Not feeling "ok" ???? Post here with me!

Have not been on too much been busy, I'm feeling well so if anyone can fill me in on what's been happening I am here to {{{{{ }}}}}} and support all my family here, "What has been happening Pm me"
Angie

Thanks Sky for this thread.

Not doing well........ batteling the inside that says.... this(the forum upset) is ALL my fault.

Maybe *I* shouldn't convey to anyone when something is upsetting-- something that brings that --"shock to the heart" feeling. Kept such feelings inside for most of my life... maybe keeping it in for the remainder of my life would be better for the rest of humanity.

I hope you are feeling better today Sky.

To all that aren't feeling "ok"--

mandy

it's killing me. when i came back online, i told KD that everything was so serene and we had grown........

now, i'm avoiding threads and trying to come up with a solution.and i've played a part in some of the upset because i get so frustrated and then my mouth takes over. i want PC back to neutral support ground.

and i'm emotionally drained and a solution did just come to me and i posted about it. i pray that we can set these upsets aside and continue on. i can't go on like this. xoxox pat

(((((((Sky))))))) (((((((Everyone else here))))))) I hope everyone is feeling a little better today. Love you all!

Sujin

I too feel reluctant anymore due to stuff that seems to be going on. Sometimes I feel like I am not free to express my feelings and I thought we could here. So that being said I wish all of you nothing but happiness and some peace. We are all in this together!! ((((((((((group hugs))))))))))))))))))

(((sept))) (((fayerody))) (((mandy))) (((nothemama8))) (((bebop)))) (((sujin))))

Just getting around to catching up on ssome of the threads and noticed this post about name confusion. Sometimes it does get mindboggling when people in my real life dont know that body wise I am so and so but mentally they met me as for example Katherine but for the most part I don't get confused and so on. See my brain splitting my memories up and storing them in my unconscious level of thinknig and my acting them out has always been a protective measure so that I could continue to funtion and do what I was supposed to even if what was happening to or around me was upsetting so no matter what name that memory has been stored as and is being acted out I still answer to my biological name and all my life people have called me mary and katherine louise and so on,( since I dissociatied as a child because of childhood trauma and acting out those split off memories unconsciously happens from the first triggering experience after the memory has been split off so I have been acting out those split off memories known as Mary since I was 16, Margo since I was 10, Katherine since I was 22, louise since I was 15, gayle since I was 14, and so on) so being called those names instead of my biological name was normal for me, so there was no confusion with names I just naturally answerred to all those names. Now as an adult I wonder at times how as a child I was able to do that because I am consciously accepting that those names are actually me and my memories so sometimes I get irritated when someone in the mall for example runs up to me and says hey Katherine you coming to group tonight, Mary did you finish that drawing yet. Theres a split second where I think why can't people accept me for my biological name? and then I laugh at myself because I was the one that introduced myself to them as Mary, Katherine and so on. Then I know I have two choices tell them something like Im sorry Im not using my middle name anymore. I have found saying it was my middle name stopped questions of if thats not my name then why did I say it was my name questions. Alot of people chooise to use their middle name over their first name and in some cultures the last name is always first and then the first name when referring to that person.

But in most cases I have just automatically answered to whatever name I am called because I have always done so.

Anyway long story short maybe you can start using your boilogical name like I have done by telling those you want to know and use your biological name that you no longer are using your middle name and would like to go back to first name basis.

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No, I'm not feeling ok right now. I never feel good when there's upset on the site, for any reason.

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(((( SKY )))) and (((( ME ))))

I often feel that the upsets come from incorrect perceptions of the matter at hand and of misplaced acceptance for all.... even if we don't fully agree (and) at times we won't.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

maybe I'm blind or I'm not empathetic or I'm in denial or I'm missing something . . .

people are upset about this site?

((((((((((_Sky_))))))))))

((((((((((anyone not doing well)))))))))))

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maybe I'm blind or I'm not empathetic or I'm in denial or I'm missing something . . .

people are upset about this site?

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NO.............. not at all - i think it is incorrect perceptions that have created stress and dislike within the site.

WE ALL "LoVe"....... PC and DocJohn for giving it to us.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

if a cyber-hug could cure all wounds

I second that notion......................... Group Hug!!!

I think I am feeling more irritated with certain things here because I have been here a lot lately. I am usually out there in the real world a lot more, I have just been isolating myself due to a couple of minor health issues,and that in itself can be a stressor. I do appreciate PC and all the caring people here. I just want to get back to being more active IRL, and I guess patience is the word I have to remember until I feel well enough to get back out there.

Love,
Sujin

hey guys, a big hug goes to all of you who are feeling unhappy lately. i am relatively new to PC, so im quite niave, and i dont use any other forums on the web so this is the only one ive ever used. i havent noticed any upset within threads, so can someone let me know what to look out for, or what is upsetting people, id just like to know for 2 reasons really...1: i sometimes wonder if i have caused upset, if so, i am very sorry, no intention involved; and 2:because then i can be careful of what i say in the future so i dont offend or upset someone unintentionally.

thanks

and to all those who are taking breaks, take care and i hope to see you around here again, because most of you i have come to like and respect, so its a shame to see you go, and i mean that from the bottom of my heart

(((((((((((((((((((((to all)))))))))))))))))))) from me

Hello everyone- I'm very new to PC (not even 24 hours yet!!)- I wanted to ask also about the upset... is there anything (topics, thoughts, anything) a poster should definitely avoid mentioning on this site? ( I only know of one). Just want to make sure I don't do anything wrong. I want to stay here for awhile- this place looks nice :-) thanks to all!

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Hello everyone- I'm very new to PC (not even 24 hours yet!!)- I wanted to ask also about the upset... is there anything (topics, thoughts, anything) a poster should definitely avoid mentioning on this site? ( I only know of one). Just want to make sure I don't do anything wrong. I want to stay here for awhile- this place looks nice :-) thanks to all!

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Per DocJohn (and).......................... PC Policy:

You agree not to post any abusive, obscene, vulgar, slanderous, hateful, threatening, sexually-oriented or any other material that may violate any applicable laws. Doing so may lead to you being immediately and permanently banned.

* Flames or messages meant to intimidate or harass others
* Threatening or profane messages
* Messages discussing a private message (PM) from others
* Limit your direct discussion of politics and religion, as people usually hold pretty strong opinions about these topics

* * * * * *

WELL.................... BASICLY "ALL" OF THESE:

Inappropriate Content

This is, first and foremost, a self-help support community. That means if your message (post or PM) isn't about offering support to another person or asking for it, it's potentially not appropriate for our community. Specifically prohibited from our community:

* Advertisements of any sort
* Announcements of one's own Web site, new resource, or book
* Announcements for research projects
* Soliciting others to join another online community
* Flames or messages meant to intimidate or harass others
* Threatening or profane messages
* Messages discussing a private message (PM) from others
* All administrative issues
* Copyrighted materials that you do not own the rights to
* Messages containing suicidal threats or suicidal actions
* Messages containing or condoning illegal acts
* Limit your direct discussion of politics and religion, as people usually hold pretty strong opinions about these topics
* Triggering material without the use of the Trigger Icon

That sounds reasonable. Thanks for the information, Rhapsody :-)

I updated the list.................. FULL LIST - check again (and) here is the link to the entire rules.

LINK: http://forums.psychcentral.com/showf...93&fpart=&vc=1

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

thanks Rhapsody, that has helped me a great deal too.

And welcome, g8rgirl.

i just thought id say, as it is the subject of the post, im feeling abit icky too, dont really know why, but to the opposite of others, i feel this site helps, but thats because i havent seen the negativity.

It's very difficult to express anything regarding this without venturing into administrative issues. That's why I really don't wish to discuss anything -nothing- really here in this thread, just those who need to express that they are feeling the discomfort in the changing site.

((((hugs))))

I am SORRY Sky.... I did not realize that I had stated some thing in my other post on here that was discussing any thing in particular..... I was honestly just expressing what I felt - from my POV..... what has been effecting ME on here.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( )))

yea, thats a good point sky.

well sky, i hope your feeling better soon bud, its not nice to feel low, quite similar to me now.

i hope to catch up with you soon yea.

take care

and to all who are feeling similar, hope all will get better.

((((((((((((((HUGE HUGS TO ALL))))))))))))))))

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It's very difficult to express anything regarding this without venturing into administrative issues. That's why I really don't wish to discuss anything -nothing- really here in this thread, just those who need to express that they are feeling the discomfort in the changing site.

((((hugs))))

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_Sky, I respect that.

I'm wondering this . . .

_Sky, has Psych Central changed (supportiveness) since you started posting in 2003?

You don't have to answer that.

But for me, Psych Central has not changed. I love this place. I love the people. There's always ebbs and flows to how we post. But always, PC is very supportive.

oh. i think i'm figuring out what this is about.
nobody can say what is going on because talking about what is going on would actually involve talking about an administrative issue that one isn't allowed to talk about.
i could use an analogy... i know we aren't allowed to talk about other boards... are we allowed to talk about hypothetical other boards do you think?

i had a dream...
i had a dream last night...
and in my dream i dreamt about a board* (whose resemblance with other boards either fictional or actually on the internet or actually having been had on the internet or actually going to be on the internet is completely coincidental)... and anyway so this hypothetical board that bears little or no resemblance to any other board on the internet (in the past present or future) was going to have private boards restricted to invite only.

:-O

are we allowed to talk about that as a hypothetical how-would-you-feel-about-that-if-it-were-to-happen?
though i'm guessing it has been hashed through already.
and i'm guessing docjohn* (whose resemblance to anyone living or nonliving and so on and so forth) got a little upset jumped up and down blocked and locked and so now people are forced to reduce to passive agression

(way to go john!)

because...

what else is there to be done?

sigh.

i guess clarification would be useful because people are starting to think it is about them. i was worrying it was about me. but it isn't... is it? it is more about what admin* (no resemblance etc disclamer) is doing to divide teh community. you know at the other board that shall not be named... even he the almighty i don't give a jack diddly squat what you think i'm continuing on my merry way regardless moderator didn't dare have exclusive boards. for the reason that posters packed a wobbly everytime the issue came up. i actually was helping him bring them around (within limits certainly not INVITATION ONLY rather FIRST COME FIRST SERVED) but that wasn' tworking out so well... even less division... and a whole heap of hurt feelings and anger.

why?

exclusion. who felt excluded as a kid? who wants to feel excluded again? anybody?

yeech.

above wasn't to anyone in particular.
i saw your post before i posted mine sky.

for preference... if anything is going to happen... i'd request my post be deleted over locking the whole thread.

i'd just like to say that it seems to be hurting more than harming when people worry people are upset 'cause of them when really people are upset 'cause of an admin policy. would be nice for people to be able to say that (john) so that other posters didn't get even more paranoid than they are already...

but anyways... nobody cares abotu my 2c.

just want to say that i understand why people are upset on this.

yeah i feel pretty upset about it myself.

it strikes me as...

insensitive.

i'd expect that at the site that shall not be named...

don' ask me why... but i expected more from this one.