[Shangrala]

Granted, these past few weeks haven't been a picnic, but just when I thought things began to settle and my persptective & focus has returned..some, now I can't sleep...No matter how hard I try. I "cat nap", and dammit, if this isn't only making things worse for me. (I'm fighting falling back into this (depression ?) mode...but find myself crying more than I care to..(not healthy for daughter, either).
Lack of sleep, maybe? I hope so.

I've even lost track of the days now. Everything is blending into eachother, and I hate this. I actually thought today was Thursday. Gettin ready to walk down to the health department to check on some counselling...UGH...discover that today is Saturday. My God!

I'm stuck here, in a home I don't want to be in. No transportaition because I discovered that my licence is under "inspection", (22 year old pending docket that the state can't seem to find a record of, so can't drive until they clear it).
Oh, yay! Just another opportunity for me to deal with the system. Once again, at their mercy of this freakin tag-waiting game, (of course it's to the beat of "their" drum..from court house, to municipal, to dmv, back to municipal then to courthouse, again....utter madness). They told me that the process can be expedited if I paid them $400 bucks, which is "supposed" to be reimbursed once they find that primative docket which no longer registers in their current filing system, yet reassure me that..."it's somewhere".
Because I don't have time to screw around, (and I NEED my own transportation..hate relying on others), I paid it, leaving me only $40 bucks in pocket..they'll suck you dry..don't matter to them. God knows, how long they would take without being paid.
Either way, I'm, once again, screwed by system. You'd think I'd be used to it by now....

Anyhow......Does anyone have any home remedies that aid in sleep? (Other than alcholol. That stuff is gross...won't go there). I sure could use a good night's sleep...as well regaing a proper perspective of time..lol.

Thanks a mill...appreciate it.

Shangrala

[jexa]

Valerian is an herbal sleep aid that helps me.. also good ol' Tylenol PM can set me straight. Sleep is SO important to your mental health.

[Typo]

One thing I've found is Valaren Root, it's inexpensive, you can pick it up at Walmart or any supercenter over by the vitamians, you take the recommended dose thirty mintues before sleep and you slowly drift to sleep and no groggy after affects in the morning

((((((((((Shangrala))))))))))) Sending peaceful thoughts to you

Peace
sparrow

[(JD)]

Absolutely!

Develop a sleep routine, and stick to it. Even if you can't shut your thinking off, you can rest your body by lying in bed.

A good herb is valerian. I use the drops in some tea an hour before bedtime, and then take about an 800+ mg tablet at bed.

I also use a brain wave tape/cd... it puts the brain into delta wave. Takes a little practice to block those thoughts, but once it works...

Do work on thought stopping. Keep a notebook by the bed and write down anything important that you can not afford to forget about... the rest stop thinking about by telling yourself it's (11 pm) there's nothing I can do tonight to change or improve or work on that. That's rational thinking and can help your brain leave it alone.

Find out if a hot bath, camomile, passion flower herbs, or such help you. Slow down your life an hour before bedtime... no violent tv programs (no tv at all if you can do that) no activity/excercise or exciting books or radio programs. Work on breathing more deeply and slowly, and tell yourself you're preparing for bed. Get your clothes out for the next day, gather your materials (if you have to take some with you) for the next day so none of that keeps you concerned.

If you find you only sleep a few hours anyway, don't stress out about it... tell yourself as you watch the clock tick away that you're going to get some sleep and then you'll wake feeling refreshed from it.

Hope it settles down for you soon.

[Shangrala]

Originally Posted by _Sky

Absolutely!

Develop a sleep routine, and stick to it. Even if you can't shut your thinking off, you can rest your body by lying in bed.

A good herb is valerian. I use the drops in some tea an hour before bedtime, and then take about an 800+ mg tablet at bed.

I also use a brain wave tape/cd... it puts the brain into delta wave. Takes a little practice to block those thoughts, but once it works...

Do work on thought stopping. Keep a notebook by the bed and write down anything important that you can not afford to forget about... the rest stop thinking about by telling yourself it's (11 pm) there's nothing I can do tonight to change or improve or work on that. That's rational thinking and can help your brain leave it alone.

Find out if a hot bath, camomile, passion flower herbs, or such help you. Slow down your life an hour before bedtime... no violent tv programs (no tv at all if you can do that) no activity/excercise or exciting books or radio programs. Work on breathing more deeply and slowly, and tell yourself you're preparing for bed. Get your clothes out for the next day, gather your materials (if you have to take some with you) for the next day so none of that keeps you concerned.

If you find you only sleep a few hours anyway, don't stress out about it... tell yourself as you watch the clock tick away that you're going to get some sleep and then you'll wake feeling refreshed from it.

Hope it settles down for you soon.

Thanks, Sky for all your suggestions. I've tried a lot of those already? Used to work for me...could sleep though all my hubs frantic rages. Those techniques aren't working anymore...seems I've become immune to them...can't understand that, really. Now that it's calm here, other matters seem to have replaced the previous, which seem to have triggered other effects. Not sure, really what the hell's going on with me.

Silence here, though much needed and surely welcomed, has seemed to become louder than the verbal hell hub projected back then. Go figure. Though, I don't know if it's the silence and peace that's disturbing me, or all these unforeseen obstacles that has now created all these new issues to deal with, (yet unable TO deal with at present).
This sitting idle crap is NOT healthy for me. Infact, I'm the kind who has to do something progressive, even if at a slow pace, regardless of what it is, to keep self feeling positive and productive.

I'm also a people person. I thrive on contact with others. I don't necessarily seek personal bondings with everyone, but I love the interactions and communications. I find people facinating. There's a slight problem with that at present....Here, where I have moved to....there are so few around. And I find that quite odd, as well as threatening in it's own way. Discovering that the town I once resided in 25 years ago, then a struggling town of 4 thousand, (but declining), has resulted in this almost-ghost town of maybe 2 thousand, (and still declining), with few, if any, jobs to be had, and most of the residents now are well into their senior years...NOTHING wrong with that, mind you...Hell, in another 10 years, I'm there, myself.
Dang...I don't know what point I'm trying to make anymore....lmao. I'll shaddup.

Sleep deprivation certainly isn't helping my rationalizing things through.
I'll give the suggestions a try, and with God willing, between that, time and patience, all will regain its proper order.

Thanks again.

Shangrala

[Shangrala]

Originally Posted by Silversparrow

One thing I've found is Valaren Root, it's inexpensive, you can pick it up at Walmart or any supercenter over by the vitamians, you take the recommended dose thirty mintues before sleep and you slowly drift to sleep and no groggy after affects in the morning

((((((((((Shangrala))))))))))) Sending peaceful thoughts to you

Peace
sparrow

Aww...No Walmart. No Target. No KMart. No major franchises of ANY sort....except, of course the much needed McDonalds...lmaooooooo.

I moved to an EXTREMELY laid-back, ten-year (or more) -behind-time, country back hill hick of a town. (Beginning to seriously ask myself....WHY?). Residents even ride their horses around town if desired...lol...certainly don't see that in the city. Take a quick 5 minute walk out of town with your gun, and you can target shoot.... whatever.

My options of obtaining what the city offers are next to slim, if that. I'll look around in these lil quaint drug stores here to see what they offer. Hope there's something available.

Thanks~

Shangrala

[lynn P.]

The only thing I have to add to the above suggestions is to exercise during the day, not too close to bedtime though. Go to bed and get up the same time and make sure the room is completely dark. If the noise is bothering you, buy some foam earplugs. You might want to try a magnesium supplement - it makes the muscles and body relax. Also I'm sure you know you should cut out the caffeine including soft drinks. I don't know if your daughter has a Nintendo DS, but there's this game called Brain Age2 it for adults and children - the idea of the game is it sharpens your brain and memory skills - well there one particular game called 'virus busters' and it's incredibly relaxing with this soothing music(lullaby). I play it while I'm laying in bed and it's impossible to think about anything else but the game. It's funny because I find myself falling asleep as I'm playing. It's probably just the change of atmosphere and stress. Make sure you take good care of yourself with eating healthy and I hope everything works out for you.

[Typo]

I moved to an EXTREMELY laid-back, ten-year (or more) -behind-time, country back hill hick of a town. (Beginning to seriously ask myself....WHY?). Residents even ride their horses around town if desired...lol...certainly don't see that in the city. Take a quick 5 minute walk out of town with your gun, and you can target shoot.... whatever.

I feel your pain, You just described where I lived, I drive a half hour to get to the closets supercenter and to go to college. lol you sure your not my neighbor?

Peace
Sparrow

[Shangrala]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

The only thing I have to add to the above suggestions is to exercise during the day, not too close to bedtime though. Go to bed and get up the same time and make sure the room is completely dark. If the noise is bothering you, buy some foam earplugs. You might want to try a magnesium supplement - it makes the muscles and body relax. Also I'm sure you know you should cut out the caffeine including soft drinks. I don't know if your daughter has a Nintendo DS, but there's this game called Brain Age2 it for adults and children - the idea of the game is it sharpens your brain and memory skills - well there one particular game called 'virus busters' and it's incredibly relaxing with this soothing music(lullaby). I play it while I'm laying in bed and it's impossible to think about anything else but the game. It's funny because I find myself falling asleep as I'm playing. It's probably just the change of atmosphere and stress. Make sure you take good care of yourself with eating healthy and I hope everything works out for you.

Thanks, Lynn~
I walk when I get up the energy to, (I know that does help alot).
I drink only water, maybe juices.
Daughter has ALL the game systems, only bummer is everything is still in storage back in California, (plan for that had fallen through..just another one of those "unforeseen" circumstances), so need to wait to get all belongings still.
The only thing I brought up with us were our clothing and that damned expensive netbook I regret buying. (NEVER buy that thing. It's a rip off, ESPECIALLY through Verizon).
Had full intentions of returning for all our belongings the week following our move up here (4 weeks ago). Sorta stuck at present. Though, striving for the final goal, still.
There is no noise here...that's just it. It's so quiet. And you may be right, the change of atmosphere and altitude may have had a lasting effect on me. Not sure. Thought that adjustment only took a week or so to overcome. Lord knows when I first got here (elevation 10K) breathing was difficult, and sun is definately hotter, even though this area is the coldest in this area of nation during winter, (common to be minus zero)...OH YAY! I SO need our winter gear (in storage)...lol, brought up only summer wear. Duh me! And winter's just around the corner, too...Blah! I hate the snow.

Thanks again

Shangrala

[jerrymichele]

I think that the slient life is making you think about a lot of things going on. I would be going nuts if it were me. My dad had a house in the country. A nice home, but nothing there. I went nuts there. You could try reading some books if they have a library there. A very boring book can make you fall a sleep. Maybe you need some type of noise when you sleep. Like me, I always need a fan on, just bc of the noise. My bf needs the tv on. You could try something like that. I've got to tell you that your doing really well considering everything you just went threw.

[Naturefreak]

I don't have a sleeping problem at the moment . But when I did 2mgs of lorazepam did the trick . Only good for very short term though .
Addictive. Good luck with the herbal tea

[(JD)]

Here's a reputable brand you can find higher dosage of Valerian Root (most in-grocery store brands only have about 60mg) online no less.

http://www.puritan.com/valerian-509?...lerian&rdcnt=1

[starrina]

I wish I had some suggestions for you
but right now I am having the same troubles
I just seperated from my partner of 23yrs
and suddenly find myself unable to sleep
except the "cat naps" so i am reading this with interest to
lol

[Shangrala]

Originally Posted by _Sky

Here's a reputable brand you can find higher dosage of Valerian Root (most in-grocery store brands only have about 60mg) online no less.

http://www.puritan.com/valerian-509?...lerian&rdcnt=1

Thanks a million, Sky!!
Just ordered from there..Only have to wait a week now for delivery...YAY.
Well worth the wait..anything to help meh, I'm good with.

Shangrala

[Shangrala]

Originally Posted by jerrymichele

I think that the slient life is making you think about a lot of things going on. I would be going nuts if it were me. My dad had a house in the country. A nice home, but nothing there. I went nuts there. You could try reading some books if they have a library there. A very boring book can make you fall a sleep. Maybe you need some type of noise when you sleep. Like me, I always need a fan on, just bc of the noise. My bf needs the tv on. You could try something like that. I've got to tell you that your doing really well considering everything you just went threw.

Awww..thanks, Michele.
Bout the only positive thing my mom ever said to me, (about me), was that I'm a survivor. Then again, knowin how negative mom was with me, she could have very well meant that in her usual demeaning way..though, I always liked to think of that as a compliment..lol.

I'd read, if I could comprehend. Heaven help me when it's time for my written licence test...TRYING to study the handbook now..so far, on the same page. Gawd, if only I could remember what I read...lol. I'll take the handbook to bed tonight...that should get me to sleep...lmao.
TV's on all nite here too, been that way for sometime now. Dot n I share same bed, she needs tv to fall asleep...now I've grown accustom to it, as well.
Aside from everything else, I think it's more my missing Kristian than anything.
He overloaded on this entire nightmare. Needs a break from it all. Once I have communications with him again, I'll be fine again.

In the meantime, though, have to find a way to fixie me. And that's what I'm trying to do.
Can't go without the zzzzz's.

Thanks again...

Shangrala

shangrala, i take benedryl to help me sleep. i do try to take it early so i don't get too much of a sleep hangover. some extra caffeine in the am helps. it's non-addictive so i prefer that to Rx sleeping pills.

[Shangrala]

Okay....Update:

Still waiting for my order to arrive for the Valerian, (thankies again Sky).
And thank you, Bloom...will give the Benadryl a try, (while I waits).

I have one more thing that seems to have resulted from all of this present chaos, and hoping that maybe some of you would also have more suggestions....

I've always been underwieight, no surprise....(A high motabolism that burns hella more than what I can put in). Now with all this extra blah blah I'm struggling with, I've lost back down to 100 lbs, (I'm 5'6"), without even realizing it, (everything's falling off of me, rings don't even fit right anymore...fall upsidedown on fingers...weigh less than my daugher now). Although I am aware of weight loss, it really didn't hit me until I saw a recent pic of me..and HOLY! I look like Mr. Reaper himself has been hovering over me...just waitin.
I SO need to put weight back on.....BADLY.

What's odd is, I'm not active physically anymore, yet the weight seems to contuinue to fall off of me. I eat anything, yet....seems daily, another pound, or so goes. I can't afford to lose weight. My kidneys are beginning to ache again, and now with winter here, (only 17 degrees this morn), my lungs are reacting to the cold...or something's up, (I have chronic pneumonia, so thinking that's it..again..was hopin I'd be able to get past this winter without it stirring up).
With this weight loss so drastic, not only don't I have insulation to keep self warm, but health is beginning to show signs of stress, too.

Going to clinic to see what's up, meanwhile, does anyone know of any good grubs, or anything else, that packs on the calories?

Thanks a mill, again.

Shangrala