A moan about trigger icon!!!!!!

Why can't people remember to use the trigger icon????

If I think a post that I have written is triggery, I put a trigger sticker on it just in case. Just in case it might be a trigger for someone else too.

So please! Please! Please! Put a trigger sticker on your post if you think it might be upsetting.

Thanks

<font color="purple"> I try to too... I have said the same thing ato myself when I open a thread aan start reading and think on my!! I wish there was a trigger icon.....

but honestly anything and/or everything could be a trigger... what I may think might be a trigger someone else may not and something I may feel is not a trigger someone else may....

Is there a list of topics/words/phrases etc... that would give us all a guidline to add a trigger icon too?

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we agree, we always put a trigger icon on text that might emotionally hurt others.

wave if you are not sure, put the trigger icon up, i think you can change it if it is non triggering at a later date

Good advice mellors!

<font color="purple">I undertsand that....

what I meant is that I may honetsly feel something is not triggering but then later find out that someone else was triggered by it... or vice versa....

There really is no way to always know....

There are even titles that I have found triggering that others probably didnt , some had the icon and some didnt... I just chose not to read that thread....

I am not disbuting the fact that there needs to trigger icons by any means , just explaining that everyone has different trigger and what may be a trigger for some may not be for others....

for example: The word "cousin" is a trigger for me.... not many people would think that that would be a trigger and I agree, but for me it is.... But most people probably wouldnt icon it ...
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<font color="purple"> again, i undertsand the importnace of the icon, and I do use it when I feel that something I post may be triggering.... </font>

I'm not saying we need to put a trigger sticker on everything.

Just to have a bit of thought for other peoples feelings.

Either thinking about the title.

Which forum it is in.

And what the subject is about.

Of course we all have our own unique triggers. But some are common- sense surely?

This post was not to get at anyone in particular- it was just a reminder for us all to be mindful and thoughtful of other people's feelings.

This is a good reminder - thanks Pegasus. It's also in the community guidelines. We need to be aware of topics that could reasonably be assumed to be triggering to some. Common sense is a good rule - thanks again

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Of course we all have our own unique triggers. But some are common- sense surely?

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<font color="purple"> absolutely!! I agree: there definately needs to be common sense and others feelings considered....

I think we both are on the same page, just not understanding each other very well..... That is one of my problems, not explaining myself very well....

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Talking about triggers can trigger!

heh!

Also, if you see something that you believe warrants a trigger, notify one of the moderators at the bottom of the post and we can edit it.

good post.... feeling growly so won't say any more

Yeah, thanks for the replies.

It was just a reminder for all of us. Me included!

Maybe it wasn't my place to say so, but I WANTED to so I did.

To be honest I didn't even know that that X was the trigger button till recently. Some people may not know, or even know what trigger is yet. I guess they'll learn here now...lol.....hopefully.

Newbies all need to be urged to READ all the FAQs and the community guidelines before posting. Since the number of posts is limited at first, the extra time onsite could be used wisely by reading how to do it with the least harm.

IMO, when the site was not so busy, it was easier to absorb each new member and "put up with" their ignorance until they learned. Now that we have so many new members each week, the ignorance in posting and chatting is compounding and overwhelming for many sensitive members. Remember, members are also having to get used to the "changing" of the site as well as the new member's learning

I didn't know about the trigger icon until today. I'd seen people use it, but I didn't know that was for triggers in particular. Yeah I read the FAQ (or guidelines or whatever) at some point in the past... But it is fairly tricky as a newbie...

I'd encourage people to gently point out that they felt triggered by a post and ask people to put the icon on it in future. I say 'gently' because sometimes people can feel really very embarrased about not knowing about that. They can feel guilty about their post, which isn't so nice.

I agree that people can be fairly idiosyncratic in what they find triggering. If everyone trigger warned everything then the significance of the trigger icon wouldn't be useful at all.

Topics that tend to trigger people include

- Suicide (graphic)
- Self injury (graphic descriptions)
- Recreational drug use (that is graphic)
- Sexual abuse / sexual themes more generally

But that being said... There is a difference between a 'use' and a 'mention'. I mean I'm mentioning all those things here but I'm not using them in the sense of describing them graphically. Maybe there are other things that people find triggering?

Often the header can clue you in as to whether it is likely to trigger or not as well (whether there is a trigger warning or not). I mean... If I call a new thread 'feeling suicidal' the header is a good indication I'm going to be talking about suicidal feelings...

Hey guys! I try to be very sensitive about this. Whenever I have doubts about a certain thread or post of mine, I always use this icon. Now, because some people may have triggers that I am not aware of, I may post something that could be considered a trigger. If that ever happens, I apologize. I try to be as sensitive as I can.

Special K, for further information, regarding EACH one of those items, we are not to give graphic descriptions of any of those on this site, imo.

This is a support site, and in being so we don't condone self harm and have agreed to not engage in discussion of illegal activities such as illicit drug usage and suicide. Posts are not to be graphic descriptions of blood and gore.

The only forum where some of the guidelines are stretched is the Creative Corner...where ALL poetry and such are to be (as opposed to regular forum posting.) At least, this is the way it used to be, from what I was told these years. I'm sure if it's changed that admin will get around to letting us know

Good thread, imo.

what if i posted about self injury and i attempt to describe it because i'm wanting advice about whether i need to go to the ER or not?

some people do describe their health conditions...

some people with OCD also describe their compulsive thoughts... sometimes people get compulsive thoughts that are suicidal ideations too. i'm pretty sure i've seen people post about that kind of stuff...

can't get support for something if you can't talk about it...

The trigger icon is the last, dark red circle with an X through it on the list of icons at the top of your post box. It's better to be safe than sorry. If you have the remotest idea that it might upset someone, it would be good to use it. Those that read, do so at their own risk.

i guess i'm thinking about a poem too...
the title made it clear the post was going to be about a therapist in a condom.
the poem was about (surprise!) a therapist in a condom.

how unexpected was that?

couldn't people figure from the title whether they were likely to be triggered or not???????

Pegasus, I am sorry that I triggered you, I really didn't mean to make anyone upset. I really feel bad now..

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Well you most certainly can't discuss killing yourself nor passive suicide of cutting and the gore that goes with it. Nor are we allowed to discuss other illegal activities such as illegal drug use, terrorist activity, and such. You can discuss how you are feeling and gain support for working through those feelings.

The poem was double posted, which also isn't allowed at PC. Plus, just because there are forums for nearly everything, doesn't mean every post is acceptable to the general atmosphere of the site. That's why we have moderators...elsewise anything would go.

Some ppl post just for the attention. We try and help them too here at PC, but the site has to stay safe for the majority, imo. TC!

Your apology is accepted. We understand.. *hugs* Hopefully we can move on.