I am 34 years old I'm mostly a loner. Mostly unemployed too, although I have worked a few years, and done some temp work.

Tomorrow is my 35th birthday and maybe it's because of this that I am contemplating life, and I feel that I have nothing left to achieve and that my work on this planet is done.

I managed a brief relationship recently and that ended. I feel that I have nothing left to achieve now.

Anyone else get like this? I won't suicide because I don't have it in me to do that, but I think about it a lot. I just wish I would die in my sleep or something.

I don't feel depressed by the way, just want out of here.

[NWgirl2013]

Have you considered volunteering somewhere, reading to the blind, or to children, or helping out in a hospital gift shop, or the Red Cross?
Many places need people to help out. Meals on Wheels, the local homeless shelter, a food bank. There are many worthwhile activities that will give you an opportunity to give to those less fortunate than yourself... any would be pleased to have the help of a vibrant young person like yourself.
Just a thought.

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I am 34 years old I'm mostly a loner. Mostly unemployed too, although I have worked a few years, and done some temp work.

Tomorrow is my 35th birthday and maybe it's because of this that I am contemplating life, and I feel that I have nothing left to achieve and that my work on this planet is done.

I managed a brief relationship recently and that ended. I feel that I have nothing left to achieve now.

Anyone else get like this? I won't suicide because I don't have it in me to do that, but I think about it a lot. I just wish I would die in my sleep or something.

I don't feel depressed by the way, just want out of here.

I completely get this...I tell my pdoc that "I don't want to be here anymore" as the best way to describe it. I won't sui either....I have a chronically ill cat and w/out me he would have no one to take care of him, so I have a reason to be here. Two other cats too, but anyone could take care of them (even though one is a nasty little thing and on Prozac for aggression).

But yeah I feel done too...I am a few years older than you but I began to feel this way right at 35 as well. I also could no longer remain in contact with the man I am in love with at that time, and then my really deep depression began. I am not interested in being with anyone else, even though I just tried dating someone from my past and it was a miserable failure...so now I am completely done with that whole idea.

I am sorry you are feeling this way, too...just wanted to let you know how much I can relate. Hope things get better for you.

[lizardlady]

IT, I don't think what you are feeling is that unusual. I believe a lot of people have gone through similar periods of feeling like what's the point. In my case it was part of my depression and a reflection of events that were going on in my life. What about volunteering as someone else suggested? It would give you something to do that would have meaning.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Anyone else get like this?

Yes. Not sad, just a sense I'm done.

[winter4me]

I get this. Even being employed, having a few friends (though mostly a loner) doesn't change it sometimes, just to sleep...to go...vanish as if...endless dreamless sleep...not "be".
But, I still have hours, even full days of hope ---- &you are young. Take your time. There may be more for you to do.

[rabbit13]

You are still young ,and I am sure you can still change things.By the way,it's no good being a loner.

Originally Posted by rabbit13

You are still young ,and I am sure you can still change things.By the way,it's no good being a loner.

There is really nothing "wrong" with being a loner. Sometimes it's a part of one's personality. Other times it's a stage of life one is in when being around other people is too hard to take. Often it is not a CHOICE one makes, it's about level of comfort.

[healingme4me]

Hey,

Happy Birthday!!!

Nothing, left to achieve, in the mid-30's? Stuck, in a rut, career wise? Well, according to Erickson's theory, you have until 40 to form your strong relationships, before being considered stunted on the 'young adulthood' stage Maybe, the 5 year plan?!

Hope all goes alright for you, today!!! Gosh, where would this board be, without some of your more challenging questions?!

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I am 34 years old I'm mostly a loner. Mostly unemployed too, although I have worked a few years, and done some temp work.

Tomorrow is my 35th birthday and maybe it's because of this that I am contemplating life, and I feel that I have nothing left to achieve and that my work on this planet is done.

I managed a brief relationship recently and that ended. I feel that I have nothing left to achieve now.

Anyone else get like this? I won't suicide because I don't have it in me to do that, but I think about it a lot. I just wish I would die in my sleep or something.

I don't feel depressed by the way, just want out of here.

[Citrine]

I want you to know I have for the last few months felt the same. I am almost like a robot. I feel that I must just carry on until my time is up and I am simply existing, for now. I ask for nothing, dream about nothing, want nothing. Its a little like how a sad working animal would feel or some elderly persons, they no longer have aspirations just pass each day by and without worrying wait for it to be over. I feel like Im waiting, just waiting. My only concern is my amazing animal companion, my cat who is some kind of angel.

[H3rmit]

I've always felt this way - there is no place for me, no role for me. I try to soldier on and make the best, but there is not much of a comfort zone nor sense of purpose. I wasn't meant to be born. My dear husband doesn't like to hear this, but he knows it's how I feel. I'm lucky to have him and I do try to focus on constructive thoughts, but that doesn't mean reality is shiny-happy.

[luvinglife2012]

I am 50 years old and have felt this more than once in my life. I found that if I go for a walk, alone, and just stroll along, thinking whatever comes to mind and do this for about a week I get unstuck.

I call my moments like this phases, or transitions. It's part of life.

[IowaFarmGal]

I feel like I have to finish my tasks before I can go, but I'm done too as far as my life. I'm talking to a wellness coach tomorrow. I hoping he can help me find some joy in life.

[ADDithers]

I am done - at least keeping score if I am productive or not - I don't see being productive matters, all my past efforts seemed so futile. So I try to keep things off my plate and not get bogged down with a schedule.

But ending life? No, life is too short as it is. I'm glad for every day I have. Somehow along the way, I learned how to appreciate small things - like a cup of coffee. For me, I can hardly wait to brew my next cup ---

[Morgansangel]

I'm pretty much the same. Was looking through old diaries recently and noticed I first made mention around 15 that I just wanted 'to go to sleep and wake up when things make sense'. I mention it in different ways quite regularly in my diaries, a want to go to sleep or go into a coma until there is a reason to be or to exist.

[avlady]

I feel hopeless alot of the time too, too secluded where i'm living, but i'm trying to get into a volunteering job with the elderly.

[anneo59]

I can totally relate and totally agree here! Helping someone else can take your mind off yourself and also then make you feel better about yourself, as well as actually providing assistance to someone else in need or who is hurting. Your problems may still be there and you may always be fighting the battle, but for me, and some others, this is an excellent tool for mental health!

[anneo59]

I agree so much here. Though some folks are loners more by nature and sometimes our illnesses/disorders make us seek out this state, we really do need other folks at times. And often, they need us! Sometimes, it's surely a push, I'll admit!

[anneo59]

yes, for some, walking or some type of exercise for non-ambulatory folks is like a super antidepressant, even if you're not prone to physical activity. The hardest part is just getting started, but then it's amazing, that afterwards, at least for a short while, you may feel better. This is one reason I try to exercise regularly, within my physical capabilities. Not just a physical health thing, but has always been vital for my mental health. The best!

[anneo59]

Hope so, too, Iowa Farm Girl. And I want to commend you for trying to manage this, I notice you are active with games and diversions on this board, very important. I thank you for this, myself! I think it's a great tool!