Brother's doggie ...

my brother in Boston called... one of the last things he told me was how he had to put one of his dogs down.. he'd had a stroke and was walking on the top of his feet and all... you know...

my brother was crying.. quietly... I couldn't hardly handle it and don't think I did very well... I told him how sorry I am... he went on to talk about his older doggie really our favorite a golden who is 15! and how the younger one he had to tell the vet to put down would always be the barker to tell someone was coming but the golden doesn't hear any more... neither does my lab... only 12 1/2... he said the vet said that our breeds will just curl up at our feet under the table or something and go to sleep that they won't cry or nothing in pain usually...

yeah... I often fear mine is gone... and stand and stare at his chest... because he doesn't hear... he doesn't react...

I am sending a card... gee I still remember when he had to put Bear down... a big burly dog he had that had a face of a brown bear... and that was eons ago we have sooooo many pets in heaven..

but I feel like I just glossed over his grief. I didn't mean to.

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it is hard when you have to put down a pet that you have had for a long time..

When my ex had to put our "fuzzy" to sleep I was not at home, and I cried for two days .. I was not there to say goodbye to him, and when I got home the "home" felt empty.. I saw his toys laying around and cried, so hard..

I understand your pain. and feel for you both..

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I'm so sorry, Sky. Why don't you tell your brother what you told us? It would make you feel better.





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I wouldn't know how to handle something like that, sky. I might cry, too. I dunno. Well, your brother is hurting, but I'm sure there is some comfort knowing that doggie is not in pain now.

To lose a nice doggie would be heartbreaking. I don't like to think of it, but someday my doggie might have to go. I hope I die first. Is that terrible to think?

You handled it well, sky. you are a dog owner and doggie lover, too, so I'm sure you did just fine when consoling your brother about his loss.

bye, sky.

Treat this death like any human death. Some people do not understand that the passing of a pet can be as devastating as the passing of a human loved one.

I have lost three beloved dogs. I was there for two of them (although one did leave to die). I was talking with my doctor yesterday about how my major depressive episodes always seem to follow the loss of a pet.

When my baby beagle (allie mcbeagle) had to be put to sleep, I found incredible support via the Internet. Now that I think about it, because so many people supported me during my loss, maybe it is time to return to those sites in order to offer others my support.

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I agree. The death of a pet is the death of a best friend. We need time to grieve. I think I've even seen grief support groups for pet loss somewhere I've been.

Losing a pet to people like me is tragic, I am sure your brother understood what you could offer as support.
Don't feel you "glossed over" his grief, sometimes the unspoken words have the most meaning, especially when families have shared loss of our pets and loved ones in the past.
My brother and I can have or share the same feelings, with brief words, but we do keep in touch at least once or twice a week by phone, it is interesting how him and I can have experienced the same or similar feelings as we both still grieve the loss of my dad.
The loss of our family dogs we have all shared in our family, and for us it has been as tragic as the loss of a human loved one.
What I am trying to say, is just know that I am sure in your brother's heart he knows how you feel for him.
Please take care,
DE

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