjoe,nina,lilith,simon,lucky,mel.inny,izzy,kk,versus,jax,rio,canders.sweet,sky,soid,agony,rayray,fayerody,sept morn,madmusician,mentalpollution,windward,reesie, jg, sh, omigod lets just all have such a big meeting somewhere lol i wanna meet everyone and docjohn.

love y'all x millions best group of peeps i met ever in my life

love,

but first of all bronee and fuzzy and i would have to meet up for a picnic in fuzzys cave and drag em along lmao

love you x millions kezza

Fuzzy and I are going to have a private ice cream and complaining party in her cave.

freewill and rhapsody also cos they're so always there when you need em. love you guys simply because you care and love and give out such great advice

love

I'm sorry I read this thread. Now I really feel like %#@&#!.

I like the idea we had in chat awhile back of getting a cruise ship that would go all around the world picking people up, go around the world again, and the go around the world dropping people off. Its the only way I can see to make possible meeting everyone here!

And the Doc could wear a sailor hat!

I'm sorry I read this thread. Now I really feel like %#@&#!.

(((( okiedokie ))))

It's ok okie. I'll meet you for coffee.

okie I would be honoured to meet you also

obviously its a good thing we dont drink coffee. I dont like this thread

yeah okie it can be hard when some forums allow threads that list folks and others do not. whenever anyone creates a list it opens the opportunity for someone to feel left out if they weren't on the list. some threads in kudos or creative can be hard to read when they're listing folks that ppl want to thank or give kudos for as if we're not on one of the lists we might feel forgotten about or unwanted or other feelings that go along w/ not being included.

but online, like RL, has many groups from which to choose to be with. often when feeling like one group has snubbed there might be five other groups ready with open arms to accept new folks into their fold.

with disease/disorder how one views group dynamics varies with the degree of illness. when depression or anxiety for us are high then we read things into situations that aren't there. our depression colours how we perceive things. when feeling cruddy we see only the cruddy and negative around. when not feeling so low from depression we can use more rational thinking to challenge thoughts of not being included or such.

we hope you can see that this isn't a popularity contest or anything like that. it is merely a silly thought that a member had and wondered what others input would be.

it is easy to see how it could be read differently when the mind isn't running on all pistons.

((okie)) hope you know that whether or not you're on anyones "list" you matter, you count and you're worth it.

recently i was PMed by a moderator that people felt excluded by a thread that i had in CC.

on that thread were people who had reached out to me when they were in severe pain and there were people that i had reached out to. it was where i was at that very moment. that moment only. these were people who were talking to me at 3 in the morning and trying to get through a night of pain and despair....and it went that way for me also.

i don't feel that i have to include everyone here when i've only had contact with a small group and we've been helping one another through some really hard times.

i did nothing out of malice and it was totally silly, to me, that someone complained enough to turn me in.

kudos is just one continual posting of the same names over and over and over. it doesn't bother me in the least. i am who i am and my friends here know that.

i hope that you don't feel too hurt, okiedokie, as i know this thread was just started as one of those "what ifs".......it wasn't meant for anything other than fun.

like zen says, we view things different because we have mental illnesses and if we shut everything down here, there wouldn't be any PC.

i'd have coffee with you..........i love your NAME!!! xoxoxo pat

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obviously its a good thing we dont drink coffee. I dont like this thread

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I agree with the above post! I see my name, but am hurt by the thread When I saw it the moment it was created
my first thought was "oh no what a huge trigger for many of us". I am grateful to be on some of
your lists, but I remain hurt because I do not like to see others hurting. Many people were not mentioned and I think this
may upset them. I know it would make me sad. Does this make sence?

I don't much care for this thread either. I don't think it was created intentionally to play on people's insecurities, unlike some posts during the time I've been here....don't we all have them? Flaws, fragile parts, insecurities?

Several people PMd me saying they are hurt by this thread.

I must say I was most honoured to be on a couple of peoples lists. Would you believe it?!?

Life is like a box of chocolates

I agree! I work with young ppl and we recommend that they don't single others out publicly and say "____ , _____ , _________ are my best friends". It can lead to hurt feelings and making ppl feeling left out of "the group".

Call me dense or too wrapped up in myself or whatever else anybody here has ever said about me, but I don't see the fuss. To me this is along the lines of "what 5 people, living or dead, would you invite to a dinner party?" It strikes me as an innocent question asked for fun.

We all know my .02 isn't even worth .005, so keep that in mind.



CB

I don't mind this thread at all. I like thinking about the folks here at PC. You are all so interesting to me.

I understand that some people may feel left out. But it was clearly not intended to be malicious, and that feeling of being left out is something everyone has to cope with in real life. At least here you can comment on how you're feeling about it, and we can all talk about it. And tell you that we want to have coffee with you too! I think talking about the situations where you feel uncomfortable (or left out) is in and of itself therapeutic. But I don't think it's a good idea to suppress uncomfortable situations (unless they're clearly malicious/designed to be hurtful).

Sidony

I understand your point, but being a coffee addict I must confess, I felt left out, one doesn't have to call me twice for me to run for a cup of coffee, and with a doubleshot of espresso, I'm in coffee lover's heaven.
Just being lighthearted, me.

I don't think I could choose! there are many here that I have talked to ALOT and others not ever or some sometimes. all are interesting though.

I have to admit that I was afraid folks would start feeling left out of this thread. Its much like the Kudos forum. I know I rarely see my name there and sometimes when I'm having a bad day, it makes me feel bad. I recently received a Kudos there and it made me very happy.

I can definitely understand hurt feelings being caused by not being mentioned. I can also see how this thread can be construed as harmless.

I don't believe there was malicious intent in the original post, however I do understand hurt feelings.

My name was mentioned but there were folks who didn't mention me who I thought would. My thoughs can easily run with that and think "Wow I thought they were my friend....." but I decide not to let it bother me. To me, its simply a fun thread, the "what if I could meet someone here" idea. We often talk about how cool it would be to meet.

I don't know....I guess I just wanted to say that I understand both points of view, and for those who feel hurt, I wish I could (((( hug ))))) each and every one of you in real life.

Love,
~Rayna

gosh okiedokie i will meet you for coffee or you can come and stay, i feel terrible and i never thought about this thread that way, i love everyone on this site and wouldn't hurt anyone on purpose

(((((((((((((((((((love and best wishes to everyone old and new and welcome to our big happy party (most of the time) of course everyone is welcome, sorry for being so insensitive and thoughtless, everyone is loved in here and supported as best can be. i suppose it's human nature to form groups sometimes and more people post than go into chat, i suppose that's all it was.

big hugs to everyone)))))))))))))))))

love jin

i was mentioned once after tons of others....(dont mean to be ungrateful)
im afraid im not so keen on this thread either...

Sorry for everyone who was hurt by this thread.
I'd meet lots of people here-but it said that I could only have one. (((((((((Everybody)))))))))))))
Let's ALL go out for coffee.