Too sensitive

Sometimes I am so sensitive and hurt by people's harshness and lack of understanding that it is ridiculous. Intellectually I can see that I am not this *black*, worthless, horrible person that they are painting me as but emotionally I am struggling like hell. I am also fighting a tendency to make impulsive decisions. Can anyone relate? (I am sorry if there are typos, I am doped up with temazepam at the moment)

Fuzzy the crying Blonde Bear

Don't cry Fuzzy. People can be mean, rude and unfair sometimes. It doesn't also make them right. When someone makes judgements on me I try to look at it and see if there is some chance that any of it is true. If there is anything I can change then I will if I can.

Sometimes I have to put the hurt where it belongs. They weren't being nice. They were taking out whatever is troubling them on me. Maybe they feel better when they knock someone else down. It's not fair and it's not nice but it's how some people are sometimes.

I just remember who I am and that I am not a bad, stupid, mean person. Just let it go because they don't know me. They don't take the time to really know me even if they think they do.

It's them, not you.

Hugs sweetie,
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

Also want to add that a friend can be honest with you when they feel there is something you should change or if they feel you are making a mistake. A friend or someone who cares does not judge you, they aren't mean, they don't say things to hurt you. They tell you what they think in a kind way and then want to know how you feel about it and want to discuss it and be there for you if they can. A friend doesn't blurt out hurtful things and then walk away.

Everybody else doesn't matter. They aren't your friends :O)
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

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forgoten

My "dear bear",
Boy, can I relate to this fully I hear every word you are saying, with much hope and strength we can overcome this struggle too.
Take care,
** many hugs of hope **
"darkeyes"
worn, torn and forlorn, darkeyes

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

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You have a wonderful soft soul and that is a great thing to have and to hold onto. I am like you....we wear our heart on our sleeve and we are targets for people that want to wear us down. Keep strong and you will come through all of this.


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown

Fuzzy, I've only been here for one day, but I can already tell what a warm and caring person you are.

If this is about what I think it's about, your tears and your feelings are too precious to waste on it.

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Fuzzy...

The last thing that you need to do is to beat yourself up for anything, especially that you have a kind and caring heart. For that is something that you should be proud of.

To our precious ((((((((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))))))))): Please don't cry... Most often, when someone says mean things, it is really all about THEM and their own defficits - not about us, (cause it happens to me, too, and I often feel so down about it..). We can't let other people's projections and issues get in the way of who we are, and who we are becoming... You are very special to us!! As ever, your friend, Peanut

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Fuzzy, when that happens to me, I consider the source and then forget it. Most of the time, when people put you down or try to make you feel stupid, it's because they are insecure in themselves. They haven't or won't learn how to deal with issues without using others to lift themselves up.

I'm with Heidu. If someone critizes me, I look at the critizism and see if there is any truth in it. If there is, I go lick my wounds and then try to change whatever I was critized about to my degree and to the best of my ability. If I find that it was just someone showing their tush, then I forget it. It's a reflection on them, not me.

I find you a very carying, sensitive, warm person.

Oh... and against the advise from other nice people here, I say... go ahead and cry. Tears are cleansing. {{{{{{Fuzzy}}}}}}

<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

You are a rare person, Fuzzy.......people for the most part, are very cold and mean - at least in my own personal experience. It is the reason I stay here, you and everyone else GENUINELY care - that is not a common feeling.

I think you are wonderful and sometimes, it does help to cry and release the pain.

xoxoxoxox

Mary Alice

Fuzzy..........
Oh dear... I didn't know you ever felt this way. We goof around so much in the Chat room... and I always wondered why you listen to others, offer support, but share very little about yourself (at least, not with me). You've been such a good friend to me and listen to all my whining, but rarely do you ever ask for help. I'm so sorry about any hurt you've ever felt -- I didn't know you're so sensitive, but now I guess I know why you don't expose yourself often.

Please feel free to ask me to clarify anything (so you can respond accordingly - heh heh) if I or others say anything that you feel might have been harsh. I wouldn't want you to ever feel hurt... not even for one fraction of a millisecond. This comes from my heart.

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We are ALL going to be a-ok!

I relate to the part about being sensitive, anyway. You always know where you stand with me, right? I like 'ya bunches. Hang in there.
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Love,
Wendy

<font color=red>"Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing." -Harriet Braiker</font color=red>

Fuzzybear's server has packed up on her and she cannot access this site. She should hopefully be back on line in 2 or 3 days.

Ok, I've just got to respond to this - and hope I get it said the way I want.

((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))) and you too ((((((((((Darkeyes))))))))))

I readily admit I haven't been here as long as many here, neither have I participated as much as some of you that have been a member for less time than I, but please know - I am right on this!

The strangest creature God ever created was mankind. I'm 46 and have been an advid watcher of people all of my life and it never ceases to amaze me as to just how mean and cruel people can be.

But - in the short time I have been here, and have read posts - there is one thing that stands out above all - and that thing is - is just how wonderful, kind and caring you each are!

I hear people say that family is everything and I cannot dispute that, but will build upon it. As much as I would love to say a persons family would be their greatest asset and support - we know that isn't always true and quite often, are the very thing or source of one's problems.

I've never really understaood that for one would think, or want to think, their family loves them and always wants the best for them. So why is it, that almost every family, has at least one that so becomes one's worst nightmare? It sure beats me.

Ok, I may be getting some off tract here, but I'm trying to say something here and am looking at a bigger picture. A person's family and friends see them often and that person is sure to share some of their inner self with them.

But here's the deal, and a very real deal I think, a person's true family is such a blessing, and that true family, is family the person chooses theirself.

While blood may bond one to another - it doesn't always make for love and trust. And what you two have done here - what you have said here - what you have built here - is a family that loves and respects you - far more than mere words could ever say.

I guess what I'm trying to say, and want so badly for you to see - id there will always be people - related or not, that will always try to bring you down, for whatever reason - maybe because that is the only way they can bring theirselves up. These people have loss their way somewhere at sometime or else they would not be so towards another person.

And, last but far from least - here in this community - this great and wonderful community - you have shared your hurts, your thoughts, your pain and even your happiness with us. You have posted, and replied to posts from us that so badly needed your advice, your support and or your help, and you have done it without asking for anything, for no reason other than to help.

In doing this - you have brought us all into your family - into your wonderful life andin doing so have made us all the better for it.

You see, when you come here, you share a part of yourselves that you don't always show others. In that - you have made us all special - all members of a family of people that care and love one another.

When I reflect - when I review posts and replies you each have made - How could I not like you? How could I not fall in love with you and feel special, because you are you, and you share all that is you with me, with us?

So - I hope I have not confused you, but so wanted you to know how special you really are.

To you, and to all that have posted - replied to others - I thank you!

You're truly wonderful!

Your friend Sam (who is so glad to be here)

Anyone can say I love you, but actions speak louder than words.

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I love what you wrote..." But here's the deal, and a very real deal I think, a person's true family is such a blessing, and that true family, is family the person chooses theirself."

I remember the saying you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family? I think we all just proved that theory wrong

What a wonderful post Sam.


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown

Dear kind Fuzzy,

I am also too sensitive for the harshness of this world. I do not understand why people are mean, rude by what they say or their actions, when it would be much much better if they would be kind and caring. Even if I close my eyes on that harshness, it still get to me one way or another. I know that people do that to shield themself so they will not get hurt, that part I understand. But like a flower who has no sunshine or rain, eventually she will die.

I understand what you are saying and I know you can get hurt even on the net, I know I did. But I see you have lots of caring friends here, keep coming to this circle of kindness and grow with them in harmony.

Take good care dear sweet kind Fuzzy!
forgoten

I am back - thank you, all of you!!!

Take care,
Fuzzy

Glad you made it back Fuzzy :O)
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

"Like a flower who has no sunshine or rain, eventually she will die"... I hope you come back nightdream. We need your kindness here,
Love,
Fuzzy

Oh dear sweet Fuzzy! You have a way to come and reach to me in my darkness. Your words have touched my heart. It means a lot to me that you don't forget me.

I am being rejected my sweet friend, and it's hard for me to accept it after I have given so much of myself. I didn't see it coming. It seems the more I try, the more I fail.

I thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart!
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nightdream

I'm a little thrown by the original date of this thread but there's no doubt in my mind that you are hurting, Nightdream. Something else I don't know is why you are feeling that way, but there are so many people here that DO CARE ABOUT YOU! If someone has said something to hurt you, just ignore them. They would be in the minority, anyway.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Nightdream}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Please stay.

Thank you sweety!

Sometime words are like swords that rip through your heart, without caring for the damages that it will caused. Abusive words that even destroy your very soul. Hard to push them aside.

Again thank you!
Hugs!
nightdream

I would bet that this person has used the same or similar abusive words to others. They are a true "bully" and their words are meaningless at best. I used to feel a lot like you do, and sometimes I still do, but then I remind myself that this person "sucks", and that I am a better person, a loving person ... and turn their own abusive words towards them... where they belong.

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