Your real name

My dad goes by his middle name as does my Grandma. I didn't know my Grandma went by her middle name until a few years ago. I found something with her first name and asked who that was. LOL My oldest nephew goes by his middle name also.

My pdoc goes by his first and middle name Donnie Joe. I keep thinking only here in Arkansas could I get a Donnie Joe for my doctor most others would be Donnie or Joe but not both together and btw my pdoc is kind of a redneck but he's a wiz when it comes to knowing about all kinds of meds.

Jbug

All of my alters have very distinct names... they were using them way before ever dignosed as MPD or DID 23 years ago..yes.. it was very confusing at doctors.. dentists.. "I" didn't understand.. why... the different names.. why I would do that...not until therapy.. did I understand.. why all my life.. I had all these names.. and why I insisted that they were my names....

This subject came... up recently... with the body memory T...and he said "I am unsure what to call you"... by x.. or xy... and my response is.. if I am xy... and you call me x.. it is highly insulting...it would be like if I called you...Mary... when your name is Jane...
and I of course added...that he couldn't know "who" I was by looks.. though.. if he knew me well.. he would know by the clothes..and the way I sit...

anyway.. the lesson in "self worth"... was I should be allowed "my name"... as in an alter should be allowed her name and to be called by it...as it is important...it implies.. that I have self worth.. the way I am...

I like my name and I always have. My Mom gave me my name and it was important to her and she always told me what a special name it was. I do have several nicknames from family - some are probably not printable! LOL

I never thought much about my name.....I remember I wished when I was younger they had not named me after my dead grandmother as they would then take me to the cematary and there would be my name. I would think being little gosh i hope thats not me ....LOLOL
Easy name but not one Dr or dentist spells it right......which to me after being young its ok LOL
I will answer to anything LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

HI Perna, i always hated my last name so i leave it out and just go by my first name and use my middle name as my last. My Therapist even recommended that it could be changed at city hall for like $100 bucks or soo. She said she changed hers like 20 years ago and by doing so took on a more positive outlook.

There's a lot of politicians in massacusetts who were just convicted and indicted unfortunately with my same last name and
so now every where i go if they hear my last name the heads turn.

So U can always legally change it if it really bothers you that much.

good luck

My aunt changed her first name in her 50's (she'll be 87 in April) but I like her "old" name. Since I was 39 when I married, it was very hard getting used to my married last name! I still remember when I went in for a job interview and introduced myself, "Hi, I'm Nickname, Maidenname. . . No I'm not!" That took a little explaining after we quit laughing. It was at a residential school for autistic children too :-)

my parents named me Jennifer when I was born. That was my first name. My mother was a stoner and high at the time, so I'm just glad I didn't end up named like, Moonbeam or something like that.

I use the middle name they gave me. I grew up in the 80's where every ponytail sporting, peg leg blue jean wearing girl had some variation of Jennifer; Jen, Jenny, Jenna, Jeni. . .the list goes on. My middle name was unique. . .so that's what I started using and that's ALL I've ever used since.

Regarding the whole "title" thing I read back on one of the pages. . .you know, I have one of those too. In fact, I have a civilian one, and my military one. Now, on drill weekends, of course I use my military one, with my soldiers. I am "First Sgt" so and so to them. As it should be. But I don't ever introduce myself to people NOT in the military as "First Sgt." How rude! And in my civilian life, I don't EVER introduce myself with the letters before or behind my name. Again, I think that's so rude. If someone ASKS me. . .that's a bit different, but I never make that move first. In the profession sector, it's ok. But, my experience has been that people who introduce themselves as, "Oh hi! I'm DOCTOR so and so, yes yes, I have a PhD, I have MEd, etc" are usually pretty insecure in themselves to begin with.

Titles are best left to royalty in my humble opinion!

AMEN! TO GRACEY!!!!!!!!!

for 16 years, i was married to one of the best surgeons in our state. i never, ever heard him say, "i'm Doctor so and so" in "civilian life. he didn't have to, his ego was fine. the majority of his patients called him by his first name. i call my Pdoc by his first name. he insists that the playing field will be level with his patients.

i went by "Miss Pat" when i worked as a therapist. a patient called me that one day and it stuck.

no need to wave one's "title" around....unless you're Elizabeth. and if you don't address her "properly", i guess you get your head chopped off!!!!!!!!

and i don't see any need to even discuss it, unless it is essential for one's validation for one's self.........edited by FAYERODY........

My mother gave me a short name (my nick name) but decided to give me a really long name... as my legal name because it was "so pretty" She never had any intention of calling me my legal name... so my whole life I've had to correct people, it's quite annoying. My children WILL NOT have nick names. Both of my parents have legal names that people think are nicknames and always try to add on the formal ending and decided that people would do that to me to so they just gave me a long version of my nickname. I'm really considering legally chaning my name. If people use my legal name and I look around like who's that?

Oh, SpazKatt, that's horrible with the long, legal name because you have to sign it everywhere! I have that problem. My brother was named after my father and grandfather so was III and their name is "Paul" but it was confusing, my brother was the first grandchild, and out of nowhere, they nicknamed him "Mike". But, when he was going to start school, they suddenly realized that wouldn't work too well? Adults!

Yes, the signing it stinks... not to mention if I take my fiance's name it will add 5 letters!

Ack. My parents (and so the schools I was sent to etc) call me by my middle name, which is ok but I never felt it fitted me. I started using my first name (which I love) as soon as I left school, but it has an unusual pronunciation which most people cannot grasp. Changed the spelling for a while to make it easier (the accent on one of the vowels being beyond the comprehension of most when it was possible to put it there) but that didn't help so I reverted to the original spelling.

My full name (or even just my first and surname) sounds completely demented. If my parents said the whole thing out loud they must have NO sense of rhythm whatsoever.

I guess I like my name...it's just so common. It's Jennifer, but most just call me Jenn. And my middle name is Faith... so I reckon it's not so bad.

, Jenn

Yes I've always hated my name.And someone bad named
their daughter the same.
My mum says 'oh why do you have to make your name sound
like a boys name,when you have so many brothers?Any one would
think I run a boys home!'.....
I like my grandmothers name 'Eloise' maybe I will change
my name by law again soon, if I run away that is...
no offense meant..Joey/Julia

I have brothers; Paul, Peter, and Patrick, so you'd think they'd call me Peggy but I was named after my mother's aunt, very specifically and even have her nickname. My high school guidance counselor whom I didn't know/see (my class size was 669) called me Peggy for some reason, just decided out of the blue that was my nickname. Was odd when we'd see one another in the hall and he'd greet me as Peggy and I'd look around trying to figure out who he was talking to!

My mother had two boy cousins and was close to the one who was close to her in age, John which is my brother Pat's middle name. I think it's interesting where parents get our names and why.

LOL Bebop, one lady I just met who is coordinating things for Senator McCain... her name is Sarah Peed. I don't know it she married into it or not... but her email is kewl... speed..

my name.... Ivy. Ive learned to live with it, I used to hate it as a child because of all the poison ivy jokes. Well I have the last laugh; for some strange reason I cannot catch poison Ivy. You can rub it allover me and nothing will happen. You can take an infected person and rub them allover me (lol) and nothing. Yes I'm special! (in a non conceited way)

we can't identify in any way with out birth name or our current legal name, despite having changed our first name by common usage in 1989, & having our surname changed by marriage in 1966.

our mother changd her name by deed poll back in 1942, but it makes us feel like our name is wrong, we think we don't HAVE a name, not a real name like most ppl seem to think they have.

i am happy with my name. alot of people i know are so secretive about either their first or middle name because they despise it so much. i guess i am just the opposite.

it is MY name...it is part of me....part of my mother's heart...and part of my father. Just as i am a part of them. and now that i am married, my name is also a part of my husband...and now our son shares that last name as well. to me my name makes me feel connected to those that i love so dearly. like a permanent attatchment of one to another in some way. lol, sounds funny to say that, but it is how i feel.

Well, initially people call me Wanttoheal, but I'm pretty comfortable with wantto as well. Sometimes I feel more like a Wanttorunaway, Wanttohide, Wanttodance but to be honest, I answer also to wth, whatever, wtf, etc.

Bebop:

Don't worry about what your initials spell....a friend of mine had a lovely son and they named him Alexander Stephen Sinclair. Checkout those initials. ;-)

I've always hated my first name and used to hate my last name (now I like it). For this reason I prefer people here call me by my adopted pseudonym and alter-ego, Cyrano. But in real life my name is Terry.

Cyran0

Well I have several names, as I have been diagnosed DID and have alters.. but the host name is Mandie

I do not currently care for my last name as it is my abusers last name, and therefore plan to change it to my grandmother's last name as she was the biggest influence in my life when she was alive.

My parents gave me a boring name - Lori. It is already a shortened version of Lorraine so it can't be shortened or altered. They gave me the middle name of Ann, which also can't be shortened. Notice there is no hyphen between the two names, and yet when people read my full name, they insist on calling me Lori-Ann which I hate.

I gave my sons longer names so that they can alter them if they wished.

I like my name... I esp. liked it growing up b/c it was rare... but not anymore... I HATE meeting someone with the same name as me... I definetly own and embrace my name...

When my hubby and I had kids I wanted very unusal names, but he wouldnt hear of it... so the closest I got was our daughter Ashlyn... thinking we made it up... Heck no! I have met three Ashlyns since then and actually one goes to school with mine!!

Our youngest hates her name.. Rebecca-Lyn (b/c it has part of her sister's name in it - Lyn.. LOL...) she prefers to be called Becca..

My sister has what we thought was an unusal name ... Erlene... but we moved to a town where there are 2 other Erlenes... LOL...