I NEED ADVICE! Sooner the Better.

PC, I Love you all very much so so much ((((PC)))). Right now im doing absolutely terrible. I'm 17 for those who don't know and not only is my depression hurting me mentally but now health and physically too. I'm expericing and have been for a year sleeping problems, and most of all aches and pains in my body, it hurts so bad in my joints I cry. I'm so so stressed right now. My heart is giving me problems and I've researched depression can cause heart disease,attacks, and other heart related things. Guys my parents won't let me go to a hospital, I am dieing, if nothing else in my mind. I want to get checked in and be helped, if my depression continues I will loose my self. I have high cholesterol and I weight only 129 Ib's I'm "under" weight for a male my age, and I feel sick alot, very tired, no appetite....I'm loosing myself. What do I do? I'm underage my parents have to do everything, I don't want to die PC, I want to marry some day and have a daughter,....why is my depression so stubburn......my mind thinks so drastic so complex.......oh my god PC, I feel I'm loosing my own self trust....

Pray for me
Dustin

((((hugs))) I'm glad you came to PC where you can gain support and advice too!

First let me say something most of us with depression already know: depression tells us lies. Try and remember that what you think isn't always what is really the truth.

I'm sorry you feel so desperate. There are good steps you can take to begin to become healthier. There are many good suggestions about sleep, eating well, and taking care of ourselves, all over this site.

Sleep is important, you are right to be concerned. A good routine for bedtime, and good habits (like going to bed at the same time each night, not using the bed for anything but sleep, and making a list of things on your mind before you go to bed) will all help.

It isn't difficult to lower cholesterol through proper eating. I guess you've had a physical recently, because you know your numbers? There are foods that can also help reduce the bad cholesterol, while increasing the good.

Depression is stubborn. It's often from a long history of bad reactions to events in our lives. Not always though. If you had chronic pain prior to the depression, you could be reacting to the pain with that hopelessness too.

Reaching out to others is a good thing you have done here. Do you have a school counselor or someone to confide in?

Thanks for posting back so quick. I feel that many ppl ignore my posts I believe generally its because I think "different" or in a way ppl are scared. I don't belivee I have any "thing" wrong with my heart,body,etc but depression. Depression is doing this to me I promise. I'm tearing up inside and no one seems to care, not in my little world I brush out all the good......I'm so terrible

((((((Dustin))))))

Sky has given a lot of good information, one of the most important: DEPRESSION TELLS US LIES. We perceive things differently while in a state of depression, things that would other wise not bother us.

One of the important things to do is question your self-talk. Here is a link to a very good article about self-talk: The Power of Self-Talk:
http://www.college.ucla.edu/ucadvcon...Restr-talk.doc

Since school is on summer vacation in most areas, and if that is your case, can you try calling a local crisis line for guidance?

Many of us here know how you feel and have either been where you are or are there now. Depression seems to cycle. And many people feel that their posts are "ignored" but that is usually not the case. And remember also, that everyone is different, that's what makes us unique.

SBD

How come no one is answering my most important question? My depression is worsening, I'm suicidal,my parents won't hospitalize me, I have no therapist he moved, if I get a new one it'll take time to set a appointment up.......what the %#@&#! do I do? Pardon the language ..........ehhhh

I'm so sorry...I dont mean any harm or rudness...................WHAT DO I DO............?

hi Moonkin

I am really sorry you're feeling so bad.

There is a reply from me in your other post in Depression.

hugs

Simply put...go to the emergency room...as I said before it doesn't matter if your parents will take you...call a cab...call 911...walk out your front door and walk there if you have to...

And yes depression does lie...

if you have a plan and are suicidal call 911. your parents can't tell them no on that.

Yes, I agree if you are suicidal you need to call 911. Your parents cannot stop you from doing that.

With the sleep, I relate. The best advice I can really give is to get on some sleeping pills temporarily and then while you take them, set up a pattern of being active during the day and sleeping at night. I know that seems easier said than done, but believe me, it is very effective.

Direction and bebop are right on - go to the emergency room. They will assess your danger and I believe at that point it will be out of your parent's hands. I'm assuming you've already gone round with your parents regarding the seriousness of the situation as fully as you are able.

http://psychcentral.com/helpme.htm

((((everyone))))

Moonkin, I know you are new here... but when someone posts like you have recently, it makes many members highly concerned and upset. Please tell us what happened, what you are doing for self care, etc?

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I agree with all others who say you must take steps, including going to an emergency room, even if your parents will not approve.

Moonkin, when I am feeling depression relief, I do not spend much time in the depression area, and I find that posts about depression are too triggering. So that's why I personally have not responded.

Please try to keep in mind that each of us is here for his or her own health. We are of service to others here as much as we can be, but we are not professionals, as on a crisis line, with the one goal of helping others.

Moonkin, you may have missed it in the post, I suggested to call your local crisis line. They will be able to help you. Your parents cannot stop you from gaining the help that you are looking for.

As Sky said, please let us know how you are doing.

What the &*#^% is wrong with your parents??? They are obviously in denial about what is happening with you.

You are old enough now to take control, so do so. Your life is literally on the line in this case, and if your parents are unwilling to acknowledge your problem, then you MUST take the necessary steps yourself.

Unfortunately, having mental / emotional difficulties - even if only temporary - is still such a taboo in our society. No one wants to admit that they or someone they know and love are having difficulties, but ignoring it as your parents are doing, is no help to you and will only cause further distress and possibly deeper problems.

Find the help you need without your parents. Doing so will not only help / save you, it just may wake your parents up to the fact that you are really suffering.

Hi Moonkin,

It sounds like folks have given you various suggestions here, which are all good ones. Another one is contact your regular physician. It sounds like you have one if you know what your cholesterol levels are. You can ask for an appointment given the fact that you are having joint pain and body aches, if you and/or your parents need a reason - tell them you need an appointment right away. Once you see your doctor, you can talk to him or her about your depression. An general physician or internist should be able to see that you get help for your depression if you have no other course of action.

Calling your local crisis line is an option....so is calling 911....if you attend a house of worship, you can speak with your minister or rabbi or worship leader. You also said you saw a therapist previously, and even though you are not in therapy with that person now, you could call that therapist now and say that you are in urgent distress. I suspect they will be able to advise you.

Please take gentle care of yourself - we want you to be safe and get through this difficult time.

Take care,
ErinBear