maybe im confused?

i've known i wasn't cis for the longest time, and many times ive managed to convince substitute teachers to refer to me by an 'incorrect name' or that i should be placed with the [redacted] group instead of my assigned gender group (i'd.. rather not state my assigned gender.. sorry)

but honestly if anything my gender seems to be out of apathy.
i have no real motivation to call myself a girl nor to call myself a boy. my gender is. there. i can't put a label to it?

does this mean im a transtrender? i've seen many people call 'third genders' a new trend for children wanting to be special.

i sometimes quite literally feel like a voided gender. there's nothing there in the terms of an identity. am i valid? please be honest.

they/them comforts me a lot, but im afraid to let myself get too comfortable with that identity, as it is a very unpopular alternative in places outside the internet...

Hello animatronic: I just replied to another of your posts. Honestly, I don't know what to tell you about this. But since you had not yet received replies to this post I thought I would reply.

I'm an older man who has struggled his entire life with gender dysphoria. (It's a long story & I'll spare you the details.) But, anyway, what my own experience tells me is that concerns related to gender identity, as well as sexual orientation, can be extremely difficult & perplexing.

I don't know how old you are. Since you're apparently a young person, perhaps your gender identity simply has not yet had time to become clear. However under any circumstances at some point talking all of this through, over time, with a therapist who has experience working with gender identity issues may be the way to go. My experience suggests to me that this is something you may have difficulty working out by thinking it through in your own mind. That's not to say it's not possible. But I think there's something to be said for talking it through, at length with a knowledgeable mental health professional.

I would presume you will yet receive some replies from some younger members here on PC. And I would presume their replies will probably be of more value. But I wanted to at least get the ball rolling here, as they say. I wish you well...

Hello, I am a gender non-conforming female that is in the process of transition from female to neutral. For most my life I have not felt like I was either gender yet both genders. If I had my choice of physical body, it would be that of a eunuch male. I too feel like my gender just is.... I'm just me. Working through things with my t, I've realized that I am probably more masculine than the they/them's of the world....

As far as are you transgendered... only you can figure that out. From what little you've put here, I would say that you are at least questioning and talking to a therapist is one of the best ways to work out what you are feeling.

Hi,

most of my live I had similar struggles with myself. But that time I had no knowledge about other genders than man/woman and always felt like just doing it wrong. I couldn't connect with either group, not with the people, but with the sense of belongig. In my puberty I stood between the groups and couldn't understand the "us" vs "them" thing, because both felt like "them" in a similar way.

I think the most "uuh you wanna be a special snowflake, you transtrenders, why are they suddenly everywhere???" thing is just.. talk. It's not that there are more of us but we have words for it and try to be no longer silence about it. (Also this binary it's more of a western thing)
And the more we connect, the more we realise that we found something we didn't know was missing.

like Elio said: If or not you are transgender is completely up to you. And talking ot someone else can help you figuring things out.

If you wanna talk to a genderqueer person in their late 20s feel free to message me.

I love what you said here - can I steal it lol. So true for so many things

I think more people than not are just going through self-discovery which isn't "trendy" it's human. I also don't think there aren't more trans people precisely, it's more that it is safer to come out as yourself and/or because people have something to give framework to their experience.

Anywho, you are definitely valid in what you're feeling. I've heard other people describe themselves similarly, so you aren't alone. Agender and androgynous are what come to mind right away. What you end up identifying with or not identifying with can be a journey and is ultimately yours alone. If you ever feel like anyone is trying to push you into thinking one way or another, well... they don't have the right to! And they really just aren't able to know.
Talk to a therapist if possible, and although we are a small bunch here, we're a pretty cool bunch (if I do say so myself). So feel free to ask away or chime in!